Ever feel like life bucked you off? Whether it's in marriage, business, or faith, the fastest way to win again is to Get Back On. Join Nina Roesner in this powerful and hope-filled episode of What to Say & How to Say It as she interviews Drs. Michelle and Paul LeCompte, DVM, a couple who know firsthand what it means to fall—hard—and get back up with God's help. Now celebrating 39 years of marriage, they're embarking on a horseback journey across southern Ohio to inspire others to Get Back On—no matter what life throws at you. From healing through lupus, battling addiction, and navigating conflict in marriage and business, their story proves that God still writes beautiful stories from broken beginnings. 🪶 Paul has written several books on overcoming adversity and discovering God's purpose for your life. Check out his work here: 📚 https://a.co/d/cM2uA4M 💛 Want to support their ride and help Christian marriages thrive? Donate to the Get Back On Fundraiser for Greater Impact Ministries here: 🌱 https://greaterimpact.org/donate All proceeds go directly to healing and strengthening marriages in Christ. 🙏🏼 If you've ever struggled in your relationship or needed a reminder that God's not done with you yet—this is your episode. Don't miss it. 👇 WATCH. SUBSCRIBE. SHARE HOPE.
Struggling with conflict in your marriage? This episode of What to Say and How to Say It is for you. Join hosts Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner as they unpack the Four Stages of the Competence Model and how it mirrors God's process of transformation in marriage—from blindness and blame to wisdom and Christlike love. 💡 Discover: Why your complaints aren't working What "conscious incompetence" means (and why it's actually good news) How God uses conflict to shape us The difference between trust and respect How to partner with the Holy Spirit in your marriage healing process 📥 Download your FREE PDF: 5 Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells 📊 Take the Free Marriage Assessment: greaterimpactwives.org 🎧 Don't forget to Like, Subscribe, and hit the 🔔 to be notified when new episodes drop!
Have you or your spouse ever said, "I didn't sign up for this"? You're not alone. In this episode of What to Say and How to Say It, Nina Roesner sits down with licensed professional counselor Kyle Hargrove to explore the concept of double-edged history—how past trauma, bad choices, and unresolved emotional pain can impact your present-day marriage. They get real about: Triggers from your spouse's past (or your own) Why healing is your responsibility—not your partner's How past wounds leak into the present David's biblical example of lingering consequences What to do when your history shows up uninvited Why owning your story is the first step to healing Whether you're dealing with emotional scars, past abuse, regret, or you're just tired of living in yesterday's pain, this conversation will help you build emotional intelligence and start healing in partnership with God. 👉 Don't miss this honest, grace-filled, and practical episode. 📌 Subscribe for more tools on navigating marriage and communication with faith and wisdom. #ChristianMarriage #EmotionalHealing #MarriageHelp #EmotionalIntelligence #WhatToSayAndHowToSayIt #FaithAndMarriage #HealingFromThePast #RelationshipAdvice
In today's episode, hosts Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner talk about how to stay cool in the chaos — especially when conflict strikes at home. Learn practical tools to manage your emotions, strengthen your self-regulation, and respond rather than react. We're diving deep into emotional intelligence (EQ) from a faith-based lens — how it applies to marriage, what triggers us, and how to build resilience. Whether it's learning how to breathe through an argument or finally naming that hard emotion, this episode is full of tools you can start using today.
Is it time for coaching—or therapy? 🤔 In this raw and honest conversation, communication expert Nina Rosner teams up with Kyle Hargrove, a licensed professional counselor with 30+ years of experience, to unpack the often-blurry line between coaching and counseling. They dive into: ✅ How to spot when someone isn't ready for coaching ✅ Key emotional red flags therapists see early on ✅ Why personal responsibility is non-negotiable in growth ✅ The difference between forward movement and emotional healing ✅ Why our culture is in an accountability crisis—and how it's hurting marriages, parenting, and progress Whether you're a coach, therapist, or someone just trying to grow, this conversation will challenge you, equip you, and maybe even convict you.
Welcome back to What to Say & How to Say It! Today we're tackling a surprising truth: your well-meaning help might be damaging your marriage. We'll show you two simple, powerful tools to avoid that. Take our free marriage assessment at greaterimpact.org to find out if you're ready to mentor other couples—or if your own relationship needs a tune-up. Licensed counselor Kyle Hargrove joins us to unpack the difference between helping and hearing—and why jumping in to fix things often backfires. From car-buying gone wrong to emotional misfires, we share real stories, real tools, and how validation—not advice—is the real game-changer.
