If you or someone you love is struggling, call or text 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. You are not alone.In honor of Suicide Prevention Month, Blake and Jamie open a tender and courageous conversation about suicide, loneliness, and hope. Blake shares the story of his own suicide attempt as a 17-year-old—the pain, shame, and family struggles that led him there, and the long journey of healing that followed. Together, they discuss the epidemic of loneliness among men, the need for emotional language and safe connection, and the importance of creating spaces where honesty can be met with care instead of shame. This episode is a raw invitation to remember that every life has value and that healing begins with being known.Learn more about Three Percent: 🌐 www.threepercentco.com 📸 Instagram – @threepercentcoTakeawaysSuicide prevention starts long before a crisis—it begins with connection, empathy, and emotional language.Men die by suicide 3.5 times more often than women, often linked to isolation and loneliness.Behind anger, addiction, or performance often lies pain and fear that need to be named.Sharing your “3%” with safe people creates connection that can hold chaos.Compassion for your younger self is a vital part of healing.You are worth the effort it takes to reach out for help.Chapters(00:00) Why This Episode Matters – Suicide Prevention Month(03:00) Blake’s Story: A 17-Year-Old Carrying Too Much(08:00) Shame, Family Pressure, and Coping Through Numbing(12:00) The Night of the Attempt(18:00) What Loneliness Does to the Soul(23:00) Hiding, Shame, and the Story Everyone Believed(28:00) Why Suicide Prevention Starts at Birth(32:00) The Epidemic of Loneliness in Men(36:00) Connection Doesn’t Erase Pain—but Holds It(40:00) A Letter to My 17-Year-Old Self(46:00) Practical Next Steps & Resources for ListenersKeywordsThree Percent, suicide prevention, suicide awareness month, Blake Roberts, depression, shame, loneliness, healing, mental health, men’s mental health, holistic masculinity, trauma, addiction, recovery, vulnerability, faith and mental health, emotional literacy, crisis resources, therapy, compassion, identity, being known, resilience, self-compassion, healing journey
In this special 6-month anniversary episode, Blake and Jamie reflect on the journey so far with Three Percent—the stories, conversations, and friendships that have shaped this space. From the very first interviews to the deep themes of masculinity, emotions, vulnerability, and faith, they revisit what they’ve learned along the way and what has surprised them most. They also share their hopes for the next season of the podcast and the growing Three Percent community. This is a moment to pause, look back with gratitude, and look forward with expectation.Learn more about Three Percent: 🌐 www.threepercentco.com 📸 Instagram – @threepercentcoGiveawaySend us your story for a chance to have a 30-45 minute coaching session with Blake and Jamie.How to enter: Send 2-3 sentences on something you are working through to hello@threepercentco.comTakeawaysHow to enter: Send 2-3 sentences on something you are working through to hello@threepercentco.com Six months of conversations have affirmed the hunger for honest, vulnerable dialogue about masculinity and faith.Guests have given language for emotions and experiences many men didn’t know how to name.Friendship and safe community are central to the healing journey.Healing is not a quick fix—it’s a long, relational process.Vulnerability always invites deeper connection.Gratitude and hope mark the past and the future of Three Percent.Chapters00:00 Celebrating Six Months of Three Percent02:30 How the Podcast Began06:00 Favorite Moments from the First Six Months11:00 What We’ve Learned from Our Guests15:00 Why Friendship Is Central to Healing20:00 Surprises Along the Way24:00 The Tension of Vulnerability and Masculinity29:00 Looking Ahead: Hopes for the Next Six Months34:00 Gratitude for the Community38:00 Closing ThoughtsKeywordsThree Percent, podcast anniversary, masculinity, emotions, faith, vulnerability, friendship, healing, reflection, community, growth, gratitude, holistic masculinity, men’s mental health, personal growth, emotional health, spiritual formation, podcast journey, storytelling, healing through connection
In this soulful and deeply human conversation, author, speaker, and coach Justin McRoberts joins us to explore the sacred tension between calling and rest, ambition and surrender. With humor, honesty, and theological insight, Justin shares the spiritual and emotional journey behind his book In the Low. We discuss fatherhood, friendship, control, and what it means to hold both grief and joy with open hands. If you’ve ever wrestled with doing enough or being enough, this episode is an invitation back to groundedness, belovedness, and the long road of faithful presence.Check out more of Justin McRoberts: 🌐 Website – www.justinmcroberts.com 📸 Instagram – @justinmcroberts 📚 Book – In The LowLearn more about Three Percent: 🌐 www.threepercentco.comTakeawaysYour “calling” doesn’t have to be heavy—it can be playful and sacred.Ambition without rest leads to burnout and bitterness.Slowing down often feels like failure in a productivity-obsessed world.God’s invitation is not just to work for Him, but to be with Him.Real rest means learning to release control.Friendships that hold both celebration and grief are vital to resilience.There is no sacred calling without sacred rest.Chapters00:00 Welcome & Meet Justin McRoberts03:30 What Is In The Low All About?06:00 Ambition, Surrender, and the Space Between10:20 Calling as a Form of Relationship13:40 Relearning the Pace of Love and Grace16:00 Burnout, Shame, and Being "Too Much"19:30 Parenting, Grief, and the Myth of Control24:00 What He Learned From Deep Friendships28:00 Masculinity and the Pressure to Perform31:00 God’s Invitation to Rest and Trust35:00 Questions That Help You Stay Human39:00 Where to Find Justin OnlineKeywordsJustin McRoberts, Three Percent, Sacred Strides, calling, rest, surrender, ambition, masculinity, Christian leadership, burnout, spiritual formation, work-life balance, grief, friendship, control, parenting, vulnerability, emotional health, faith and productivity, theological reflection, presence, fatherhood, resilience, healing, belovedness, performance pressure, letting go
