Voice Memos

Effort vs. bare minimum and why old-school gestures still matter. I’m breaking down compatibility, complementary, chemistry … and giving my unfiltered take on the Taxi Cab Theory. Tough love, straight talk and a little tea !DON’T FORGET TO FOLLOW AND RATE❤️

Two of my exes popped back into my life in the same week. I unpack how those conversations forced me to look at old patterns, why I’ve mistaken chaos for connection in the past, and what I’m no longer willing to tolerate. From trauma bonds to fearful-avoidant attachment to raising my standards, I’m sharing the lessons that are reshaping how I date in my 20s. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a cycle with someone, this one’s calling out both you and me❤️Honorary mention to Unc🕺

Six months ago, I turned down the biggest job offer of my life and recorded an episode mid-breakdown about betting on myself. This is the follow-up I promised. In this episode, I reflect on everything that’s changed since! From feeling disconnected to building the exact life, career, and relationships I once only wrote about.This episode is dedicated to the people who walked in right as I was starting to lose faith...and unknowingly began healing a heart they didn’t break. Thank you for taking me under your wing.❤️🪽

Based on a true story <3 Catfishing, drunk confessions, a 24-hour boyfriend, and a first date that didn’t quite match the chaos of our introduction. Unpacking the in between space with dating, red flags, some unhinged nonsense and a reminder not to let anyone’s limited view of you shake what you know to be true.  

My new job, dream apartment, shifting friendships, dating updates… and yes, cheating exes. I’m finally living the life I once prayed for, while calling out the bare minimum behavior I refuse to entertain anymore. This episode is all about growth, boundaries, divine timing, and standing on business. If you’re in your comeback era or ready to enter it, press play !

HAPPY 24TH BIRTHDAY TO ME💙To a year of grounded growth, elevation, aligned choices and being unapologetically me. I love you all, thanks for coming along for 23.

Landing my dream job, dream apartment, and a fresh start just before my 24th birthday — The worst week of my life quickly turned into the BEST. I open up about the mental resilience it took to navigate rejection, burnout, toxic relationships, and setbacks, and how choosing alignment over pressure led to everything falling into place. I reflect on full-circle moments, like manifesting the exact role I was once told I wasn’t qualified for, and the power of trusting divine timing. This episode is a reminder that your breakdown might just be the beginning of your breakthrough.ANONYMOUS QUESTIONS/ADVICE BELOW:https://forms.gle/95UpRtCXm22BccU37

I’m scared to post this. High functioning depression, the guilt of letting go, and the beauty of making space for more aligned connections. I’m unpacking the uncomfortable but necessary process of outgrowing — jobs, friendships, old versions of myself, and even dating patterns. From feeling disconnected at work to setting new boundaries in my relationships, this is a raw, unfiltered look at what it means to evolve when everything around you starts to feel misaligned. If you’ve been feeling stuck, lonely, or like you’re quietly growing out of your old life, this one’s for you.ANONYMOUS QUESTIONS LINK:https://forms.gle/95UpRtCXm22BccU37

For my girls and guys… I’m giving you the ultimate glow-up blueprint to become your hottest, most confident self. I’m breaking down daily, weekly, and monthly habits that will transform you physically, mentally and emotionally. From fitness and self-care to mindset shifts and deep conversations, we’re covering everything you need to elevate. Let’s get disciplined, let’s get intentional — let’s get hot!!!🔥❤️‍🔥HOBOKEN PSYCHO MIKES 8:30PM MARCH 8th‼️ANONYMOUS QUESTIONS LINK:https://forms.gle/95UpRtCXm22BccU37

F*CK THE OPPS & STOP CARING WHAT THEY THINK. Especially athletes & exes ;)I’m diving into the power of owning your truth and the power of quiet confidence. When you are grounded in your “why” you radiate energy that attracts the right people and opportunities—maybe even professional athletes. I share how vulnerability and accountability leads to real growth. If you’re showing up and doing the work, GIVE YOURSELF MORE CREDIT! And fuck the opps, don’t let anyone’s judgement slow you down. Sorry for the audio at points‼️‼️ASK ANONYMOUS QUESTIONS OR GIVE FEEDBACK:https://forms.gle/95UpRtCXm22BccU37

