Undone Redone

On this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Melody sits down with author Kristen Jenson to discuss protecting our children from pornography exposure. Kristen tells parents how to start a conversation with their kids about the dangers of pornography and how to empower them to reject it altogether. Kristen is the founder of Protect Young Minds and best-selling author of Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids and Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.: A Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds. Through her book, Jenson helps parents teach children what porn is and what children should do when they encounter it. Our listeners can learn more about Kristen by visiting https://www.protectyoungminds.org/.

On this episode of the Undone Redone podcast, Tray sits down with Kimball Lewis, CEO of EmpoweringParents.com to discuss parenting during the pandemic. Kimball lays out the process of how parents can properly instruct and work with their children through the pandemic. This includes using technology for both classes and entertainment, how parents can set guidelines for their kids while learning from home, and how to properly discipline them if boundaries are crossed. Our listeners can learn more about Kimball and his ministry by visiting EmpoweringParents.com.

On this episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody are finally back to usher in Season 9 of the show! They discuss the many projects and courses they have been working on since the start of 2021, and what the future holds for The Undone Redone Podcast.

On this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with returning guest John Lynch to discuss his new book, On My Worst Day: The Narrative Changes When Redemption Enters In, and the performance treadmill so many men and women find themselves on when pursuing their faith. John talks about getting out of this orphaned mindset that many men fall into, that God is not just standing on the sidelines wringing His hands and shaking His head at us. John then asks our listeners "What if every single moment of every single day—He had been magnificently redeeming your worst days into your best ones?" Our listeners can learn more about John on his website. https://www.johnlynchspeaks.com/, and purchase On My Worst Day here on amazon, https://www.amazon.com/My-Worst-Day-Narrative-Redemption/dp/1775246892.

Tray and Melody are joined on this episode by author Laine Craft to tell her story of starting her marriage again from scratch. Laine shares how she and her husband Steve worked through years of strife and hardship to reform their marriage in order to find a new, more healthy “dance” together. Laine also explains how she has walked with thousands of women who have faced everything from abuse and betrayal to simply "falling out of love" with their spouse and how God teaches us to pick up the pieces and start again from scratch. Our listeners can learn more about Laine as well as purchase her books by visiting lainelawsoncraft.com.

On this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray chats with authors Dan Britton and Jimmy Page to discuss their latest book, Wisdom Walks, and the four relationships men must have in their lives. Dan and Jimmy break down these four relationships: The Walker, The Warrior, The Watchman, and The Workman, and how we can use these four relationships to become the best version of ourselves and to maximize our emotional connection with others. They also discuss what it means to walk purposefully with Jesus and begin to live a life of meaning and significance that we were created for. Our listeners can learn more about Dan and Jimmy as well as purchase their book Wisdom Walks by visiting http://www.wisdomwalks.org/.

On this week's show, Tray and Mel have a conversation with Joe and Hilarie Barry about surviving infidelity. Hilarie courageously shares what it was like to be blindsided by Joe's infidelity, the emotional rollercoaster of partner betrayal, and how she deals with the resulting PTSD-like symptoms.  Joe speaks about his need for help in getting well, working through his addiction, and what his journey to recovery has looked like. Today, they speak with other couples dealing with infidelity and show that there is hope and healing after the pain of betrayal. Our listeners can pick up a copy of Hilarie's Book, We Survived Infidelity, on Amazon by clicking here and can contact Hilarie directly by visiting her website at https://hilariebarry.com/.

On this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with returning guest Sharon Hersh to discuss belonging. Sharon asks our listeners an important question, "What would happen if you declared that life is not all about your pain, your accomplishments, your abuse, or your rights?" She helps us explore what could happen in each of us if we bravely embrace the truth of the innate worthiness and welcome God freely offers to all. Our listeners can learn more about Sharon and pick up her book "Belonging" by visiting her website: http://www.sharonhersh.com/

Author Gordon Dalbey joins Tray on this week’s episode to discuss his seminal book for men, Healing the Masculine Soul. Gordon shares his thoughts about why so many men struggle with their masculinity and how true manhood is discovered and the power to walk it out in our lives. He explains that the source of men's struggles is multifaceted…from our current throwaway culture surrounding divorce, the rapid spread and abuse of pornography, to the sense of shame that often gets masked by excessive self righteousness and pride. Our listeners can learn more about Gordon and his work, purchase his book, Healing the Masculine Soul, and contact him directly by visiting his site at  https://www.abbafather.com/.