In this soul-shaking episode, we sit down with therapist, trauma practitioner, and spiritual leader Rachel Clinton Chen to explore the sacred, painful, and courageous work of healing. Rachel guides us into the realities of trauma, powerlessness, spiritual abuse, and what it takes to become whole. We talk about the cost of integrity, the betrayal of our bodies, and the profound invitation to let lament and grief become doorways to hope. With honesty, wisdom, and fierce gentleness, Rachel names what so many are afraid to say aloud—and calls us to be people of truth and love in the face of harm.TakeawaysTrauma is not just what happens to you—it’s what you carry when you’re alone in it.Integrity has a cost, especially in spiritually abusive systems.Grief is not the end of the story—it’s the beginning of embodied hope.Healing often begins with naming what is true, even when it’s disruptive.Your body keeps the score, but it can also be the site of redemption.We need language, witness, and safety to metabolize harm.When we stop trying to hold everything together, we begin to heal.Check out more of Rachel Clinton Chen: 🌐 The Allender Center 📸 Instagram – @rachelclintonchen 🎙 Podcast – The Allender Center PodcastLearn more about Three Percent: 🌐 www.threepercentco.comChapters(00:00) Meet Rachel Clinton Chen (04:00) Powerlessness and the Language of Trauma (07:30) What Spiritual Abuse Steals from the Soul (12:00) The Cost of Integrity in Religious Systems (15:30) The Body Knows What the Mind Tries to Hide (19:00) Naming the Truth and Being Witnessed (22:30) What Is Lament and Why Does It Matter? (26:00) Becoming People Who Can Grieve and Hold Hope (29:00) From Dissociation to Embodiment (34:00) Holding Complexity in a Black-and-White World (38:00) Rachel’s Own Healing and Leadership Journey (41:00) Why She Still Believes in the Church (46:00) A Word for the Tender and Tired Listener (49:00) Where to Find Rachel and Her WorkKeywordsRachel Clinton Chen, Three Percent, trauma healing, spiritual abuse, integrity, grief, lament, The Allender Center, Dan Allender, embodiment, Christian trauma, spiritual formation, emotional health, mental health, religious harm, narrative healing, counseling, black-and-white thinking, abuse recovery, faith and pain, hope, integrity, safety, truth-telling, nervous system, therapeutic practices, power and vulnerability, shame and resilience, holistic masculinity, tenderness, church healing
SummaryIn this deeply personal episode, Jamie and Blake step away from interviews to reflect on one of the most important and tender questions they ask as therapists and friends: What’s the point in changing? Recorded during a 3% planning retreat, they share the raw stories of their own healing journeys—from addiction, numbness, and rage to freedom, connection, and hope. Whether you’re seeking freedom from a behavior or freedom for deeper relationships, this episode offers both encouragement and honesty for anyone in process.Mentioned ResourcesChip Dodd’s Feelings Chart: https://www.chipdodd.com/free-resources-downloadJay Stringer’s book Unwanted: https://jay-stringer.com/book/The Voice of the Heart by Chip Dodd: https://www.chipdodd.com/booksTakeawaysThere’s often no clear “start” to change—just the next honest step.External motivations (like a spouse or relationship) can be valid entry points.Deep transformation comes when we realize we need to change for ourselves.We are not our behaviors—shame grows when we enmesh identity with struggle.Empathy often has to be relearned—and it starts with how we talk to ourselves.Change is not linear, and recovery is a lifelong journey.You're worth the work it takes to be known, healed, and free.Chapters (00:00) Welcome from the Cabin (02:32) What Motivates Change? (04:50) Motivational Interviewing & Counseling Insights (06:44) Blake’s Story: Hitting a Wall (10:10) Changing for a Relationship (13:00) You Are Not the Problem (16:20) Freedom From vs. Freedom For (18:00) Jamie’s Story: Numbness and Rage (22:10) The Role of Porn in Emotional Numbing (24:55) Shifting Motivation Over Time (26:20) Healing as Ongoing Work (29:00) The Little Boy Inside Who Still Wants to Hide (32:30) Parenting Yourself with Compassion (35:10) Why Progress Feels Like a Circle (37:00) Change for You, Not Just Them (39:00) You’re Worth ItKeywords therapy, change, healing, recovery, shame, emotional health, addiction, porn recovery, motivation, empathy, rage, fatherhood, masculinity, self-awareness, spiritual formation, honesty, holistic masculinity, personal growth, identity, trauma, freedom, Jay Stringer, Chip Dodd, Voice of the Heart, emotional literacy
In this episode, we welcome therapist, writer, and podcast host Blake Blankenbecler into a powerful conversation about emotional language, body awareness, and the harm of emotional outsourcing. Blake unpacks why many men struggle to name their inner world and what it takes to reclaim curiosity, tenderness, and truth. Together, we talk about the nervous system, faith deconstruction, co-regulation, and why presence is the most healing thing we offer one another. This episode will meet you where you are and gently invite you further in.Takeaways“If I can’t be with it, I can’t heal it.” Naming precedes healing.Outsourcing your emotions to others is common—but it can become harmful.Co-regulation is foundational to emotional safety in relationships.Curiosity helps us approach our pain instead of controlling it.The nervous system needs safety to tell the truth.You can’t think your way into healing—your body has to believe it too.Presence is the most healing gift we can offer in a hurting world.Emotionally safe men are formed, not found.Check out more of Blake Blankenbecler: 🌐 Website – blakeblankenbecler.com 📸 Instagram – @blakeblankenbecler The Friendship Deck: thefriendshipdeck.comLearn more about Three Percent: 🌐 www.threepercentco.comChapters(00:00) Meet Blake Blankenbecler – Therapist(03:00) Language for the Inner Life(06:00) What is Emotional Outsourcing?