Transforming Relationship with Emotional Savvy

Wow! I was so prepared to ask tough questions of my guest, Dr. Will Horton, because I found some of the claims he made sounded outrageous to me. Really? And, I asked those tough questions about addiction, recovery, pain, and shame...and more! When I read one of his book titles, my antennae went up: "How to Get Others to Do What You Want and Have Them Think It was Their Idea" Oh, no! That sounds so manipulative and under-handed, right? That's why I called this episode "Contrary Ways." He is a master at making outrageous statements and then backing them up with reason, logic and science. You'll see as you listen. You might not agree but it will make you think! We talked about how the body never forgets and the body keeps the score because trauma is encoded. So, what does he say you can do about it? Listen in! ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------->>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the ongoing insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...What does Dr. Will mean when he says "how to get others to do what you want and have them think it was their idea?"Why was reading Psychocybernetics by Dr. Maxwell Maltz a turning point for him? (It was for me, too!)Why does Dr. Will Horton think everything is persuasion?What horrible and astounding fact does he share about the Heaven's Gate cult?Why is Dr. Will an ardent twelve-stepper? Why does shame keep a person in a toxic relationship?What about genetics and predisposition in addictions?How can you help an addicted person? Can you? GUEST: DR. WILL HORTONDr. William D. Horton, Psy.D, CADC, CI, MH, is the world’s Leading Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) Trainer, and a top hypnosis trainer. He is also a Licensed Psychologist, Certified Master Alcohol and Drug Counselor, and Master Hypnotist TrainerDr. Horton was one of the few non-law enforcement people asked to attend the FBI Crisis/Hostage Negotiation Course at the FBI Academy.Dr. Horton’s passion for NLP and Hypnosis come from personal experience. Not only has he used NLP and Hypnosis to overcome alcohol addiction, he’s also used these techniques to win numerous karate tournaments and work as an actor in film, and stage.He has dedicated his life to advancing training and education in the mind sciences, especially for those suffering from addictions.Dr. William D. Horton has run in-patient and out-patient Substance Abuse treatment centers as well as Psych Units in prisons.Dr. William D. Horton has taught people all over the world the skills of NLP, Hypnosis, Performance Enhancement, and the Art of Business Communication. He is the founder of NFNLP, the National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming and the creator of several best selling home study courses on NLP and Hypnosis. A prolific writer, Dr. Horton’s articles on NLP and Hypnosis are regularly featured in “The Journal of Hypnotism,” the country’s largest hypnosis publication. His articles are considered a must-read in the field of hypnosis and psychology. His NLP and Hypnosis courses and workbooks have won acclaim for their easy-to-understand format.Dr. William D. Horton has won more awards in the field of hypnosis and NLP from independent organizations than anyone.FREE GIFT FROM DR. WILL :Look for it on his website: Quantum Psychology: There is More to You Than Meets the EyeDrWillHorton.com CONTACT INFO FOR DR. WILL HORTON:Website: JordanGoldrich.comPodcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/dr-will-horton/id1252773200LinkedIn :https://www.linkedin.com/in/drwillhorton/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Alcoholandaddictionsolution/?modal=admin_todo_tourInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drwillhorton/?hl=en Twitter: https://twitter.com/docnlpYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWLdEYoS9z9XV8k05T8Ar4w/CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWant my help? New client's one-hour introductory session only $97WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy course via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#drwillhorton #secretcults #manipulativepeople #playingmindgames #overcomingaddiction #HeavensGate #traumaencoded #NLP #neurolinguisticprogramming #relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse#difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations #workplacerelationships #relationshipadvice #toxicrelationshipadvice Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you feel like a warrior when you go to work? Do you feel like you MUST be a warrior?Warriors are tough. Is that a necessity for getting people to work together and produce desired results?My conversation with Jordan Goldrich, author of Workplace Warrior, had some surprises. The subtitle of his book is "People Skills for the No B.S. Executive." He immediately brought up the word, abrasive, to describe many leaders. Not a surprise! Sometimes people think they have to be tough, competitive, and yes, abrasive in order to be seen as a leader. Often, that backfires!If you're going to be successful at work, you have to create a workplace that people are not afraid to go to. So, how does a leader create the desired balance?Two big pieces of advice from Jordan:"You have to show respect and compassion to others. Talk to them like they are human beings...because they are.""Acknowledge and apologize for your past behavior." That's where his seven steps to an apology come in.Great insights for leaders who want to be better, leaders who need people skills!Excellent information for everyone who goes to a workplace every day.----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------->>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the ongoing insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...Why do we need a war metaphor for this?Why do workplace leaders think they have to aggressive?What's the difference between what he calls "straight talk," and having no filters?What makes leaders abrasive?How can leaders and would-be leaders learn to be assertive without being degrading or demanding?Why is it that abrasive executives are often overly-protected?What are his seven steps to making an apology? GUEST: Jordan GoldrichJordan Goldrich partners with executives to drive results without damanaging relationships. He is the co-author of the newly published book, "Workplace Warrior: People Skills For The No BS Executive." He is a Chief Operations Officer, Master Corporate Executive Moach (MCEC), Professional Certified Coach (PCC) and California Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW.) He is partner in the business consulting firm CUSTOMatrix, Inc, and an executive coach for the Center for Creative Leadership. FREE GIFT FROM JORDAN :The Battle Plan. A downloadable excerpt from his book, Workplace WarriorWorkplaceWarrior.comCONTACT INFO FOR JORDAN GOLDRICH:Website: JordanGoldrich.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: @jgoldrichFacebook: @jordan.goldrichInstagram: @jordangoldrichTwitter: @jordangoldrich1YouTube: @jordangoldrichCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWant my help? New client's one-hour introductory session only $97WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy course via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#JordanGoldrich #workplacewarrior #nobullshitexecutive #peopleskills #leadersasbullies #abrasiveleaders#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse#difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations #workplacerelationships #relationshipadvice #toxicrelationshipadvice Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We have so many images of step-moms. Angels, devils, and everything in between! My guest, Kathy Hammond, is the author of How to Kill Your Husband's Ex, Attorneys and Then Some: Ass Kickin' Advice for Stepmoms.You might relate! She says, "Books on step parenting hope to evoke a kumbaya feeling. That might work if everyone involved in the step family dynamic is mature, empathetic and certainly not narcissistic. In reality are very raw emotions of jealousy, anger, resentment and fear, experienced by ex-spouses and subsequent spouses and, as chief casualties, the kids."Being a stepmom is difficult. You step into a place where someone else's shoes are already filled, in most cases. You're the bonus mom. You also may be perceived as the unnecessary extra mom, too. Whoa! How to Kill Your Husband's Ex, Attorney, and Then Some! Strong words. I'm sure many stepmoms will relate. Do you? Are you in a new relationship where you're screaming (at least, in your head) "My husband's ex cannot let go! My husband's ex causes too many problems! My husband's ex won't let go!" Maybe your partner's ex is a #Hijackal. If you're dealing with a #Hijackal ex--a difficult, toxic, unrelenting, demanding ex--when you're the new stepmom, you're going to have a steep learning curve. There will be days! You'll wonder why you ever said yes to taking on someone's children. Will it strengthen your new marriage by working as a team, or will your new partner be overwhelmed by the stress? Maybe, you'll land somewhere in between. Listen today and shortcut the journey to success as a stepmom. Feel better about your stepmom role. Kathy Hammond has twenty-seven years of experience as a stepmom so she's done some heavy lifting for you. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------->>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the ongoing insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...What do I do to get a great start when I take on someone else's children? What CAN I do to improve family dynamics when I'm the stepmom?What if my husband's ex is toxic?How do I keep myself out of my husband's last relationship?How do I handle the money situation when there is an ex in the picture?Why is an annual review of child custody and child support essential?How can I enforce my boundaries in a new relationship with his children?What can I expect when the children's bio mom remarries? What about divorce attorneys?What about dealing with in-laws? GUEST: KATHY HAMMONDKathy Hammond is an award-winning author, speaker and CEO of a recruitment solutions company in Orange County, California. The focus of her work is helping people find their voice and their place. A native of Southern California, Kathy and her family moved to Guam after graduating high school, satisfying her newfound wanderlust. She attended the University of Guam, falling in love with Hemmingway and Margaret Mead. With a dream of writing her way through distant cultures, she landed a job selling ad space for This Month and Guam and Micronesia magazine where she begin writing commercially before becoming its Editor, also writing for the then-popular Off Duty military magazine. Wanting to earn her writing chops on something bigger, after spending time in Japan and, later, while living in Switzerland, Kathy started writing a novel about American baseball players in Japan. She loved writing dialogue but fiction was not to be her genre. She returned to California and continued her career in sales. While on a cruise to Mexico, on the night they set sale, Kathy met her husband-to-be and the catalyst for her latest work. They married seven weeks later and moved to John’s home state of Tennessee where she became stepmom to John’s two very young sons. After later relocating to South Florida, she went on to earn a Master’s in Organizational Management while working as a sales executive in workforce solutions. She studied business coaching in South Africa, where she appeared on numerous radio and television shows and was keynote speaker on the coaching organization’s nationwide speaking tour. In 2011, Kathy and her husband returned to Southern California where she found her writing voice. The following year, she published her first book, The Road to Nē: A remarkable little tale about getting what you want by giving up just one little thing, an allegory on goal setting, winning honorable mentions at the 2013 Great Southwest, Paris and New York Book Festivals. In 2019, Kathy published How to Kill Your Husband's Ex, Attorneys and Then Some: Ass Kickin' Advice for Stepmoms. Infusing Kathy’s grinding humor and practical advice to tackle life’s dilemmas is spurring Kathy’s “How to Kill …” series … though one will have to wait to see who is next. Still going strong after 27 years of marriage, Kathy and her husband reside in Yorba Linda, California.FREE GIFT FROM KATHY:Not at this timeCONTACT INFO FOR KATHY HAMMOND:Website: KathyHammonBooks.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: @BusinessOptimizerFacebook: Instagram: Twitter: YouTube: CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWant my help? New client's one-hour introductory session only $97WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy course via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#KathyHammond #KathyHammondBooks #beingastepmom #asskickinstepmom #stepparenting #stepmothers #adviceforstepmoms #adviceforstepmothers #otherpeopleschildren #becomingastepmom #relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do you do when you don't feel well? Do you ignore it and hope it will go away?Do you become interested in the needs of your body?Just because your parent had a disease or condition, do you believe you're next? Today's guest, Dr. Elizabeth Hughes, has exciting news: "YOUR FUTURE IS NOT WRITTEN IN YOUR DNA."What would change for you if you believed your future is not written in your DNA? Such an important belief to challenge! Dr. Hughes talks about why it is important to listen to your body. She says, 'Our bodies communicate with us all the time. Our big job is to actively listen." Are you listening to your body? Does it happen to be telling you that you're stressed, but you don't want to believe it? So much wisdom, along with new insights, in today's episode. Learn more about Complementary Medicine.______________________________>>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the ongoing insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...What is energy medicine?Is western medicine not enough?What caused you to expand beyond the traditional areas of western medicine?Can we trust our bodies to lead us on the right journey to health?What about denial of what our bodies tell us, are maybe screaming at us?How did having a toxic relationship affect your life?How does a toxic relationship affect your health?How do feelings and beliefs change health, from a biological perspective?What is the most important subconscious belief to change your health?How do supportive relationships make you healthier?How can I take steps to become healthier right away? GUEST: ELIZABETH HUGHES, MDDr. Hughes is a dermatologist and former faculty member at Stanford University, where she taught dozens of physicians, including many nationally-recognized leaders in the field of dermatology. Nearly twenty years after graduating from medical school, Dr. Hughes witnessed the rapid resolution of a patient’s chronic illness without any medical intervention. This event caused Dr. Hughes to question everything she had been taught about health and illness, and to look for better answers for “incurable” conditions. Her quest lead her to investigate ancient spiritual traditions, non-western systems of health and healing, placebo research, and the emerging sciences of epigenetics and psychoneuroimmunology. In the process, she became a registered yoga teacher, a certified health coach, and a practitioner of several energy medicine modalities. Dr. Hughes has developed a revolutionary approach to health based on establishing trust in the human body. Dr. Hughes believes that once each person has cultivated a deep and abiding trust in the power of the human body, our experience of health and illness will change for the better forever.FREE GIFT FROM ELIZABETH:The Stress Antidote Guide TheStressAntidote.comCONTACT INFO FOR ELIZABETH HUGHES:Website: ElizabethHughesMD.com Podcasts:LinkedIn: @ElizabethHughesMDFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/elizabethhughesmdInstagram: @Twitter:  https://twitter.com/jEHughesMDYouTube: CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWant my help? New client's one-hour introductory session only $97WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy course via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#ElizabethHughesMD #westernmedicineisnotenough #epigenetics #psychoneuroimmunology #toxicrelationshipaffecthealth#energymedicine #yogaforhealth #alternativemedicine #complementarymedicine #relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Fearful? Skeptical? Not sure you trust yourself to choose well? Unsure about trusting when you start to date again? You'll likely have some of that when you're dating in mid-life, especially if you have left a toxic relationship? You hear the term, self-love, so often these days. Do you know what it really means? What are your assumptions about it? I actually don't use that term much because of the ambiguity. In today's episode, my guest, Jonothon Aslay, and I discuss this because sometimes the term causes me to roll my eyes. Really, that's true. But, I loved Jonathon's definition of self-love, and that makes the discussion all the more juicy! It's awkward to know when the best time to ask about previous relationships is, right? Do you get it out of the way at the beginning, or is there a better time for that question? See all the question below that I asked Jonathon. So much great information, and excellent