Welcome to What to Say and How to Say It, the podcast that helps you fix your marriage with wisdom and grace. I'm Shy Lewis, here with Nina Roesner, and today we're diving into the Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style—what it looks like, why it happens, and how to respond effectively in a Christian marriage. 🔎 In this episode, we cover: What dismissive avoidant behavior looks like in a relationship How to communicate clearly and calmly without triggering shutdown Why managing your emotions is key to connection How to set boundaries and follow through—without issuing ultimatums Real-life tips to avoid chasing, increase your partner's capacity, and create safe space If you're tired of walking on eggshells, visit greaterimpactwise.org to download your FREE PDF: "Five Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells" and take the free marriage assessment. This episode is for any Christian husband or wife who wants to move from conflict to connection, especially when emotional shutdowns, avoidance, or stonewalling get in the way. 💬 Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with someone who needs encouragement and clarity in their marriage journey. #ChristianMarriage #AttachmentTheory #MarriagePodcast #DismissiveAvoidant #RelationshipAdvice #FaithAndMarriage #MarriageCommunication #WhatToSayAndHowToSayIt
What if the biggest roadblock in your marriage isn't your spouse—but your own mindset? In this powerful episode of What to Say and How to Say It, Nina Roesner and licensed counselor Kyle Hargrove unpack how a closed mind, especially one masked by victimhood or pride, can paralyze growth in a relationship. They share real stories, honest truths, and godly wisdom to help you—and your marriage—move from stuck to surrendered. Ready for change? It starts with humility. 💬❤️ #MarriageHelp #ChristianMarriage #GreaterImpact #RelationshipGrowth #HumbleHeart
Welcome to today's episode of What to Say and How to Say It with Nina Roesner and licensed professional counselor Kyle Hargrove. 👋 Today, we're digging into a difficult—but essential—topic: 👉 Is your partner attached to manipulation? 👉 Are you unknowingly using manipulation in your own relationship? 👉 What's the difference between manipulation and motivation? We're unpacking attachment styles, passive-aggressive behaviors, fear of conflict, and the silent lies that erode trust over time. 😶🌫️💔 You might be surprised to learn how common manipulation is—even in well-meaning relationships—and what to do about it.
Welcome to this episode of What to Say and How to Say It! I'm Nina Roesner, and I'm here with our favorite licensed professional counselor, Kyle Hargrove. Today we're diving into a tough but important question: Is your complaining ruining your attachment? 💡 Key Takeaways: How complaining changes your brain What attachment styles really are—and how they form Can someone change their attachment style? (Spoiler: Yes!) What therapists can and can't say about someone they've never met Why it's dangerous to "diagnose" your spouse 👉 Take your next step: Visit greaterimpactlife.org to take a free marriage assessment and find out if you're ready to mentor others—or if it's time to get some help for your own relationship.
Welcome to today's episode of What to Say & How to Say It—the podcast that helps you fix your marriage with grace and truth. Today we dive into the world of respect in marriage with special guest Madison Agostini, leader of the wildly popular Respectful Wives Club (yes, 20,000 members strong!). Madison shares what it's really like to lead Christian women through the challenges of respect, boundaries, and obedience—and she does it all with humor, heart, and bold honesty.
Welcome to What to Say & How to Say It—the podcast that helps Christian married couples fix communication and build deeper connection. In this episode, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner unpack attachment theory, focusing on the anxious attachment style and how to set healthy boundaries in marriage. Learn how childhood wounds impact adult relationships, what to expect when dealing with anxious partners, and how faith, communication, and consistency can bring healing. With practical examples, biblical wisdom, and tools you can apply right now, this episode offers hope and direction for couples navigating conflict and emotional intensity. 🔗 Download our FREE PDF: 5 Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells 📊 Take the FREE Marriage Assessment ➡️ Visit: https://greaterimpactwives.org
Is complaining just venting—or is it silently reshaping your brain and relationships? 🤯 Join Nina Roesner and counselor Kyle Hargrove as they unpack the science behind chronic complaint, explore neuroplasticity, and show how shifting your words can shift your life. 💭✨ #WhatToSay #BrainHealth #StopComplaining #Neuroplasticity #MindsetMatters #GreaterImpact
Welcome to this episode of What to Say & How to Say It with Nina Roesner and Licensed Professional Counselor Kyle Hargrove! 🎙️ Today, we're diving into a powerful (and maybe convicting!) conversation: Are you creating drama in your marriage? We're breaking down the Drama Triangle — the Victim, the Villain, and the Hero — three roles you DO NOT want to play if you're serious about building a healthy, God-honoring relationship. Are you unintentionally sabotaging your marriage by trying to rescue your spouse? Are you falling into patterns of blame, manipulation, or emotional chaos? Or maybe, just maybe, you're stuck in a cycle you didn't realize you were even in… This episode is full of wisdom, humor, real-life examples, and biblical encouragement for anyone looking to stop the cycle of drama and start building connection instead. 👉 Take our FREE marriage assessment at https://greaterimpact.org to find out if coaching is right for you or if there are practical steps you can take to strengthen your marriage TODAY.