(10:00) The Power of Co-Regulation(14:00) Why Men Struggle to Name Emotions(18:00) Body-Based Healing and the Nervous System(22:00) From Christian Duty to Emotional Honesty(26:00) How Curiosity Changes the Healing Process(30:00) Practicing Emotional Responsibility(33:00) The Lie of Being Too Much(36:00) Faith, Attachment, and Embodied Safety(41:00) Relationships as the Place of Repair(45:00) Where to Find Blake OnlineKeywordsBlake Blankenbecler, Three Percent, emotional health, holistic masculinity, co-regulation, emotional outsourcing, nervous system healing, trauma recovery, therapy, men’s emotions, inner work, Christian deconstruction, embodiment, faith and healing, presence, emotional literacy, emotional responsibility, relationships, healing through connection, curiosity, somatic healing, mental health, attachment, tenderness, emotional safety
In this episode, hosts Blake and Jamie dive into the emotional lives of men—what we feel, what we’ve been taught to suppress, and what it might look like to live more honestly. They explore how fear, shame, and sadness often hide beneath anger, and why many men are disconnected from their bodies, relationships, and even themselves. From childhood messages to faith, parenting, and emotional repair, this conversation is vulnerable, practical, and full of grace. Whether you’re just beginning to name your emotions or walking others through healing, this episode offers language, insight, and permission to feel.TakeawaysAnger is often the visible emotion masking fear, shame, or sadness.Most men are taught to intellectualize or avoid emotions entirely.Emotional fluency begins with naming what’s actually happening inside.We often fear our emotions will make us weak—but vulnerability leads to strength.The body holds emotional wisdom many of us were never taught to trust.Emotional repair is possible in relationships when we lead with honesty.Faith, theology, and masculinity all shape how we relate to our emotions.Safety and curiosity are the prerequisites for emotional healing.ResourcesChip Dodd Emotions Chart: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/62e2d6c397d6ff1fd356ed8f/t/632cbee0b6a9703239cd018f/1725475063690/8+Feelings.pdf Learn more about Three Percent: 🌐 www.threepercentco.com 📸 Instagram – @threepercentcoChapters(00:00) Welcome to the Emotions Episode(03:00) Why Talk About Emotions?(06:00) Men and the Fear of Feeling(09:00) What We Learned Growing Up About Emotions(12:00) Anger, Sadness, Shame—What’s Really Underneath?(16:00) Why Men Disconnect From the Body(20:00) Faith and Emotional Formation(25:00) Emotional Literacy in Parenting(28:00) When You Feel Unsafe in Relationship(32:00) The Power of Curiosity and Naming Emotions(36:00) Repair, Vulnerability, and Starting Again(40:00) Final Thoughts on Living Fully AliveKeywordsThree Percent, masculinity, emotions, emotional health, anger, fear, shame, sadness, vulnerability, holistic masculinity, emotional literacy, fatherhood, parenting, emotional intelligence, Christian men, faith and emotions, childhood wounds, trauma, inner work, embodiment, safety, repair, naming emotions, identity, integrity, spiritual formation, relationship dynamics
In this honest and redemptive episode, we talk with Young Woong Yi—pastor, church planter, and spiritual formation leader—about anger, masculinity, and becoming a safe man. Young shares how growing up in an immigrant household shaped his relationship with emotions, and how repressed sadness and generational patterns of power led to a breaking point in his marriage. He opens up about the life-saving intervention of his church, the deep healing that followed, and what it means to cultivate emotional safety in leadership, relationships, and spiritual formation. This episode is a masterclass in transformation, humility, and the long road to becoming whole.Takeaways“An emotionally volatile man is not a safe man.”Repressed anger often masks deeper emotions like sadness, fear, or shame.Emotional safety is a core component of holistic masculinity.The church can be a place of healing when leaders respond with grace.We often say to our spouse what we never got to say to our parents.Healing begins with language, awareness, and the courage to ask for help.Anger’s gift is advocacy—but only when processed with honesty and care.Spiritual formation must address emotional and mental health, not just theology.Check out more of Young Yi: 📸 Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/brotheryoung/Substack: https://substack.com/@brotheryoung 🌐 Church Plant – https://www.instagram.com/kindredchurchmi/Learn more about Three Percent: 🌐 https://threepercentco.com/Chapters(00:00) Meet Young Yi – Pastor, Photographer, Church Planter(02:00) Blake’s Story: Anger Repression and Performance(04:30) A Relationship with Anger?(07:00) Emotional Abuse, Immigrant Parenting, and Powering Up(10:00) Learning How to Win Through Anger(13:00) From Veterinary School to Ministry(16:00) Marriage as a Mirror: Anger Exposed(18:00) “You’re Bullying Me”: The Catalyst for Change(20:00) Church Leadership Responds with Grace(23:00) Six Months of Paid Leave and Intense Therapy(26:00) What Changed Young’s View of Masculinity(29:00) Anger Isn’t Always Justified Action(32:00) The Anger Iceberg & Sadness Beneath the Surface(35:00) Generational Messaging: “Men Don’t Cry”(38:00) Learning to Say: “That Made Me Really Sad”(41:00) Advocating for the Child Within(45:00) How Anger Impacts Spiritual Formation(49:00) Church Culture, Jesus, and Emotional Health(52:00) Final Encouragement to Men: Ask for Help(54:00) Where to Find Young & Kindred ChurchKeywordsYoung Yi, Three Percent, holistic masculinity, anger, emotional safety, immigrant family, Korean American, spiritual formation, church hurt, inner child, marriage counseling, masculinity and emotions, mental health in ministry, vulnerability, leadership, discipleship, shame, sadness, advocacy, safe men, healing, therapy, pastoral care, emotional intelligence, Kindred Church, genogram, Pete Scazzero, Voice of the Heart, Rich Villodas, Chip Dodd, Christian men, identity formation, marriage restoration
