Unhinged & Unapologetic

Let’s discuss the elephant in the room! The piping hot tea! The story everyone has been waiting for! I’m actually just kidding! Due to some unforeseen unhingedness, we will not be spilling as much tea as anybody might think but we are gonna talk about is what it is like when someone has too much time on their hands and they’ve built you an entire plot of land in their head to live rent free! When someone decides to build you a plot of land in their head, it is because they are delusional enough to think that you care enough about it! When insecurity meets security, it scrambles peoples brains and we need to have a larger conversation about it so let’s get into it.

Let’s break down the stereotype of alpha females! Let’s discuss how Alpha females were a man-made created thing and that weak men created strong females! This episode is not just for The Girlies but I cannot stress enough. If You are not ready to hear this as a man quit listening Let’s discuss what it is like to be one of the boys and when it goes too far and what it is like to navigate through male friendships while being a female who is strong willed and does have a good sense of boundaries and healthy, communication and healthy attachment styles! We also discussed a little bit about upcoming guest spots, so be on the lookout for that and also DM me if you are interested in coming on the podcast as a guest and sharing your story or your healing and mental health journey!

Can you guys believe that this is already season two!? Let’s recap the last year talk about some of the highs, the lows, the guests, the jokes, the unhinged us! Let’s talk about all the things we learned and everything that we embraced over the year and then we’re going to cover a new topic! This is a little bit chaotic because I was coming off of a two week hiatus and my dog was absolutely going nuts in the background so it’s a bit chaotic, but I want to get the point across about when you were sure of yourself hanging around people who aren’t sure of themselves is going to piss you off. Their low vibration is going to try to mess with the higher vibration that you operate on. So let’s talk about what that looks like.

It’s men’s mental health awareness month! Now I know you guys are sitting here saying it’s also pride month, but I don’t believe that they should share a month. I believe that every man should be allowed to feel his feelings and he should be allowed to express them! So let’s talk about why it is so normalized for them not to be talked about and why men’s mental health awareness needs to be a bigger priority in our lives! We need to be listening to men’s feelings and taking them just as seriously as we would, a women’s and men also need to be showing up for the men that they care about. So let’s get into why it is so normalized for men to dismiss their feelings, not address, mental illness, and suffering in silence! We as a society have done men a disservice by not allowing them to feel their feelings and that’s what I’m here to talk to you guys about!!!

I had a whole other topic in mind but recent events change that. So let’s discuss what it is like to be emotionally available and date someone who is not. Let’s talk about what we learn from relationships rather than the things that hurt us in relationships. I learned more in two months than I did in 10 years about myselfand let’s get into what it’s like to be set free from the chains of not being able to communicate your emotions adequately! Also, let’s air out some dirty laundry 😈

Originality isn’t yours own! We need to start being flattered for inspiring people to make bold gestures and choices not offended by their choice in how to style what you showed them! Making things your own is a culmination of all the interactions you’ve ever had in your life . All with things and people you’ve loved. Let’s talk about it!!

Why do we always wait until funerals to tell people how we feel? There is this large culture that says that we are not supposed to express our feelings because it may or may not be too much. I think that that culture is BS. Everyone deserves to be told that someone is proud of them or someone is thinking of them, and we should not be waiting until a funeral to truly express how we feel about a person. While it is wonderful during that time, but that person is gone, and we should’ve been saying all of these things all along. I recorded this on my best friend’s birthday who passed away in 2016 and I think that he would really appreciate this message and it would ring for a lot of people who have experienced the loss in their life.

This has nothing to do with Mother’s Day!!! This is not bend it like Beckham! Your boundaries are meant to stay in place for a reason! You set them in place for a reason! You uphold them for a reason in this episode we are going to dive into what it looks like for me to understand why I chose to be so flexible with my boundaries And ultimately get hurt by it. I always told you guys that we would grow together and that’s the truth. I’m navigating this weird world just as much as you guys are and I never expected that I was going to have to be flexible with the boundary or that I was going to need to figure out what it looked like to be flexible with said boundary. So let’s talk about it.

The trend has been going around! I wanted to give my thoughts! I want to share with you some hot takes and some facts! The truth is women are choosing bear and there’s a larger conversation to be had as to why these women are choosing bear. But guess what? I will go into the woods with Winnie the Pooh all day before I ever go into the woods with the unsuspecting man. So I wanna unpack the idea of we don’t get to choose what type of bear and we don’t get to choose what type of man you were just asking us to choose between a man or a bear. So let’s bring some levity to the conversation. Let’s bring some knowledge to the conversation and let’s have a conversation about why the answer is bear

Audacity is just on sale apparently! Y’all are wild. If you think that you need to be breaking your back for somebody who wouldn’t even lift a finger for you. The way people just go around, trying to gain access to people without ever reciprocating the same things is nuts to me. I fully and wholeheartedly believe that you deserve the entire world and if people around you don’t also believe that those are not your people so let’s talk about it.