insights, too. ______________________________>>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the ongoing insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...What inspired Jonathon Aslay to write about dating and self-love?What is his definition of self-love?How does mid-life dating differ from dating earlier in life?What are the red flags in mid-life dating?Are there questions to be avoided on first dates? When is the best time to talk about previous relationships when dating a new person?Why does Jonathon call venting "empowered problem-solving?"What are the roadblocks women face when understanding divorced men?What questions should women ask when going out with a divorced man?What are the differences between men who have been divorced and men who've never married?GUEST: JONATHON ASLAYThe focus of one of America's Leading Mid-Life Dating Coach has expanded into a deeper, essential philosophy of what it truly means to LOVE. After losing his 19-year-old son Connor in 2018, Jonathon Aslay’s grief led him on a soul-searching inner journey, where he became aware of an often-overlooked dimension of the dating conversation. He realized that the process of dating reveals the most common emotional health issue faced by many singles seeking a partner: a distressing lack of self-worth, self-regard, and self-love. Today, he is on a mission of encouraging both men and women to fully love themselves with a new book, "What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?"—packed with fun, engaging spiritual and personal growth practices—and his dynamic Mid-Life Love Mastery mentorship program, that inspires hundreds of people daily, around the world.FREE GIFT FROM JONATHON:Chapters from his book, What the Heck is Self-Love Anyway? http://www.jonathonaslay.com/love/CONTACT INFO FOR JONATHON ASLAYWebsite: JonathonAslay.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/consciouscoupling.jonathonaslay/Instagram: @Twitter:  https://twitter.com/jonathonaslayYouTube: CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#JonathonAslay #selflove #whatisselflove #datinginmidlife #midlifedating #trustinmidlifedating #datingwhenolder #relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

HUMAN DESIGN? What immediately came to mind when you read that?Human Design is a system that "illustrates the genetic codes in our personal makeup, both from a conscious perspective, and also from the unconscious ancestral input," as today's guest, Chetan Parkyn says."We get distracted in our lives from the moment we arrive here.We become conditioned not only from the attitudes and behaviors of the family and circumstances in which we are born, but we also have ingrained in our genetic codes unconscious patterns from our ancestry.Human Design illustrates the genetic codes in our personal makeup, both from a conscious perspective, and also from the unconscious ancestral input.It highlights the "Cards we are dealt at birth," the Soul Agreement we made before the conditioning and before we were introduced to the concept of good or bad.My work is to not only illustrate an individual's codes but also to indicate how to play these codes or "cards" to ensure personal recognition, self-acceptance, self-love and ultimate fulfillment.Being in love with your own life, establishes a sure foundation for any an all interactions and relationships."Understanding what Human Design offers you can change your direction. When I first encountered it, twelve years ago, I was relieved. What I had been doing to let people know about my work was the exact opposite of what my Human Design invited me to do.Wow! Everything changed. I invite you to get Chetan Parkyn's free Human Design report to help you with initial insights. It may be just what you most need. The link is in the notes below._______________________________>>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the ongoing insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...What is the Human Design approach?How are we "conditioned" to more away from our own specific Human Design?Can we change the genetic codes ingrained in us from our ancestry?What is Chetan's take on "self-love?"What does it mean to be ultimately fulfilled?How can we live the life we were mean to have before life intervened in our formative years?How is Human Design a self-remembering system?How can we learn to navigate toxic relationships better, knowing Human Design?Why is is worthwhile to know my Human Design, and how can it help me going forward?GUEST: CHETAN PARKYNChetan Parkyn was schooled in England, and traveled the world as a troubleshooting mechanical engineer and ocean-diving engineer. In India, in 1979, while with the enlightened mystic Osho, his abilities to read for people surfaced when his gifts were recognized by two savants, who told him to “get ready” for a system that would come into his life and that he would introduce to the whole world.Chetan was encouraged to use his gifts to “Read” for people, and he commenced reading hands, cards, the IChing, astrology and other esoteric systems to prepare himself for the “new system.”In 1993, he was introduced to Human Design, recognized right away this is what the savants had foretold, and has studied, read and taught it worldwide ever since.His first book : Human Design: Discover the Person You Were Born To Be was first published in 2009 by Harper Collins UK, and is now available in 12 language versions, reaching best-seller status in Chinese, Russian and Bulgarian. Two more books on Human Design, The Book of Lines, and 21st Century View of the IChing, and The Book of Destinies, Discover the Life You Were Born To Live are already being translated and released in other language versions.26 years after being introduced to Human Design, Chetan continues teaching Human Design online and in person, often with his wife and partner, Carola Eastwood. Chetan presently resides in San Diego, California.FREE GIFT FROM CHETAN:FREE Human Design Report.https://HumanDesignForUsAll.com/free-reportCONTACT INFO FOR CHETAN PARKYNFor the free Human Design App : www.TheHumanDesignApp.comFor personal Readings and Mentoring, Chetan can be reached at Media@HumanDesignForUsAll.comPhone (1) 951 961 7662Website: HumanDesignForUsAll.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: @Chetan-ParkynFacebook: @Chetan.ParkynInstagram: @Twitter:  @HumanDesignBookYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCafa0H6oujxU-YELe7DSfsg?view_as=subscriberCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#ChetanParkyn #HumanDesign #HumanDesignforusall #CarolaEastwood #astrology #humandesignreport #freehumandesignreport#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Never mistake love-bombing for love!Never mistake lust for love!Great advice for dating! Today's episode with Dr. Terri Orbuch is SO important, especially when you're dating. And, even more especially if you're dating after leaving a difficult, or toxic, relationship. You need to know these distinctions so that you feel more confident in the dating scene.The big question we discuss is "How can you reignite passion in a relationship that has become a little humdrum, and maybe a little too indifferent. You can do it and Dr. Terri gives three surprising, yet simple things to consider...especially her tip about arousal-producing activities and the scientific reasons behind why they work to reignite passion.Dr. Terri's advice is based on science, or her long-term research project following the same couples over time.How to reignite the passion in your long-term relationship?Passion and excitement decline in all relationships over time - it's inevitable. So, when that happens, it's important to practice strategies that can reignite that excitement of passion. We discuss science-based strategies to keep the flame alive!!In addition, all couples go through relationship ruts - where your relationship becomes habitual, routine or the same old things over time. That's okay. It's part of a long-term relationship. BUT, if couples stay in that relationship rut for too long, boredom sets in, and boredom eats away at the happiness in a relationship. So, we discuss strategies to add things to your relationship so that boredom won't set in.Dr. Terri Orbuch shares a great tip from her book, "5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great."Contrary to what you've been told, keeping a marriage successful does not take hard work! Instead, it takes consistent small changes in behaviors and attitudes over time, to create happiness and transform your relationship.The main reason marriages break up isn't conflict, lack of communication or sexual incompatibility. Rather, it's frustration (that is, the day-to-day disappointment or the gap between what you expect and how your partner acts) that's most damaging."