In this episode, we sit down with writer, editor, and host of The Writer’s Circle podcast, Will Parker Anderson. Will opens up about the intersection of storytelling and vulnerability, holistic masculinity modeled by Jesus, and why real writing—and real life—requires full presence. From discussing confession and shame to the importance of being known in community, this conversation offers wisdom for anyone seeking healing, depth, and the courage to be honest. Will’s pastoral insight and personal honesty will challenge and comfort you.TakeawaysThe best writing is the overflow of honest living.Holistic masculinity is modeled by Jesus—servanthood over dominance.We can’t be fully known by God if we hide from people.Vulnerability isn’t an event—it’s a habit of letting light in.Confession is painful but leads to soul-level relief and formation.Mentorship and trusted community are vital for healing.Truth-telling opens the door to connection and transformation.Check out more of Will Parker Anderson: 🌐 Website – writerscircle.co 🎙️ Podcast – The Writer’s CircleLearn more about Three Percent: 🌐 www.threepercentco.comChapters(00:00) Meet Will Parker Anderson (02:00) Writing as Overflow of Living (04:30) Holistic Masculinity as Servanthood (09:00) Vulnerability in Storytelling and Relationships (14:00) Why Men Struggle to Tell the Truth (18:00) You Can’t Be Known By God Without Being Known By Others (22:00) Healing from Hurt Happens in Relationship (26:00) The Poison and the Cure Grow Side-by-Side (30:00) Will’s Story of Confession and Grace (36:00) The Risk of Vulnerability (41:00) What Gets Affirmed Gets Repeated (45:00) Neurobiology of Being Seen and Known (50:00) Mentorship and Gentle Discipleship (54:00) Where to Find Will and Writer’s CircleKeywordsWill Parker Anderson, Three Percent, writing and vulnerability, storytelling, holistic masculinity, servanthood, confession, shame, grace, recovery, writer’s circle, Penguin Random House, Substack, emotional intelligence, community, mentorship, being known, faith and healing, honesty, Jesus, fatherhood, integrity, spiritual formation, trauma recovery, mental health, deconstruction, masculinity and faith, relational healing, writing process
In this powerful episode, we sit down with former NFL player and West Point graduate Caleb Campbell to explore his journey from performance-driven success to soul-level healing. Caleb shares how the pressure to be “America’s Athlete” led to emotional collapse—and ultimately, a profound spiritual transformation. Now a speaker and coach, Caleb helps others navigate “threshold moments” where letting go becomes the doorway to becoming more whole. We talk about masculinity, grief, addiction, expansion, and why every death can be a doorway to deeper life. This is not just a conversation—it’s a call to wholeness.TakeawaysHolistic masculinity is less about control and more about presence and emotional safety.Every expansion in life requires a letting go of what no longer serves us.We can’t criticize ourselves into healing—only compassion transforms us.Our greatest transformations often come through grief and ambiguity.External success without internal capacity leads to burnout and collapse.Spiritual growth means returning to what’s always been true: you are already held.Check out more of Caleb Campbell: 🌐 Website – www.calebcampbell.me 📸 Instagram – @caleb_campbellLearn more about Three Percent: 🌐 www.threepercentco.comChapters(00:00) Meeting Caleb Campbell – Athlete, Speaker, Threshold Guide(05:00) What is Holistic Masculinity?(09:00) Disconnection, Performance, and the Wounded Masculine(12:00) NFL Dreams & The Crisis of Identity(18:00) From NFL to Janitor: The Journey of Letting Go(21:00) Discovering Creativity and Storytelling(23:00) A $10,000 Gift & the Call to Keep Telling His Story(27:00) The Role of Grief in Spiritual Expansion(30:00) Ambiguous Grief & Redefining Loss(33:00) Trusting the Darkness as an Invitation(36:00) Choosing the Death That Makes You Bigger(40:00) Living with Original Knowing – You Are Already Held(45:00) Welcoming Home the Loyal Soldiers Within(48:00) Exvangelical Identity & Deconstructing with Compassion(53:00) Caleb’s Upcoming Book & Coaching Work(58:00) Final Reflections on Expansion, Soul Work, and Christ ConsciousnessKeywordsCaleb Campbell, Three Percent, holistic masculinity, grief, expansion, NFL, identity, soul work, spiritual formation, healing, threshold, emotional safety, original knowing, addiction recovery, exvangelical, compassion, personal growth, transformation, deconstruction, presence, wounded masculine, coaching, wholeness, self-awareness, leadership and well-being, emotional healing, men’s work, letting go, faith journey, Richard Rohr, Francis Weller, mysticism, spiritual awakening
In this episode, we talk with Ben Cremer—pastor, writer, and author of Into the Gray—about masculinity, humility, binary thinking, and the deep spiritual cost of choosing power over people. Ben opens up about his painful exit from denominational ministry, how his upbringing in Idaho shaped his faith, and why Jesus' model of strength challenges the dominant cultural narratives of manhood. We explore themes of empathy, nonviolence, spiritual formation, and the courage it takes to be curious and kind in polarized spaces. This conversation is a garden of nuance, honesty, and healing.TakeawaysHolistic masculinity looks like Jesus—not dominance, but humility and presence.Proximity breeds empathy; curiosity breeds compassion.We often choose power over love when fear leads our thinking.The Christian path is about cultivation, not conquest.Humility opens the door to transformation and healing.The incarnation shows us God’s way is relationship, not rigid belief.Repair is more important than rupture; we’re called to be Jesus’ hands, not the Savior.Check out more of Ben Cremer: Instagram – @brcremer Newsletter – Into the GrayBen's WebsiteSubstackXLearn more about Three Percent: 🌐 www.threepercentco.comChapters(00:00) Introduction to Ben Cremer(02:10) Life, Family, and Ministry Roots in Idaho(07:00) Shifts in Denominational Alignment(12:00) Being Pushed Out of the Church You Love(15:00) What is Holistic Masculinity?