This week Tray sits down with author and coach GS Youngblood. GS Youngblood is the author of the book The Masculine in Relationship and a coach who teaches men how to learn to live, love, and lead in their partnerships. He walks our listeners through the 3-Part blueprint to develop a masculine core in their relationship and learn that the model of masculine power doesn't have to encroach on their wives and their feminine power. Our listeners can learn more about GS by visiting his website https://www.gsyoungblood.com/ and purchase The Masculine in Relationship here: https://amzn.to/2GYH6Zu

On this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody chat with Ian Cron, the “champion of the Enneagram”. Ian is the best-selling author of the book The Road Back To You and host of the popular podcast, Typology. Ian shares his personal story—a journey that led him through pain, cynicism, and restoration—and ultimately into the Enneagram. In this interview, Ian explains the 9 types of people identified by the Enneagram and how our personalities are powerfully influenced by our motivations. From identifying self-awareness to working with the ego and learning to not take oneself too seriously, Ian gives our listeners the tools they need to better understand where they fall on the Enneagram and what they can learn as a result of this knowledge. Our listeners can learn more about Ian and all of his works by visiting https://ianmorgancron.com and can listen to the Typology Podcast by visiting https://typologypodcast.com.

On this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Tray sits down with author Bruce Pagano to discuss his newest book, Three Commands: Jesus' Fulfillment of the Law Through Love, and what it truly means to love one another, especially after infidelity. He shares the story that lead him to write the book and how he is using it to minister to others throughout the country as a professional counselor. Bruce also talks about how loving each other as members of Christ’s body unlocks the fullness of a relationship with God, which equips us to lead others into His kingdom. Our listeners can learn more about Bruce by visiting his website, https://brucepagano.com/, and purchase his book on Amazon by going to https://amzn.to/3i2lY2p.

On this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody talk with author and speaker Randy Hemphill as he shares his story of going through the trauma of betrayal as a man. Randy shares his experience with grieving through his betrayal and how important it is for men to allow themselves to properly grieve after experiencing infidelity in marriage. He also shares that there comes a time in every man's journey with God where tips and techniques on how to be better simply do not work. Instead of trying to change ourselves through willpower and effort, Randy reminds us that only God can bring about lasting heart-change. You can learn more about Randy's ministry and purchase his new book, The Restored Man: Becoming a Man of God, by visiting https://therestoredman.com/.

On this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody chat with author and speaker Sharon Hersh. Sharon shares the idea that addiction can be a gift and that oftentimes the areas that are shattered by trauma and betrayal are the areas that needed to be addressed in a marriage. Sharon explains it does not excuse the abuser for creating the trauma in the relationship, but that the brokenness that comes from addiction helps to create a new paradigm in the relationship that can be the catalyst to break free from addiction as a whole.  Ms. Hersh received an M.A. from Colorado Christian University, and is a Licensed Professional Counselor. She is the mother of two college-aged children and she is a frequent speaker at universities, seminaries, conferences, and retreats. Sharon has written numerous books such as Bravehearts: Unlocking the Courage to Love with Abandon, Mom, Sex Is No Big Deal, and The Last Addiction. Our listeners can learn more about Sharon by visiting http://www.sharonhersh.com/ and purchase her books on Amazon. This a phenomenal episode for anyone struggling in their marriage and we strongly recommend you check out Sharon's Book, The Last Addiction on Amazon.