_______________________________>>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the ongoing insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...How does science-based research into dating and love help?Can you learn to trust after betrayal?Is it true that the US has a very high divorce rate?At what point in a relationship is divorced more likely to happen?When excitement and passion decline, does that mean the relationship is in trouble?What can couples do to reignite the passion?What is the difference between love and lust?How is love is different from love-bombing?GUEST: DR. TERRI ORBUCHDr. Terri Orbuch (aka The Love Doctor®) is a world-renowned relationship expert, author, speaker, professor, research professor, marriage and family therapist and media personality, whose practical science-based advice has helped thousands of people find and create the loving relationships they deserve.Dr. Terri Orbuch earned her Ph.D. from the University of Wisconsin-Madison. She joined the faculty at Oakland University in 1998 and is now a Distinguished Professor of Sociology. She is also a research professor at the University of Michigan Institute for Social Research, and the director of a landmark research project, funded by the National Institutes of Health (NIH), where she has been following the same couples for almost 3 decades. It is the longest-running study of married couples ever conducted in the United States.In addition, she is a certified marriage and family therapist (MFT) who has worked with individuals and couples for thirty years. She also does dating and relationship coaching with people across the world. She is well respected as a researcher and professor in the scientific world, and is also known by TV, radio, and online fans as The Love Doctor®, a popular relationship expert and advisor.Dr. Orbuch is widely published in scientific journals and the author of five relationship books, including “5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great,” and “Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship.” Her website is: DrTerriTheLoveDoctor.comAbout Dr. Terri•Featured in national outlets such as, The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Reader’s Digest, Real Simple, Bride, O, Good Housekeeping, WebMD, USA Today, Self, Women’s Health, Cosmopolitan, TIME magazine and more…•Appeared on The Today Show, MSNBC, The Katie Couric Show, ESPN, HuffPost Live, CNN, and more…•Her relationship segments are aired weekly on Fox-2 Detroit Morning News (2005 – present)•National public television special (PBS), “Secrets from The Love Doctor”•2,200,000+ views on her TEDx talk: Lust vs. Love; https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=466&v=Siru3n3zIbM•2 best-selling books: “5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great” and “Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship”•5 Simple Steps #1 best seller in Amazon for: (a) Marriage and Long-Term Relationships, (b) Marriage and Adult Relationships, & (c) Self Help Relationships•Hosts an Empower Radio weekly program called “The Love Doctor is IN.” Archived on iTunes, Stitcher and iHeart Radiohttp://www.empoweradio.com/home/shows/812199-The-Love-Doctor-with-Terri-Orbuch.htmlFREE GIFT FROM DR.ORBUCHNot at this timeCONTACT INFO FOR DR. TERRI ORBUCH:Website: DrTerriTheLoveDoctor.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: @TerriOrbuchFacebook: @DrTerriLoveDrInstagram: @Twitter:  @DrTerriLoveDrYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=2&v=Siru3n3zIbMCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. 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GO WITH YOUR GUT! How many times have you heard that? Sure, most folks are talking about intuition and gut feelings, but did you know that the seat of health is in your gut, your microbiome? Worth knowing, right? Better yet, and more worth knowing, is learning about taking good care of your microbiome to encourage health, in every way.Dr. Brindusa Vanta has used her training as a medical doctor, and her vast interest and research, to understand the foundations of health, and how to return to it when it seems to be seeping away. She shares these findings with you, and helps you to find a path to better health. Fabulous!Depressed? Anxious? Feeling like you can't think straight and everything's a bit fuzzy?Dr. Vanta shares five important considerations for overcoming depression, and her four mindset shifts for overcoming disease in general. Yahoo! Only four. You can do that, right?Because I help people who are--or, have been--experiencing toxic relationships, I asked Dr. Vanta about the effects of toxic relationships on the body and mind. In particular, I asked about the link between toxic relationships and the development of autoimmune diseases. You want to be very mindful of this. The sooner you leave the toxic situation, the sooner you can heal.Got inflammation? You'll want to hear the psychoneurology and mind-body connections that can be involved. Let's all stop triggering inflammation now!Listen in. You, your body, and your relationships will benefit from spending this time learning from Dr. Brindusa Vanta._________________________________>>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...What is included in "natural medicine?"What is homeopathy?How is brain health related to physical health?What can happen to a body in a long-term toxic relationship?What can I do to stop triggering inflammation in my body?What are Dr. Vanta's four steps to overcoming disease?What supplements does Dr. Vanta suggest for improving brain health?What can you do that is both natural and helpful for overcoming depression?GUEST: DR. BRINDUSA VANTADr.Vanta graduated from a top medical school in Romania in 2001, with a wealth of knowledge and a strong belief that the use of prescription drugs is the only solution for overcoming diseases.After moving to Canada, she was keen to get her MD license. Despite several obstacles, she successfully passed the tests required to apply for a Canadian license. While she was in a lengthy process of getting into the residency program in 2005, a personal event made her explore nutrition and alternative medicine.She then enrolled in an advanced program for physicians at the Ontario College of Homeopathic Medicine in Toronto.In 2008, she got involved in medical research focused on natural therapies and shifted her focus from conventional medicine to alternative medicine.Dr.Vanta’s mission is to help people transform their health and vitality using the power of nutrition and natural medicine.She is a medical researcher who makes use of latest and scientific studies on brain health and provides one on one consultations to clients from around the world.Key area of expertise: brain health and how to supercharge your brain.Naturally.FREE GIFT FROM DR. VANTA:Test your brain health. Take her free quiz at DrVanta.comCONTACT INFO FOR DR. BRINDUSA VANTA:Website: DrVanta.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: @DrBrindusaVanta5918Facebook: @Dr-Brindusa-VantaInstagram: @ForeverHomesforFosterKidsCATwitter:  YouTube: CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. 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You've likely heard so much in the news about the separation of children from their families at the United States borders. Children kept in cages.Overcrowding conditions that don't seem to improve. And, the issues of children being placed in foster homes for their own safety has always been with us.HOW DO WE MAKE THE FOSTER CARE SYSTEM WORK WELL IN THE BEST INTERESTS OF CHILDREN AND FAMILIES? That's the big, ongoing question. Today, my guest, Richard Villasana, helps us understand what the actual realities are for both children separated from their families at the US Border, and children separated from their families because their parents cannot--and sometimes should not--be caring for them,You likely have a thought about the foster care system. Sad stories about the foster care system make their way into television dramas we enjoy watching. It makes us aware of the feeling of foster children. Recently, for instance, on Grey's Anatomy, two main characters bonded over a newly-discovered shared history of having been in foster care. It makes it more real for everyone to understand, and I applaud the writers of these shows for being socially conscious!Richard Villasana is a leading light out of what can be a dark hole for many. This, of course, has been exacerbated by recent years of high-profile stories about the immigration difficulties and the separation of children from their families at the US border. So many children in such a short time...in cages. We've all seen it on the news. I have friends who have gone to the border to see exactly what is happening, and it is all very real, unfortunately.I asked Richard Villasana why we hear that some children may never see their