(20:00) David, Strength, and God’s Rebuke through Nathan(23:00) Gardening vs. Gladiators – Chuck DeGroat's Reflection(26:00) Resurrection and the Garden Metaphor(29:00) Why Don’t We Get It? Power, Fear, and Control(34:00) The Power of Incarnation(37:00) Binary Thinking and the Cost of Certainty(43:00) Online Pastoral Ministry and Personal Boundaries(47:00) Humility in the Face of Misunderstanding(49:00) Final Reflections & Where to Find BenKeywordsBen Cremer, Three Percent, holistic masculinity, Into the Gray, Idaho, spiritual formation, Christian culture, emotional intelligence, binary thinking, fear and power, online ministry, pastoral pain, incarnation, gospel, humility, empathy, compassion, vulnerability, deconstruction, mental health, church hurt, curiosity, Jesus, masculinity, David and Nathan, spiritual growth, gardening metaphor, Chuck DeGroat, discipleship
In this episode, we engage in a deep conversation with Marc Typo about the complexities of fatherhood, masculinity, and emotional expression. We explore the challenges of raising children in a world that often stigmatizes vulnerability, particularly for men. Marc shares his experiences as a father and writer, emphasizing the importance of creating safe spaces for emotional expression and the need for holistic masculinity that embraces both strength and vulnerability. The discussion highlights the impact of upbringing on emotional regulation and the desire to break generational cycles of toxic masculinity.TakeawaysWriting about fatherhood helps Marc maintain focus on gratitude.We are born soft and emotional.It's important to model safety for our children.The lighthouse analogy reflects our role as parents.We need to allow men to be fragile and soft.Creating safe spaces for emotional expression is crucial.Check out more of Marc Typo:Website - https://www.raisingmyles.com/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/marc.typoLearn more about Three Percent: www.threepercentco.comChapters00:00 Exploring Holistic Masculinity07:39 The Journey of Fatherhood12:48 Navigating Emotions and Vulnerability18:50 Selflessness in Parenting20:34 Navigating Fatherhood and Self-Reflection22:43 Confronting Internal Narratives23:59 Emotional Expression in Parenting26:44 Creating Safe Spaces for Children29:57 The Lighthouse Analogy in Parenting32:38 Understanding Softness and Strength36:33 The Journey Back to Emotional Authenticity41:10 Maintaining Safety Amidst TurbulenceKeywordsfatherhood, masculinity, vulnerability, emotional expression, parenting, holistic masculinity, self-awareness, emotional safety, black fatherhood, personal growth, marriage, emotional connection, shame, spirituality, Christian culture, identity, emotional health, integrity, healing, mental health, empathy, childhood experiences, self-compassion, self-contempt, recovery, holistic healing
In this episode, the hosts engage in a deep conversation with Sheila Wray Gregoire about the complexities of masculinity, vulnerability, and the challenges within marriage. They explore the impact of traditional teachings on relationships, the importance of emotional connection, and the mental load often carried by women. Sheila shares insights from her research on sexual satisfaction and the need for open communication in marriages. The discussion emphasizes the significance of creating safety in relationships and how positive changes can ripple through various aspects of a couple's life together.TakeawaysHealthy masculinity involves taking initiative to care for others.Vulnerability is essential for deeper connections in relationships.Research shows that traditional marriage teachings can harm both men and women.Emotional connection is crucial for marital satisfaction.Men often carry shame that affects their relationships.The mental load in marriages often falls disproportionately on women.Improving one aspect of a relationship can positively impact others.Communication about sex is often hindered by societal teachings.Creating safety in relationships allows for open conversations.Couples should work as partners to share responsibilities.Check out more of Sheila Wray Gregoire:Website - https://sheilawraygregoire.com/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sheilagregoire/Bare Marriage Podcast - https://www.buzzsprout.com/242918Learn more about Three Percent: www.threepercentco.comChapters00:00 Defining Healthy Masculinity06:09 Sheila's Journey into Marriage and Sex Education09:32 Research Findings on Marriage and Sexual Satisfaction12:18 Challenging Evangelical Teachings15:14 The Impact of Cultural Narratives on Relationships18:22 Addressing Shame and Responsibility in Men21:09 Navigating Sexuality and Intimacy24:24 The Role of Communication in Healthy Relationships27:24 Concluding Thoughts and Future Directions33:40 Understanding Marriage as a Partnership34:47 The Importance of Emotional Connection37:23 Mental Load and Housework Dynamics41:05 The Unseen Burden of Kin Keeping47:34 The Unfairness Threshold in Marriages49:25 Creating Smooth Roads in Relationships54:02 Navigating Shame and Vulnerability59:34 The Ripple Effect of ConnectionKeywordsmasculinity, vulnerability, marriage, emotional connection, sexual satisfaction, gender roles, communication, shame, mental load, relationships, spirituality, Christian culture, identity, emotional health, integrity, healing, mental health, empathy, grief, emotional health, mental health resources, holistic masculinity, vulnerability, fatherhood, childhood experiences, self-compassion, shame, self-contempt, recovery, emotional safety, holistic healing