Opening up about my terrifying car accident experience and the emotional aftermath. Then switching gears and diving into the idea of “fake crazy” and how my confident allows me to navigate dating with humor and self-assurance. Story time on showing up to a guy’s place uninvited + a Valentine’s Day message💝

Too many men want access to you without the accountability that comes with it—and I’m officially done serving the cake. In this episode, we’re talking about inconsistency, mixed signals, and the reality of men who suddenly “aren’t ready” right after getting what they want. I’m sharing personal stories, therapy takeaways, and the hard truth about why effort shouldn’t be conditional. Plus, if he really regrets losing you, he better be writing and sending that damn letter… maybe even with flowers attached ;)Ladies, we are not settling for crumbs anymore. Tune in, take notes, and let’s close the kitchen for good.🍰

If you feel triggered by this episode, you’re part of the problem!!! Share this with your ex or situationship😘 I’m breaking down the epidemic of low-effort men—why they do it, why I’ve accepted it in the past, and how I’m finally raising the damn bar. From breadcrumbing and last-minute plans to guys who “don’t date to marry” (but somehow expect wife energy), I’m calling it all out. If you’re tired of waiting, hoping, and holding the door open for someone who refuses to step up, this one’s for you. The door’s unlocked—but this time, he’s going to have to open it himself.

The people around you can make or break your personal growth. Today I’m discussing letting go of negative influences, seeking out those who push you to evolve, and building connections that align with your goals. My personal stories that highlight why it’s crucial to notice how others affect your mindset. Finally, learn why embracing solitude, if necessary, can lead to stronger self-discovery and better relationships. PLUS… updates on last week’s chaos. If you’re ready to level up your circle, this episode is for you.DON’T FORGET TO FOLLOW & RATE THE PODCAST❤️❤️ (it’s anonymous)

Diving into the importance of authenticity, taking risks, and trusting your gut when it comes to making decisions that align with your true self. An honest look at navigating self-doubt, handling negative self-talk, and staying true to your values… no matter what others think. I’m here to remind you that it’s okay to take the road less traveled !! Tune in for an empowering conversation about trusting the process, taking inspired action, and building the life you truly want. See you July 27th when I’m living a very different life❤️

The title says everything you need to know. ☕️🐸The mic audio is a little rocky sometimes I APOLOGIZEEEEE.❤️Holiday Hustle Series on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@karaarbadji?_t=8rDH4SS8FtT&_r=1Ask me anonymous questions below:https://forms.gle/95UpRtCXm22BccU37

I’m spilling all the tea! From my fantasy football season, DM drama and my hot takes on dating etiquette and handling flaky behavior, we're covering it all... even the post-sleepover exit strategy. Also getting real and vulnerable about my avoidant tendencies in relationships ad sharing stories of how past experiences have shaped my current approach to intimacy and connection. Don't forget to follow and rate :)TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@karaarbadji?_t=8rDH4SS8FtT&_r=1ASK ME ANONYMOUS QUESTIONS BELOW!!!https://forms.gle/95UpRtCXm22BccU37

Sharing some insights from recent encounters with an old flame—navigating blurred lines of attraction, past hurts, and the lessons in holding space for someone who’s not quite there yet. I unpack my recent breakup and the impact of attachment styles, talk about forgiving without waiting around, and embracing the “what ifs” while building your own life without pressing pause for anyone else's potential. Plus, some humor, reflections on therapy, dating advice, and fantasy football. LOVE U ALLLSend in anonymous questions/tips below!!!https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSf_xP1V0bT4wzghzN6v5x6aEyV70yaLgRIyqGG0jxF7EvTabw/viewform

A tell all episode on my potential prison sentence, leaving my job, dating coworkers and lots of tears! We are healing the heart in more than one area this summer. Go be extra nice to someone today🩷Disclaimer … I’m not recording/editing on my usual platform so please bare with me :)Send in anonymous questions below!!! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSf_xP1V0bT4wzghzN6v5x6aEyV70yaLgRIyqGG0jxF7EvTabw/viewform

Girl & guy dates, friendships, apologies, the Jersey shore and character debriefs. Have a happy selfish summer team🩷☀️