parents again, after having crossed the border. Of course, I am very concerned about emotional trauma and long-lasting emotional damage that these sad situations can create, and I asked Richard about how it is addressed. An equally sad answer!See the Highlights below for the questions I made sure to ask him.Listen in and learn more. This is very serious for the fabric of our society: that children are being well-cared for, in their best interests and on behalf of their well-being. ._________________________________>>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...What is actually happening at the border of the United States with children being separated from their families?Will these children ever see their families again?Are mistakes being made in the processing of their families?How is this family separation being addressed?What is the process for finding family for this immigrant children?What is the ideal placement for a foster child?How do we improve foster care?What effect do cultural differences have on the fostering situation?How is the emotional trauma that foster kids too often suffer addressed, especially in the case of immigrant families?GUEST: RICHARD VILLASANARichard Villasana, founder of Forever Homes for Foster Kids, is a leading international authority on immigration issues and foster families. A proud Navy veteran,Richard has been featured on CNN International, Univision, AP News, ABC TV, Costco Connections, Washington Post, and EFE, the world’s largest Spanish language media company. He is a olumnist with Foster Focus Magazine and an international speaker. He was honored as a California Hero. He has also translated for the United Nations.For 25 years, his non-profit has worked with government agencies across the country reuniting immigrant and foster children with their families.FREE GIFT FROM RICHARD VILLASANA: Not at this time. CONTACT INFO FOR RICHARD VILLASANA:Website: ForeverHomesforFosterKids.orgPodcasts:LinkedIn: @RichardVillasanaFacebook: @FimilyFindingMXInstagram: @ForeverHomesforFosterKidsCATwitter:  @FamilyFindingMXYouTube: CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. 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Do you think that there is a connection between what goes on in your emotional life and what goes on in your body?You betcha! Today's episode starts with me giving you some insights into the hows, whys, and benefits of creating uninterrupted time in your life frequently. Do you do that? Most people don't, so take this in. It can make a HUGE difference in your feeling of well-being!When you have difficulties--especially chronic stress and anxiety--from being raised by, living with, or leaving toxic people, #Hijackals, you are likely to have health issues. When you're young, you may not notice the cumulative effects so much. You may be unhappy, irritable, or feeling defeated, but your body is more resilient...for awhile.As you stay in these toxic relationships, or at least, don't fully realize the toll these relationships have on you, you may well begin to experience small breakdowns in your body. You lose energy, feel fatigued, and don't bounce back as you used to. That's the beginning of more difficulties to come...if you stay.Often, when you go to the doctor and describe this general malaise, the doctor will tell you that it's all in your head. In a way, that's true because you are experiencing emotional issues from destructive relationships. But, you're not crazy, or mentally unstable.It's true, though, that when these conditions persist, you feel like you're living in a fog, surrounded by pain, unable and unwilling to participate.fully in life. Sound familiar? Time to change your mind, and today's episode of Emotional Savvy will definitely help.Today's we'll explore the connections between emotional well-being and physical well-being, between the damaging effects of unhealthy relationships and the potential for autoimmune conditions.DISCLAIMER: Neither my guest, Sharon Sayler, nor I are medical doctors. We are talking about other people's research and our own anecdotal experiences with clients, listeners, and friends.GUEST: Sharon Sayler, Producer and Host of The Autoimmune Hour on Life Interrupted and creator of UnderstandingAutoimmune.com Sharon Sayler is an international bestselling author and speaker known as the difficult people whisperer, and is listed on GlobalGurus.org as one of the top 20 worldwide for body language.She also happens to be the host of the #1 show on OMTimes Radio, The Autoimmune Hour, where she offers hope and help for those with autoimmune conditions. Her own experience dealing with a rare medical condition propelled her to create The AutoImmune Hour to support others to become informed, courageous, and powerful self-advocates as they turn life's traumas into transformations regardless of their diagnoses.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: What is the connect between intention and physical healthHow to think about what you think about that might need changingSharon's experience with her own medical journeyCompliance vs non-compliance as patientsThe power of the mind and the decision to put yourself firstTaking powerful steps to improve autoimmune conditionsCONNECT WITH SHARON SAYLERWebsite: UnderstandingAutoimmune.comTwitter:  @SharonSaylerFacebook: Facebook.com/SharonSayler LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/SharonSaylerInstagram: Instagram.com/SharonSaylerCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?You can. CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #autoimmunedisease #SharonSayler #understandingautoimmune Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

FORGIVENESS! It sounds right. Sounds good. But, what does it really mean to forgive someone?On Emotional Savvy, I'm often talking about those relentlessly difficult, toxic people that I call #Hijackals®. #Narcissists are #Hijackals, and they will do all they can to have power over you in every way, and exert control wherever they can. My guest, Terri Levine, has encountered them, and she talks about the terror. You may have experienced the terror of being in relationship with a narcissist. Today's episode will really help you. Would you like to be able to forgive?Why is it important to you to forgive a toxic person? As Terri Levine and I talk about her experiences, you may well see your experiences reflected there. As she wrote, "Every human being is connected to us through our DNA."How does this affect our interest in, and our ability to forgive? Listen in and see what this brings up for you. >>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...Is there such a thing as "untrue forgiveness?" What makes the different from true forgiveness? Why does Terri Levine think it is important to forgive toxic people?Is there any reason to embrace toxic people?What does Terri Levine think the steps to forgiveness are? What does our DNA have to do with it? GUEST: DR. TERRI LEVINETerri Levine (SAY Luh-VEEN) is the founder of Heart-repreneur® and is a business and executive coaching expert. She assists businesses worldwide with business growth, sales, and marketing. She has more than 40 years of business experience, encompassing work with more than 5,000 business owners and entrepreneurs in a variety of industries. She is also a best-selling author of dozens of titles, has her own radio and TV show and is also a keynote speaker.Terri has a passion for helping businesses to grow with her own personal experience gained while building multiple successful businesses from the ground up. Terri has created the Heart-repreneur® cause teaching business owners to do business heart-to-heart.Her latest book is her autobiography which teaches her process of forgiveness that has healed her and hundreds of others.FREE GIFT FROM TERRI LEVINE:Visit AboutToBreakBook.com CONTACT INFO FOR DR. TERRI LEVINE:Website: Heartrepreneur.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: @TerriLevineFacebook: @HeartrepreneurTerriLevineInstagram: @MentorTerriTwitter:  @MentorTerriYouTube: CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#TerriLevine #AboutToBreak #trueforgiveness #whobrokeyourheart #dealingwithtoxicpeople #Heartrepreneur #relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