In this episode, Brian Lee discusses the often-overlooked topic of spiritual abuse and its profound impact on individuals' lives. He shares his journey from being a pastor to creating the nonprofit Broken to Beloved, which aims to support survivors of spiritual abuse. The conversation delves into the definition of holistic masculinity, the importance of safety and trust in relationships, and the healing process that involves recognizing one's story and integrating all parts of oneself. Brian emphasizes the need for community support and grace in the journey of recovery, ultimately leading to a deeper understanding of faith and belonging.TakeawaysHolistic masculinity means integrating all parts of oneself.Spiritual abuse uses God's words to dehumanize individuals.Healing requires recognizing and naming trauma.Safety in relationships is foundational for trust.The journey of healing is often long and complex.Community support is vital for recovery from spiritual abuse.Understanding one's story is crucial for healing.Grace and compassion towards oneself are essential.The hierarchy of belovedness includes safety, connection, trust, vulnerability, and intimacy.Healing from spiritual abuse can lead to a deeper understanding of faith.Check out more of Broken to Beloved:Website - https://www.brokentobeloved.org/Donate - https://www.brokentobeloved.org/supportInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/brokentobelovedSubstack - https://brokentobeloved.substack.com/Broken to Beloved Podcast - https://open.spotify.com/show/2RcmVVeoNVuaZ7VT37YKrc?si=38911bd34a8a48e0Chapters00:00 Brian's Background and Journey04:35 Understanding Spiritual Abuse07:26 The Impact of Spiritual Abuse10:19 Cultural and Racial Influences13:35 The Importance of Storytelling16:21 The Hierarchy of Belovedness26:56 Building Trust Through Vulnerability31:16 Understanding Safety and Self-Regulation37:14 The Connection Between Body Awareness and Safety43:30 Navigating Faith and Safety in Church Spaces46:56 Finding Safety in Curiosity and Healing52:30 The Journey from Brokenness to BelovedKeywordsmasculinity, spirituality, Christian culture, identity, emotional health, storytelling, friendship, integrity, healing, mental health, empathy, grief, emotional health, community support, mental health resources, holistic masculinity, vulnerability, embodiment, fatherhood, childhood experiences, inner child, self-compassion, shame, self-contempt, workshops, mental health, spiritual abuse, trauma, community support, faith, recovery, emotional safety, holistic healing
In this episode, we engage in a deep conversation with Dr. Andrew Bauman about holistic masculinity, vulnerability, and the importance of self-compassion. We explore the impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior, the significance of engaging with one's inner child, and the role of embodiment in therapy. The discussion also touches on the challenges of fatherhood, navigating shame, and the necessity of truth in relationships. The episode concludes with insights into workshops and resources available for men seeking healing and integration.TakeawaysHolistic masculinity involves embracing vulnerability and healing.Self-compassion is essential in overcoming shame and self-contempt.Childhood experiences significantly shape adult behavior and relationships.Embodiment practices can enhance therapeutic experiences.Navigating fatherhood requires awareness of one's own wounds.Truth-telling is a powerful tool for liberation and healing.Workshops can provide valuable resources for men seeking support.The journey of healing is ongoing and requires commitment.Creating safe spaces for men to express emotions is vital.Check out more of Dr. Andrew Bauman:Website - https://andrewjbauman.com/Intensive Workshops - https://christiancc.org/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/drandrewjbauman/Chapters08:36 Dr. Andrew Bauman's Journey11:46 The Impact of Family Dynamics14:25 Engaging with Grief and Loss17:44 The Importance of Male Embodiment20:30 Somatic Exercises for Healing23:31 Integrating the Inner Child26:22 The Role of Truth in Healing29:33 Workshops and Resources for Men32:36 Closing Thoughts and Future Conversations45:22 Exploring Vulnerability and HealingKeywordsmasculinity, spirituality, social justice, teaching, creativity, Christian culture, identity, emotional health, storytelling, friendship, integrity, healing, mental health, empathy, grief, emotional health, community support, mental health resources, holistic masculinity, vulnerability, embodiment, fatherhood, childhood experiences, inner child, self-compassion, shame, self-contempt, workshops, mental health
In this episode, Zachariah Thompson, founder of Scatter Joy, shares his journey of creating a mental health nonprofit aimed at making mental health resources accessible and affordable. The conversation delves into personal struggles with mental health, the impact of grief, and the importance of empathy in fostering emotional health. The hosts discuss the mission of Scatter Joy, the significance of community support, and how individuals can get involved to help others while also taking care of their own mental health.TakeawaysScatter Joy aims to make mental health resources accessible.Mental health is a continuous journey, not a one-time fix.Grief plays a significant role in mental health struggles.Empathy is essential for personal and communal healing.The repair of relationships is more important than the rupture.Creating a supportive community is vital for mental health.Men often struggle with expressing emotions and vulnerability.Storytelling can enhance empathy and understanding.Joy can be a form of resistance against mental health stigma.Engaging with meaningful stories can improve empathy.Check out Scatter Joy:Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thescatterjoyproject/Website - https://thescatterjoyproject.com/Chapters00:00 Zach's Personal Journey with Mental Health04:23 The Impact of Grief on Mental Health07:04 Understanding Mental Health as a Lifelong Journey09:49 The Role of Fear and Emotional Awareness12:41 Reparenting Through Fatherhood15:18 The Importance of Repairing Relationships18:06 The Meaning Behind Scatter Joy26:25 The Journey of Scatter Joy31:45 Personal Growth Through Diverse Experiences36:51 Breaking Barriers in Mental Health42:37 The Power of Scattering Joy49:17 Empathy as a Tool for Mental Health53:43 Supporting and Being Supported by Scatter JoyKeywordsmasculinity, spirituality, social justice, teaching, creativity, entrepreneurship, Christian culture, identity, emotional health, storytelling, friendship, integrity, healing, mental health, empathy, Scatter Joy, grief, emotional health, community support, mental health resources, storytelling, joy