Welcome to today's episode of What to Say and How to Say It, the podcast designed to help you fix your marriage! Join Shai Lewis and Nina Rosner as they dive into the topic of the Martyr Complex—an unhealthy mindset that can trap us in conflict and distance within our relationships. In this episode, we discuss the signs of a martyr or savior complex, how they show up in our marriages, and how to break free from the victim mentality that holds us back. We also explore ways to retrain your thinking and embrace personal responsibility to bring healing to your marriage. 📌 Visit our website greaterimpactwives.org for a free PDF, "5 Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells" and take our free marriage assessment to get started on your journey toward a stronger, more connected marriage. 🔔 Subscribe for more tips on building a thriving, Christ-centered marriage!
Are you feeling stuck in your marriage? In this episode of What to Say & How to Say It, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner dive deep into the victim mindset and the lies that keep us trapped. We explore biblical truths that help rewire your thinking, build stronger connections, and navigate conflict in a godly way. 2 Corinthians 10:5 – "Take every thought captive and make it obedient to Christ." Topics Covered: The 4 lies that keep you feeling powerless How to shift from a victim to a victor mindset Why God's timing matters more than our expectations Setting healthy boundaries in marriage The truth about submission & faith over fear Free Resources! 🔹 Download: Five Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells → Visit greaterimpactwives.org 🔹 Take our Free Marriage Assessment! 💬 Let us know in the comments: Which mindset shift resonated with you the most?
Welcome to today's episode of What to Say & How to Say It! Are you the villain or the victim in your marriage? Or is your spouse? Licensed professional counselor Kyle Hargrove and host Nina Roesner dive deep into how these roles play out in relationships—and how your perception shapes everything. We'll uncover: ✅ The exhausting cycle of victimhood ✅ How villains are created (and why it's not always what you think) ✅ The power of perception in relationships ✅ What God says about complaining and taking thoughts captive Don't let toxic patterns take over your marriage! Take our free marriage assessment at greaterimpact.org and discover your next steps.
Welcome to What to Say & How to Say It, the podcast that helps you navigate conflict and build a thriving marriage. In this episode, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner continue their series on narcissism—this time exploring healing. If you've been in a relationship with a narcissistic person, you know how challenging it can be to regain your sense of self. Today, we'll discuss: ✅ The impact of prolonged exposure to narcissistic behavior ✅ How healing is possible with God ✅ The role of radical acceptance in your journey ✅ How to stop taking things personally and break free from the enemy's cycle 📥 FREE Resources: ➡ Download 5 Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells at greaterimpactwise.org ➡ Take our Marriage Assessment to see where you stand
In this episode of What to Say & How to Say It, Nina Roesner and licensed professional counselor Kyle Hargrove dive into three key ways narcissists deflect — and how these behaviors may show up in your relationships. Whether you've experienced deflection or have been guilty of it yourself, this conversation offers practical insights to help you improve communication, take ownership, and build stronger connections. 💬 Learn more at greaterimpact.org 👍 Like, share, and subscribe for more relationship insights!
We're tackling the tough and often confusing topic of narcissism — what it really is, what the experts say, and how to handle these challenging behaviors when they show up in your marriage. Are you married to a narcissist — or just dealing with narcissistic behaviors? Either way, you'll come away with practical, faith-based strategies to help you show up differently, set boundaries, and protect your heart. 👉 Download our FREE PDF: 5 Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells at greaterimpactwives.org 👉 Take our FREE Marriage Assessment to check in on your relationship.