HUGGING? Love it? Hate it? Only for really close people? Hug everybody? Big questions! Hugging has had a renaissance in the last twenty years, and has even found its way into corporate culture. Should it be there? Is it appropriate? I know people have some strong feelings about hugging. How about you? This conversation with Dr. Stone covers all the bases of hugging how's, why's, and why not's. According to Healthline.com :"Hugs may boost your heart health. Hugging can be good for your heart health. In one study, scientists split a group of about 200 adults into two groups:One group had romantic partners hold hands for 10 minutes followed by a 20-second hug with each other.The other group had romantic partners who sat in silence for 10 minutes and 20 seconds.People in the first group showed greater reductions in blood pressure levels and heart rate than the second group.According to these findings, an affectionate relationship may be good for your heart health." What does hugging do for you? Well, aside from the "feel good" aspects of it, Dr. Stone says great benefits are that it brings acceptance and connection. He tells us how a 20 second hug can actually do good--measurably good--things for our health. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...Why have we replaced the handshake with the hug so often?Do we need permission to hug?Should others ask before hugging us if they are not very close to us? Why would you not hug? What the heck are "cuddle parties?"How can a person use hugging if they are not with other humans at the moment? Hugging in the workplace??? >>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________GUEST: DR. STONE KRAUSHAARDr. Stone is a psychologist and therapeutic coach completely taken by the power of hugs and the difference they can make for each of us individually and in the world. AKA the The Hug Doctor, he passionately professes there really are no strangers - we all share a profound connection. The Hug Doctor wants nothing more than for each of us to live a life full of joyful hugging that includes hugging ourselves, hugging our families, hugging our friends and hugging the world. He is a staunch advocate for longer hugs and more meaningful and inspirational hugs. Some hugs are literal while others are metaphorical. He says the hug is a brilliant tool for knocking down walls within ourselves as well as those that divide us from each other. You will catch him on 21-day hugging journeys and inspiring others about what we can create together in the ‘space of a hug.’FREE GIFT FROM DR. STONE:Not at this time, but he suggests you give away hugs! CONTACT INFO FOR DR. STONE KRAUSHAAR:Website: TheHugDoctor.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: @DoctorKTodayFacebook: @DrStoneKInstagram: @the_hugdoctorTwitter:  @DrKTodayYouTube: CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#huggingenthusiast #hugsforhealing #DrStone #helpfulhugs #huggingtherapy #thehugdoctor#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We are grateful for a woman's service in the military. We need to consider the issues a woman faces when leaving the military, and re-entering civilian life. Those of us who have not served need to understand these issues because we can help.I asked my guest, Ariel Shivers-McGrew, what the greatest benefit she received from being a woman in the military. Her answers may surprise you! And, they were positive! Now, she helps women understand and solve the issues of re-entry into civilian life.Re-entry can be difficult:Finding work.Re-establishing family life.Substance abuse after leaving.Finding a mentor to help with the transition.A year ago, I found myself with bags of clothing to give away, clothing that reflected years on stage as a speaker. When I looked for a place to donate it, I was delighted to find that, on that very day, there was a clothing drive for women leaving the military and entering the civilian work force.I hadn't thought about that need before. Have you?Even though I haven't served myself, I saw that there were community needs for these women that I was unaware of. Today's guest drawsattention to the unique needs of women leaving the military.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...How do women in the military have to segment their lives?What is the most common career trajectory for a woman leaving the military?Why is this topic of issues facing women leaving the military so important at this time?What are the pitfalls and landmines that military women face when leaving?What about culture shock?What issues do military women face when coming home?How do military women find civilian jobs after their service?>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________GUEST: ARIEL SHIVERS-MCGREWA careerist in the United States Army Reserves, an EOL (Equal Opportunity Liaison), a DARN (duty appointed reenlistment NCO), ASISTer (applied suicide intervention skills trained), primarily responsible for the analysis, development and distribution of intelligence used for information and psychological effect.I’ve authored two young adult fictions, managed to find myself a lead contributor for a women veteran’s network in an online magazine and recently presented a proposal on Incivility in the workplace and career counselor preparedness in the 21st century as a PhD student.I’m a former SFL-TAP (transition assistance program) Counselor. I’ve taught women veterans how to start their own business across the Chicagoland area as the Director, Women Vetrepreneurship while simultaneously serving as the Associate Director, Veterans Programs for the Veterans Business Outreach Center at the Women’s Business Development Center for a three-state region (WI, MN, IL).FREE GIFT FROM ARIEL:Career Genogram You can find it by visiting her website.CONTACT INFO FOR ARIEL SHIVERS-MCGREW:Website: TactfulDisruption.coPodcasts:LinkedIn: @ArielShiversMcGrewFacebook: @LLCTactfulInstagram: @LLITactfulTwitter:  @LLCTactfulYouTube: CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#militarywomen #womenleavingthemilitary #reentryformilitarywomen #militaryculture #relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Were you brought up with the underlying understanding that, if you were a good person, everyone would like you? Most folks are.So, you do your level best--even once you're an adult--to be pleasant, agreeable, and interesting so that will happen.Sometimes, you go the extra mile in hope, right? And, after you turn yourself into a pretzel, they still withhold approval and interest. So, today's topic will relieve you of the notion that you are supposed to jump all the hoops that each person sets up, and find a way to get them to like you. I know, as an adult, you might be able to say "I don't care whether people like me or not." But, is it the truth that you actually--deep down--FEEL that way? If so, you may be free of these expectations. If it's not true yet--or, you'd like it to be more true, today's episode offers valuable insights that can help! HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...What helped you step around fear and create an international organization?Were you afraid of what folks would think, or say?How did your past promote or prevent you from doing this easily? Why do we focus on others so much, and on what they think?How did you get over the "Everyone Has to Like Me" issue?Why do you need to filter some people out of your life? What are your special "rules" for deciding who to keep in your life and how? >>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________GUEST: TONYA HOFMANN-CEO & Founder of the Public Speakers Association & Wowdible-Globally Sought-After Speaker-Cover of 5 Magazines-Best Selling Author of 7 International Books-Winner of Multiple National and International Industry and Association Awards -Host of Tonya Hofmann’s Wow TV ShowFREE GIFT FROM TONYA HOFMANN :Want to chat with Tonya Hofmann, CEO of Public Speakers Association? You can by visiting her website.CONTACT INFO FOR TONYA HOFMANN:Website: PublicSpeakersAssociation.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: @TonyaHofmannFacebook: @PublicSpeakersAssociationInstagram: @Tonya_HofmannTwitter:  @DebiSilberYouTube: @TonyaHofmannCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#PublicSpeakersAssociation #TonyaHofmann #wantpeopletolikeme #filterpeopleout #relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