In this engaging conversation, Propaganda, a multifaceted artist, discusses his journey through music, coffee culture, and the complexities of masculinity and spirituality. He reflects on his influences in hip-hop, the challenges of entrepreneurship, and the importance of teaching and community. The dialogue explores how personal experiences shape artistic expression and the significance of accessing prior knowledge in learning and growth. In this conversation, we delve into the complexities of masculinity, the challenges of navigating the Christian music industry, and the importance of engaging with one's pain to foster personal growth. We explore the impact of societal expectations on male identity, the significance of storytelling in understanding oneself, and the need for emotional expression. The discussion highlights the journey of self-discovery and the role of music as a medium for exploring these themes.TakeawaysPropaganda discusses the evolution of hip-hop and its social consciousness.Teaching is a core aspect of his identity and artistry.He believes in accessing prior knowledge to enhance learning.The conversation touches on the complexities of masculinity in today's world.Propaganda's new music explores themes of masculinity and spirituality.Understanding what masculinity is not can clarify what it is.Engaging with pain is essential for personal growth.Emotional expression is often limited by societal norms.Stories shape our understanding of masculinity.Language can be a powerful tool for healing.Check out Propaganda:Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/prophiphop/?hl=enYouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCS_bhmcf4VbuoU6eX-0fzAgSpotify - https://open.spotify.com/artist/7wGizTRCLYwsLnTuCBbJ6t?si=-ANPwqzxTd6Smb867HkjewHood Politics - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hood-politics-with-prop/id1493858530Website - https://www.prophiphop.com/Chapters01:48 Meet Propaganda: The Artist and His Journey05:40 Passion for Coffee and Community07:49 The Hustle of Entrepreneurship12:32 The Evolution of Hip-Hop and Personal Influence17:47 Teaching as a Core Gift21:36 Accessing Prior Knowledge in Learning26:03 Exploring Masculinity Through Music27:03 The Creative Process Behind New Music31:51 The Bench: A Year of Reflection32:49 Exploring Masculinity Through Music33:51 Navigating the Christian Music Landscape35:03 Friendship and Integrity in the Music Industry37:01 Political Engagement and Identity39:22 Defining Masculinity: What It Is and Isn't40:46 Engaging with Pain to Understand Manhood43:07 The Crayon Box of Emotions47:08 The Impact of Stories on Masculinity51:03 Holistic Masculinity: Anger and Self-Reflection55:07 The Power of Language in HealingKeywordsPropaganda, hip-hop, masculinity, spirituality, coffee culture, social justice, teaching, creativity, entrepreneurship, music, masculinity, music, Christian culture, identity, emotional health, storytelling, political engagement, friendship, integrity, healing
In this conversation, we talk to filmmaker Eric Floberg and explore the challenges of balancing parenthood and work, the importance of authenticity in creative endeavors, and the role of vulnerability in storytelling. Eric shares his journey as a filmmaker and runner, emphasizing the need for intentionality in both personal and professional life. We discuss how running serves as a metaphor for life, highlighting the mental benefits and discipline it brings. The conversation also touches on the impact of community in running and the evolution of Eric's creative career, ultimately questioning the purpose and intent behind creative work. In this conversation, we explore the intricate balance between personal relationships and the discipline required in both running and life. We discuss the importance of prioritizing relationships, the compounding effects of consistent effort, and the necessity of embracing the process rather than focusing solely on outcomes. The dialogue also touches on the significance of community, collaboration, and emotional intelligence in navigating life's challenges, particularly in the context of masculinity and personal growth.TakeawaysParenthood often requires a delicate balance with work.Creativity thrives on authenticity and vulnerability.Vulnerability can lead to deeper connections in creative work.Finding purpose in creative endeavors is essential for fulfillment.Fatherhood can significantly influence personal growth and perspective.Running serves as a powerful metaphor for life's challenges.The process of creating is often more important than the outcome.Building a supportive community enhances creative work.Navigating relationships in a creative environment can be complex.Emotional awareness is crucial in collaborative settings.Check out Eric’s YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@EricFlobergJoin Eric’s Running Channel and Community: https://www.youtube.com/@flobergrunsFollow Eric on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eric.floberg/?hl=enChapters00:00 The Role of Authenticity in Creative Work04:00 Exploring the Creative Journey06:58 The Importance of Vulnerability in Storytelling10:06 Running as a Metaphor for Life13:02 The Impact of Community in Running16:01 Questioning Purpose and Intent in Creativity18:56 The Evolution of Eric's Creative Career22:06 Rediscovering Joy in Running25:07 Discipline and Its Broader Implications27:58 Prioritizing Relationships Over Tasks31:02 The Long Game: Consistency in Relationships33:51 Finding Joy in the Process35:00 The Importance of Consistency35:45 Embracing the Process of Growth36:55 The Euphoria of Achievement37:56 Resilience in Relationships38:57 The Complexity of Collaboration40:01 Building Community and Connection41:01 The 3% Principle in RelationshipsKeywordsparenthood, work-life balance, authenticity, creativity, vulnerability, storytelling, running, community, purpose, discipline, relationships, masculinity, grit, consistency, personal growth, community, collaboration, emotional intelligence, domestic life, running