⚠️SA awareness month⚠️ #saam the saddest part about months like this that exist is that they exist! In the hopes of sharing my story, I want to be able to shed some light on the real life statistics of why this month exists, and how many people it really does affect, including myself. I want to give you guys the resources and the outlets to be able to tell your story, and to reach out whoever you need to because your story deserves to be told. we need to be able to shed light on these topics that are so swept under the rug and so normalized in Hollywood and in society and that’s just not OK. I would not be a survivor and an advocate for these things if I did not make an episode strictly for this for the purpose of helping my community and the safe space that I built, I love you all and as I always say, my DM’s are open and you can DM me anything that you would like about the episode or if you just want to talk about your experience I am here for you always💕

For my flight or flight people if you know you know! I want to talk to you guys about my journey this past week of accepting what it is like to not live in survival mode anymore! It’s a bit of a shameless plug, but we’re gonna go through this together because this is what I’ve been experiencing and realizing that living a peaceful life doesn’t have to be forced and it doesn’t have to be something that you strive for but it does need to be something that you accept. You do not need to be at war with yourself to be able to live a full life! So let’s grow through this together

Your comments are not a reflection of who you are. This week we’re diving into what it is like to be so brave to live your life online and have your bravery threatened other people. The idea that somebody can come into your comments and comment on your appearance, because they do not know you, and how to understand that those comments mean more about who that person is than who you are. Cancel culture applies to every single human being out there but guess what when you’re self-aware enough that stuff will not bother you. You have to be willing to accept the criticism that comes along with being brave enough to share your story online. It translates to real life but people usually aren’t brave enough to say the things that they would say online to a persons face. Social media gives people a glimpse into your life, but it does not give them a glimpse into who you are hold true to who you are and understand that you are, you for a reason!

Let’s have a hard conversation! Let’s have a conversation about how when it comes to intentions no one is honest about anything that they mean! We need to be able to be self-aware enough to know that we are lying to ourselves to other people, and if we cannot live a life with pure intentions Taking the religious nature out of that statement and understanding that if your intentions are what you intend to do, why are you speaking them out loud?! We live in such a deceitful society, how are we supposed to discern real from fake? You can’t face your intentions, so why are you even trying?

Also, this is the 40th episode!!!!! In this episode, we are going to talk about what it is like for the peaks and valleys of getting what we wish for! It does not matter what you worship what you work for what you pray for what you have asked the universe for; what matters is that? It is not going to come to you in traditional fashion, and be handed to you on a silver platter, even though it’s what you wished for hoped for prayed for and asked for. I want everyone to understand that getting what you want is not going to look the way that it is supposed to or the way that you have cooked it up in your mind so you need to be prepared for that and here’s how we prepared for it…

Thank you guys for being so patient! I want to talk to you guys today about what happens when you stay in environments that are not conducive to your growth! We’re going to go over mansplaning and how it is not limited to just MEN. We’ve talked a lot about growth on this podcast and being on our healing journeys and everything that we have gone through and dealt with and I want to talk to you guys about how we navigate being in a growth mindset in an environment that will not allow us to grow, and where we have overstayed our welcome!

How do you determine yourself worth? Do you think that other people determine your value? Or are you self-aware enough to know that your value comes from within? I want to talk to you guys a little bit about what it’s like to set the price and know that you do not need to beg to be understood or beg to be seen or beg to be valued. We’ve been at this for 38 weeks. It’s time that we start acting like we’ve been at it for 38 weeks growing changing evolving, and valuing ourselves!

Let’s discuss how keeping the peace saves. There is no reason why you need to spare the reputation of anyone to protect what’s happening behind closed doors. Let’s dive into all the things that we’ve allowed and all of the things that we’ve kept secrets on. We need to be able to be open and honest about how we’re worthy of telling our own stories. Our story deserves to be heard so does theirs but that’s why there’s three parts to every story, yours mine and the truth!!!

In this episode, we talk about how people who have been in your life that you’ve been vulnerable with, and they’ve decided to weapon past pain. We talk about their insecurities and how them weapon past pain has made it, so they feel like they are on some sort of mighty claim that they can make you feel bad about yourself. The difference is they cannot take ownership over your pain nor can they take ownership over inflicting the pain, so where does that leave them? If they have nothing to gain from insulting you who you are today, they have to go off of past pain that you’ve experience at the end of someone else. It’s giving desperate it’s giving insecure and it’s giving we don’t have time for people like that. Let’s dive into my own personal experiences with this, but also talk about how insecure those people must be and how stupid they must sound.

This weird week we are going to talk a rational fears! We are talking everything is on the table, and nothing is off-limits. We are going to go off script off the menu and fully dive into the fact that we all know that these fears are irrational, but we’re coming together, because we are not the only ones who experience these!everyone has been talking about the last few weeks. I’ve been kind of heavy and I’ve been kind of hard so let’s open it up with some laughs some jokes and just some real life shit that we know is weird and wild, but we embrace it.