HAVE YOU EVER FELT BETRAYED? HAVE YOU EVER FULLY BEEN ABLE TO TRUST YOURSELF OR ANOTHER AGAIN? This episode looks at different forms of betrayal, including infidelity. Who typically betrays? One of the questions I had for my guest, Dr. Debi Silber, was on the topic of parental betrayal. Often, a person doesn't want to think or believe that they were betrayed by their parents. Because of brain development, and culture, we want to--and often need to--believe that our parents had our best interests at heart. That's not always true. #Hijackal parents, for example, only have their own best interests in mind, and their children are simply pawns in the process. Betrayal is real! What do you think, feel, or do when the person, or people, you trust most in the world are the one's who betray you? A big question we talk a lot about as we define 'betrayal." HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...Why do you numb yourself, or avoid or distract yourself, when things are going very wrong?What can you do to feel or face what really needs your attention?What is Post Betrayal Syndrome?What do you do to experience a Post Betrayal Transformation?What are the five stages you go through--or, can go through--from betrayal to breakthrough?>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________GUEST: DR. DEBI SILBERDr. Debi Silber, founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute in New York and https://pbtinstitute.com is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset, and personal development expert. She's an award-winning speaker, coach and author of the Amazon #1 Bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis, The Unshakable Woman-The Workbook (the companion guide to the book) as well as 2 books recommended by Brian Tracy, Marshall Goldsmith and Jack Canfield.Debi has contributed to FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz show, TEDx, The Huffington Post, Shape, Self, Health, Working Mother, Forbes, Psychology Today, WebMD, Ladies Home Journal, Woman's World and Glamour to name a few. Her doctoral study led to three discoveries around how women experience and heal from betrayal.Based on her findings, along with 27 years of health, mindset and lifestyle coaching, Dr. Debi has created a proven multi pronged approach to help women heal (physically, mentally and emotionally) from a life crisis, specializing in betrayal.FREE GIFT FROM DR. DEBI SILBER :Take the Quiz: Do You Have Post-Betrayal Syndrome? TAKE IT HERECONTACT INFO FOR DR. DEBI SILBER:Website: PBTInstitute.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: @DebiSilberFacebook: @InspireEmpowerTransformInstagram: @DebiSilberTwitter:  @DebiSilberYouTube: @DebiSilberCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#AfterBetrayal #PostTrauma #drdebisilber #beyondbetrayal #parentalbetrayal #infidelity #relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever feel overwhelmed? That's all too common, right?Does it seem to happen too often? Life is busy. Expectations are high. You feel pushed and pulled by different needs of different people and roles in your life. STRESS! Today, take a breather and listen in. With my guest, Brianna Wilkerson, a holistic health coach, we're giving you some great tips, strategies, insights, and next best steps to reduce stress, and detox life in all areas. Some ideas here are quick and easy. Others take time and consciousness. AND, they are all helpful. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Answers to...Why do I say toxic things about myself?Why am I so hard on myself?Why am I not satisfied with my body? How can I focus more clearly on my health?What are the seven "must-haves" for a healthy body?What mindset shifts do I need to create a healthier life?>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________GUEST: BRIANNA WILKERSONBrianna Wilkerson is the Founder/CEO of Made Well 345, LLC. She is a Holistic Health & Life Coach with a heart to see women learn what healthy living really means so they can overcome yo-yo dieting, honor their bodies and get a healthy body they love and are proud of. She is also an Essential Oils Advocate for doTERRA Essential Oils and empowers women to use non-toxic, natural solutions like essential oils for their health and those they love. She is also a Crossfit Level 1 Trainer to further serve women who want to get fit in a way that's functional, fun, and effective.FREE GIFT FROM BRIANNA WILKERSON :7 Day Healthy Body Challenge:Free 7 Day Challenge to learn how you can honor your body and get a healthy body you are proud of. GET IT HERE.CONTACT INFO FOR BRIANNA WILKERSON:Website: MadeWell345.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: @Brianna-WilkersonFacebook: @MadeWell345Instagram: @MadeWell345Twitter:  @MadeWell345YouTube: @MadeWell345CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#BriannaWilkerson #holistichealthcoach #healthierbody #wanttofeelbetter #detoxmylife#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Oh, a little--maybe, an understatement--controversy here! You'll want to weigh in in the comments, I'm betting. Elliott Katz, today's guest, suggests that today's man is confused about his role in a relationship. Could be. What do you think? Of course, we talked about this at length. When I read Katz' book, Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants, I had big reactions and equally big questions that I could hardly wait to ask him. My sense was that there is a subtext of taking charge in the relationship--and, not always in mutual ways. So, I asked about that. I wanted to know if he could embrace my idea that healthy relationships are built on equality, reciprocity, and mutuality. Hmmmm....interesting conversation! Katz says, " Men today have heard a bewildering messages about being a man in a relationship and can't understand why these ideas aren't working and women are so frustrated with them. Elliott Katz shares insights about being a man that many men today weren't taught. Interestingly, women tell men, "These is what I have been trying to tell you all this time." That sparked a big conversation for sure! I'm looking forward to hearing your thoughts on this episode. Join in and like my Facebook page and comment: https://www.facebook.com/Emotional-Savvy-The-Relationship-Help-Show-2309873335890968/?modal=admin_todo_tour HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What Elliott Katz means by a "strong man"A controversial view on decision-making for couplesDifficulties men have to calibrate the difference between leading and controllingKatz' view on manipulationThreats are not suitable communication >>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________GUEST: ELLIOTT KATZElliott Katz is the author of Being the Strong Man A Woman Wants: Timeless wisdom on being a man that is helping men around the world improve their relationships. It has been translated into 24 languages by publishers in Europe, Asia, Latin America and Africa. For men who can't understand why women are frustrated with them, he shows them what they need to do to gain a woman's love and respect and inspire her to be his partner.FREE GIFT ELLIOTT KATZ :Not at this time. CONTACT INFO FOR ELLIOTT KATZ:Website: ElliottKatz.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elliott.katz.9 Instagram:Twitter:  YouTube: CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#ElliottKatz #strongmen #relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #difficultconversations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is positive self-talk always positive? is it effective? Does positive self-talk have any downsides? Can it always work? Important questions, and today's guest, Dr. Marcia Reynolds, has given this a tremendous amount of thought and consideration. Such valuable work! Dr. Reynolds says, "Rationalizing and defending your behavior keeps you nestled in a safe and suffocating world. Mustering the courage to say, "Yes!" in the face of fear is a great gift to give yourself." (from her book, OutSmart Your Brain: How to Manage Your Mind When Emotions Take the Wheel. In today's episode, we talk about conversations with yourself and with others that demonstrate respect, and positive intentions. Why is that so important? Find out. Listen in. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What it means to "outsmart your brain"What is "The Discomfort Zone"?Why we often prefer a safe, suffocating worldWhen and why positive self-talk is ineffectiveThree ways to mentally prepare for a difficult conversationWhat's Dr. Reynolds' AID model and how to use it >>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________GUEST: DR. MARCIA REYNOLDS Dr. Marcia Reynolds, Master Certified Coach, is fascinated by the brain, especially what triggers feelings of connection, commitment, and possibility. She draws on her research as she helps people make their difficult conversations become a difference-making experience. She has provided executive coaching, leadership and personal development training programs, and keynote speaking in 41 countries. This highly sought-after behavioral scientist is happily obsessed with uncovering the latest discoveries in neuro/behavioral research and putting them into practical applications. With a doctoral degree in Psychology, and two master’s degrees in Adult Learning and Communications, Marcia’s expertise ranges from holding powerful conversations to activating the emotions of passion and courage at work and at home. Dr. Reynolds is the Training Director for the Healthcare Coaching Institute at Virginia Tech. She was the 5th global president of the International Coach Federation. She is also faculty for the International Coach Academy in Russia and Create China Coaching in China. She is recognized by the Global Gurus as the #3 coach in the world. Interviews and excerpts from Marcia’s books -- Outsmart Your Brain: How to Manage Your Mind When Emotions Take the Wheel; The Discomfort Zone: How Leaders Turn Difficult Conversations into Breakthrough; and Wander Woman: How High-Achieving Women Find Contentment and Direction have appeared in many places including Psychology Today, Fast Company, Forbes.com, The Globe and Mail, and The Wall Street Journal. When you face difficult conversations, Dr. Reynolds can help you flip defensiveness, create rapport, and connect in more meaningful ways. When she has the opportunity to be home, Marcia can often be found hiking the beautiful mountains in Arizona. You can learn more about Dr. Reynolds on her website, www.outsmartyourbrain.comFREE GIFT FROM DR. MARCIA REYNOLDS :ebook: From the Pits to the Peak: A new look at making life changes GET IT HERE.CONTACT INFO FOR DR. MARCIA REYNOLDSWebsite: OutsmartYourBrain.