In this episode of the 3% Podcast, hosts Jamie Haigh and Blake Roberts engage in a deep conversation with David Thomas, co-executive director of Daystar Counseling and co-author of 11 books, including ‘Raising Emotionally Strong Boys: Tools Your Son can Build on for Life,’ and the best-selling ‘Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys.’ The discussion revolves around the importance of vulnerability and honesty in parenting, the challenges parents face in today's world, and the significance of modeling emotional regulation for children. David shares insights from his new children's book, which aims to teach resilience and emotional understanding through the story of a therapy dog. The conversation emphasizes the need for parents to reflect on their own stories and the impact of their parenting on future generations.TakeawaysVulnerability and honesty are crucial in parenting.Parents should trust their instincts amidst overwhelming information.Modeling emotional regulation is essential for children.Apologizing to children can strengthen relationships.Children's books can convey complex emotional themes simply.Therapy dogs can play a significant role in emotional healing.Building resilience in children starts with acknowledging fear.Parenting is about cleaning up our side of the street.Understanding one's own story is vital for effective parenting.Check out Daystar Counseling: https://www.daystarcounseling.com/Pre-order David and Sissy’s new books: https://www.raisingboysandgirls.com/shopListen to Raising Boys and Girls: https://www.raisingboysandgirls.com/Follow David on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisingboysandgirls/Chapters00:00 Introduction to David Thomas and Daystar Counseling05:30 The Importance of Vulnerability and Honesty in Parenting08:33 Navigating Emotional Development and Parenting Challenges11:19 The Role of Apologies and Self-Regulation in Parenting14:35 Introducing the New Children's Book and Its Themes17:28 The Story Behind the Therapy Dog and Its Impact20:31 Building Resilience and Courage in Children23:33 The Mission of the Children's Book and Its Emotional Tools29:53 Courage in Overcoming Fear31:36 Empathy and Resilience in Parenting34:49 The Impact of Family Stories36:54 Transforming Pain into Growth39:50 The Importance of Acknowledging Harm44:28 Generational Impact of Parenting47:23 Cleaning Up Our Side of the Street53:44 The Legacy of Good ParentingKeywordsparenting, emotional development, vulnerability, honesty, resilience, children's books, therapy dogs, David Thomas, Daystar Counseling, raising boys, parenting, resilience, courage, empathy, family stories, growth, vulnerability, generational impact, self-awareness, emotional health
In this conversation, we explore the intersection of therapy, masculinity, and personal growth with Sam Eldredge. Sam shares insights from his background, discussing how his upbringing influenced his approach to emotional intelligence and healing. The discussion delves into the concept of Noble Workshops, a unique experiential therapy program designed to help individuals engage with their personal stories and foster deeper connections with themselves and others. Throughout the conversation, the importance of storytelling, vulnerability, and beauty in the healing process is emphasized, inviting listeners to reflect on their own journeys. We delve into the themes of nostalgia, healing, and the importance of curiosity in understanding our emotions. We also explore how past experiences shape our present feelings and the significance of connecting with our inner child. The discussion emphasizes the need for kindness, courage, and curiosity in the healing process, as well as the role of vulnerability in forming genuine connections. We also want listeners to check out Noble Workshops as a resource for those seeking deeper emotional work and community support.TakeawaysThe importance of pursuing holistic masculinity in today's world.Noble Workshops provide a space for deep emotional healing.Curiosity is essential in understanding our own stories.Vulnerability allows for genuine connections with others.Engaging with our inner child can lead to profound insights.Progress in personal growth is often incremental, not all or nothing.Storytelling can help us connect with our own experiences.Compassion towards ourselves is crucial in the healing process.The environment and community play a significant role in personal growth.Being present and attentive to beauty can be healing.Check out Noble Workshops: https://www.nobleworkshops.com/Listen to the Noble Workshops Podcast: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/nobleworkshops/Follow Sam on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobleworkshops/Inner Child Exercise: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/648367dc04b64b65f3626d6d/t/65611601bab60e7abe6480d1/1700861450113/NW+%7C+Inner+Child.pdfChapters00:00 Introduction and Background08:00 Exploring the Work of Sam Eldredge15:57 Understanding Noble Workshops23:47 Engaging with Personal Stories29:19 Exploring Nostalgia and Sadness32:02 The Power of Curiosity in Healing36:21 Understanding Resistance and Acceptance39:26 The Role of Kindness, Courage, and Curiosity43:40 Connecting with Our Inner Child49:59 The Importance of Vulnerability55:14 Noble Workshops: A Path to HealingKeywordsholistic masculinity, inner child, vulnerability, personal growth, therapy, noble workshops, emotional healing, storytelling, mental health, self-discovery