On this week’s episode of the Undone Redone podcast, Marnie Ferree returns to talk about healing from betrayal trauma with Melody. Marnie is the founder of Bethesda Workshops, a program that specializes in providing a place of healing for those damaged by pornography and other forms of sexual addiction.  She and Melody discuss how women that have experienced betrayal can begin to rebuild their lives after their trust is shattered. Marnie then explains that we all need help in walking through our addictions and our wounds. Our listeners can get access to all of Marnie's resources at https://www.bethesdaworkshops.org/ Quotes from this episode: “Forgiveness is an intellectual decision not an emotional one. That means you make a conscious choice no matter how you feel. You may still be angry, yet you forgive. You may still be in pain, but you forgive. You may still be wearing the scars of the abuse, but you forgive.” - Marnie Ferree "Very often, it is the recognition of betrayal by a spouse that helps to illuminate a woman's story." - Marnie Ferree

On this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Melody chats with Dr. Sheri Keffer about the impact of betrayal trauma and the path forward to recovery. Dr. Sheri Keffer received her PhD in Marriage and Family Therapy and her Master of Arts Theology, both from Fuller Theological Seminary. She currently specializes in individual, couples and family therapy at her private practice in Newport Beach, California. She explains how the trauma of betrayal affects our minds, bodies, spirits, and sexuality. Dr. Keffer also provides women new tools they can utilize when dealing with emotional triggers and helps educate on the realities of sexual addiction. Finally, she shows women how they can begin practicing self-care, develop healthy boundaries, protect themselves from abuse or manipulation, and discover freedom from the burden of shame and guilt. Our listeners can learn more about Dr. Sheri Keffer by going to her website: https://drsherikeffer.com/. Quotes from this Interview: “A partner who is betrayed needs two things that are critical to heal: safety and truth. Until they have those two things, a betrayed partner cannot settle into their body.” - Sheri Keffer “The first step of recovery, whether you are staying with your partner or not, is recovery for yourself.” -Sheri Keffer Thanks for watching! http://www.undoneredone.com  Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/undoneredone?sub_confirmation=1 Q&A with Mel & Tray, every Wednesday at 2 PM CST! https://undoneredone.com/ask Undone Redone on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/undoneredone Undone Redone on Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/undoneredone Undone Redone on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/undoneredone  

On this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray chats with Wendell Moss, a therapist at The Allender Center, to share his story and to specifically discuss racial trauma. The conversation about racial injustice in America is currently dominating conversations and Wendell breaks down his own experiences with racial trauma and how he was able to work through and heal from those traumas. He also explains what we as a country can do to begin listening and engaging the conversation to help those struggling with racial injustice. Our listeners can learn more about Wendell on The Allender Center's website: https://theallendercenter.org/about/team/wendell-moss/. This episode is a great follow up to the conversation we had with the Castille family last week, so we highly encourage you to listen to that as well by going to https://youtu.be/1M69jfI_J2E.

On this week's episode of the Undone Redone podcast, Tray and Melody welcome a long-awaited guest to the show, Marnie Ferree. Marnie is the founder of Bethesda Workshops, a program that specializes in helping those struggling with sexual brokenness and was the first of its kind to help female sex addicts in what was thought to be a "male only issue." Marnie shares her struggles with infidelity and sexual brokenness, how she has created workshops and resources to help other women, and why it is so important to approach sex addiction as a human issue rather than a purely male or female one. Her book, No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction, was one of the earliest books on female sex and love addicts and provides crucial information for women looking to escape the cycle of sex addiction. Our listeners can learn more about all the resources Marnie has available by visiting bethesdaworkshops.org/ and can check out her book at https://amzn.to/37mET39.

On this week’s episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Melody sits down with returning guest Leslie Vernick to discuss walking through betrayals, infidelity, and heartbreak in a relationship. Leslie gives our listeners some tips on how to recognize a toxic person or a toxic relationship and what you can do in those situations. She also explains how and when to set appropriate boundaries, when to confront or to forbear, and how to let go of all those negative messages that can be swirling around in our heads. You can learn more about Leslie’s resources at https://leslievernick.com/ and purchase a copy of her book, The Emotionally Destructive Marriage: How to Find your Voice and Reclaim your Hope, by going to https://amzn.to/306vCLg.

On this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody chat with returning guest, Dr. Barbara Lowe, to discuss the COVID-19 pandemic from a mental health perspective. Dr. Lowe discusses ways to treat your physical, mental, and spiritual health during quarantine, and, even as life begins to return to normal, what we can do to address lingering issues in our personal lives. She also provides resources that help treat the issues that go deeper than the stress of the pandemic, like https://drbarbaralowe.com/findyourhappy/. You can learn more about Dr. Lowe and the services she offers at her website: https://drbarbaralowe.com/