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: @MarciaReynoldsFacebook: @OutsmartYourBrainInstagram: Twitter:  @BMarciaReynoldsYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/MarciaReynoldsCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #outsmartyourbrain #drmarciareynolds #positiveselftalk #difficultconversations #preparefordifficultconversation #covisioning Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you Co-Parenting with a slippery, toxic ex who tries to turn the children against you? Today's guest, Coach Nikki Bruno, had that experience, and she fought back...successfully! I asked her about her experiences leading to her development of her 10-Step Plan to counter parental alienation, and she shared her story. You'll want to hear it!Staying calm and carrying on after going through a difficult, toxic relationship followed usually by a difficult, toxic, drawn-out court battle is difficult! Many of my clients tell me that they were so exhausted during this all that they didn't know if they could get through it all. They did!And, so did Nikki Bruno. Fortunately, she was simply not going to take parental alienation lying down. She stood up, moved forward, and took a pro-active stance against parental alienation from her ex. Her free gift to you below is her 10-Step plan. Wondering about these search topics? Today's episode of #EmotionalSavvy will give you great insights: how to stop parental alienationparental alienation how to stop itparental alienation syndrome how to stop itsteps to take against parental alienation>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why parental alienation is child abuseWhy parental alienation is emotional abuseWhy parental alienation is parental abuseSteps to take to confront parental alienation ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________GUEST: COACH NIKKI BRUNONikki Bruno became a professional coach in 2016, after 15 years in the book-publishing industry. In her core coaching program, The Epic Comeback, she helps women build joyful lives after being sidelined by divorce, domestic abuse, illness, or loss. Nikki holds a bachelor’s degree in anthropology from Princeton University and a master’s degree from the Harvard School of Education. A single mom of two, Nikki loves scuba diving, international travel, and helping women rediscover how incredible they are. Nikki’s work has been featured in Best Self Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Bustle, Glassdoor, and several podcasts, among other media outlets.FREE GIFT FROM COACH NIKKI BRUNO:Download her COUNTERING PARENTAL ALIENATION IN TEN STEPS gift at https://bit.ly/2klfRO5CONTACT INFO FOR COACH NIKKI BRUNO:Website: CoachNikkiBruno.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nikki.bruno2Instagram: Twitter:  YouTube: CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #parentalalienation #CoachNikkiBruno #stoppingparentalalienation #coparentingwithatoxicex #difficultcustodybattle #counteringparentalalienation Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Kids don't always grow out of things. They grow through things!And, you need to be there to see it, understand it, and know what to do to help when things seem to be going sideways! Today's guest, Dr. Brian Licuanan, and I talk about the difficulties in seeing problems kids want to hide from us, whether we're their parent, grandparent, teacher, or coach. It's very confusing to them because their brain development is not equipped to handle so much of it. Yet, they think they should be able to.And, you as a parent, maybe think you should know what to do. You may, but if you're like most parents, you do not. You may have some ideas, but how do you get into the tough conversations with your kid?Often, when you bring up a tough subject like your teen's emotional well-being, you are met with eye-rolling, and a quick escape from the room, right? Don't give up. Today we talk about ways to engage your kid in conversation and about tough things. It's not easy, and it takes perseverance.You may need to get outside help for your family, too. Dr. Licuanan and I talk about this, and how to know when to reach out.Today's episode may be just what you need to answer the questions:"How do I bridge the gap between me and my teen?","What do I need to know about talking with my teen so I can feel helpful rather than feeling helpless?"HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:How to know the difference between enabling, condoning, and actually helping your teenLinks between self-esteem, depression, anxiety, and substance abuseWhat impacts the incidence of eating disordersWhy kids are not accessing mental health services...and, why they need toSIGNS parents need to read that their child might be struggling with addiction or mental health issues How parents can take the proper steps to get a child the help needed>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING? Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________GUEST: DR. BRIAN LICUANANDr. Brian Licuanan is an addiction and mental health specialist who serves as the primary therapist at premiere treatment centers, A Better Life Recovery and A Mission for Michael, treating clients with complex mental health disorders and their co-morbidities which often includes substance abuse disorders. Additionally, he successfully treats clients struggling with anxiety, depression, stress management, PTSD, ADHD, and a variety of other severe mood disorders. Furthermore, Dr. Licuanan integrates Solution-Focused, Positive Psychology/Strength-Based, and Motivational Therapies into his treatment planning with clients. Dr. Licuanan received his Ph.D and M.S from the University of Oklahoma and his M.A. from Pepperdine University.Realizing over 80% of his clients experience sleep deficiency, exacerbating their medical and psychological conditions, he specializes in treating sleep problems through Cognitive Behavioral Treatment for Insomnia (CBT-I) which is known to cure insomnia and has proven to be a highly effective course of treatment for those wanting to stop using sleep medications.Dr. Licuanan’s M.S in Industrial/Organizational Psychology–a specialized field of study dealing with workplace issues including leadership, work culture, motivation and job satisfaction, allows him to integrate this specialty into treatment for his clients struggling with career-related concerns. He also has helped coach various levels of executives and management on team-building and performance enhancement. Additionally, with his competition background in sports and as an active martial arts competitor, Dr. Licuanan has assisted numerous client athletes develop competitive mindsets, work through mental blocks, increase match readiness, and elevate their performance potentials. Personally, Dr. Licuanan is passionate about educating communities on mental health and addiction and volunteers as lead facilitator for the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) specifically helping families in crisis strategize ways to get loved ones into treatment. Dr. Licuanan has been featured several times on the television talk show The Doctors and is asked to present regularly within the mental health community on addiction, ways to get highly acute clients into treatment, insomnia and sleep strategies.FREE GIFT FROM DR. BRIAN LICUANAN :Not at this time. CONTACT INFO FOR DR. BRIAN LICUANAN:Website: ABetterLifeRecovery.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: Facebook: @ABetterLifeRecoveryInstagram: @ABetterLifeRecoveryTwitter:  @BetterRecoveryYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKQs4iIknPHsdypD6EdgfvQCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #helpfortroubledteens #troubledteens #teendepression #teenbullying #DrBrianLicuanan #teensmentalhealth #eatingdisorder #teensubstanceabuse Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.