You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for Cycle Breakers with Toxic Parents

Big news: You’re Not Crazy just joined the Bleav Podcast Network! 🎉 That means more growth, more community, and more support for cycle breakers like you. In this episode, Torie shares what this milestone means for the podcast—and then dives into the harmful “bad advice” cycle breakers often hear, like being told there’s only one right way to heal. *Want personalized support, live holiday workshops, and Torie’s updated Holiday Survival Guide? Join the Confident Boundaries Membership today: confidentboundaries.com/membership **And, get access to ad-free episodes when you join: You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In today’s episode, I’m sharing one of the most important mindset shifts for healing from narcissistic parents or emotionally immature parents: stop asking if they’re a “good person” and start focusing on their repeated behaviors. So many cycle breakers get stuck in the what ifs: What if they don’t mean to hurt me? What if they’re doing their best? What if they had a hard childhood too? But here’s the truth: your healing doesn’t depend on their intentions—it depends on their behavior. When your parent repeatedly dismisses, minimizes, or harms you despite you telling them it hurts, that’s the real issue. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why focusing on “good vs. bad” keeps you stuck in the cycle How to identify harmful patterns of behavior in your parent Practical ways to reclaim your power and protect your peace This shift will help you get out of the weeds, stop wasting energy, and finally set boundaries that stick. Resources & Next Steps: Download the Confident Boundaries App for free tools & the latest podcast episodes Join the Confident Boundaries Membership for live coaching, workshops, and 24/7 support from The Boundaries Helper GPT Subscribe to You’re Not Crazy: The Private Feed for bonus episodes and archived content Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! 🎧 Ready for More? ➔Subscribe to You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and archived episodes no longer available in the public feed: confidentboundaries.com/private ➔Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/month and the first 24 hours are free!) 📱 Download the Confident Boundaries App iOS and Android Let's be friends: tiktok.com/@theboundariescoach instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Lately, I’ve caught myself spiraling into self-gaslighting quite a bit—wondering if I’m exaggerating my childhood trauma, if maybe my mom wasn’t really a narcissist, or if I’m just “too sensitive.” If you’ve ever doubted your own reality, you’re definitely not alone. In this episode of You’re Not Crazy, I share: Why self-gaslighting shows up (especially around stressful seasons like the holidays) The hidden reasons cycle breakers start questioning themselves How I personally deal with these thoughts today—without letting them derail my healing Why it no longer scares me the way it used to Self-gaslighting doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you grew up in a toxic family system that trained you to doubt yourself. For deeper support navigating toxic family dynamics, join the Confident Boundaries Membership. You’ll get access to live coaching, holiday workshops, and The Boundaries Helper GPT—your 24/7 tool for navigating boundary challenges. Learn more at confidentboundaries.com/membership Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! 🎧 Ready for More? ➔Subscribe to You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and archived episodes no longer available in the public feed: confidentboundaries.com/private ➔Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/month and the first 24 hours are free!) 📱 Download the Confident Boundaries App iOS and Android Let's be friends: tiktok.com/@theboundariescoach instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this episode, therapist and boundaries coach Torie Wiksell (and fellow cycle breaker) exposes the myth of “no contact as a fad” and validates the years—sometimes decades—of exhausting effort cycle breakers pour into maintaining relationships with narcissistic or emotionally immature parents before making the heartbreaking decision to step back. We’ll cover: Why going no contact with a toxic parent is never taken lightly The hidden grief and guilt cycle breakers face when boundaries still aren’t respected How narcissistic parents weaponize the “estranged parent” narrative What it really takes to break the cycle of dysfunction without losing yourself If you’ve ever questioned whether you’ve “tried hard enough” with your toxic parent, this episode will give you the validation and relief you need. Next steps for support: Download the free Confident Boundaries App for tools, resources, and access to the newest episodes of the podcast. Join the Confident Boundaries Membership to get live workshops, group coaching, our private chat, and 24/7 access to the Boundaries Helper GPT. This month’s workshop is “Unspoken Grief: Mourning the Parent You Never Had.” You don’t have to navigate this cycle-breaking journey alone. Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! 🎧 Ready for More? ➔Subscribe to You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and archived episodes no longer available in the public feed: confidentboundaries.com/private ➔Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/month and the first 24 hours are free!) 📱 Download the Confident Boundaries App iOS and Android Let's be friends: tiktok.com/@theboundariescoach instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Can boundaries actually work with a toxic parent? In this week’s episode of You’re Not Crazy, host Torie Wiksell, therapist, boundaries coach, and fellow cycle breaker, unpacks one of the most common (and confusing) questions adult children of narcissistic, borderline, or emotionally immature parents ask: “Is it even possible to set boundaries with them?” Torie shares: Why boundaries aren’t about changing your toxic parent — but about protecting your peace. The messy gray area between low contact, no contact, and everything in between. How to recognize when boundaries are working — and when it’s time to consider no contact. Why “not reacting” isn’t healing (it’s just teaching yourself to tolerate more abuse). How to use boundaries as data points to make reality-based decisions about your relationship. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re “crazy” for trying to have a relationship with your toxic parent, this episode will give you clarity, validation, and the tools to keep your sanity while breaking the cycle. 👉 Want more support? Inside the Confident Boundaries Membership, you’ll find Torie’s full workshop How to Set Boundaries That Stick (Even With a Toxic Parent), live group coaching calls, a private community, and the 24/7 Boundaries Helper GPT to help you navigate these exact conversations in real time. 🔗 Join the membership today→ confidentboundaries.com/membership And if you're a therapist looking for more training on supporting your clients with emotionally immature and personality-disordered parents, join me for my upcoming training by registering here: confidentboundaries.com/therapist-training-sept-26 Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! 🎧 Ready for More? ➔Subscribe to You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and archived episodes no longer available in the public feed: confidentboundaries.com/private ➔Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/month and the first 24 hours are free!) 📱 Download the Confident Boundaries App iOS and Android Let's be friends: tiktok.com/@theboundariescoach instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In today’s episode, we’re talking about a powerful and underrated concept that every cycle breaker needs: “for now.” When you're navigating toxic family dynamics, it’s easy to get paralyzed by the pressure to make the “perfect” decision—whether it’s going no contact, setting a new boundary, or reaching out for support. But healing isn’t linear, and you're allowed to change your mind. Whether you're deep in indecision or just tired of feeling stuck, this episode will help you take the next step. Head's up: You’ll hear my sweet toddler's big feelings in the background during the second half of this episode—thanks for your patience with noise and the abrupt ending! *Now accepting a few new 1:1 coaching clients. If you're ready for personalized support, apply here: confidentboundaries.com/coaching Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! 🎧 Ready for More? ➔Subscribe to You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and archived episodes no longer available in the public feed: confidentboundaries.com/private ➔Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/month and the first 24 hours are free!) 📱 Download the Confident Boundaries App iOS and Android Let's be friends: tiktok.com/@theboundariescoach instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this episode of You’re Not Crazy, boundaries coach and licensed therapist Torie Wiksell unpacks one of the most damaging cycles cycle breakers face: being scapegoated by toxic parents. Here’s how the pattern works: your boundaries are violated again and again until you finally react—crying, yelling, or shutting down. That’s when your family points at you as “the problem.” This toxic blame-shifting convinces you that your needs are unreasonable, leading you to overextend yourself at work, in relationships, and even in friendships. We’ll cover: The scapegoat cycle: why you’re labeled “too sensitive” when the truth is the opposite. How overfunctioning shows up in adulthood—as the fixer, the peacemaker, or the one who sacrifices everything to avoid conflict. Why it feels easier to burn yourself out than to ask others to step up. Steps to reclaim your capacity by setting boundaries around your emotional, physical, and financial energy. Torie also shares her own story of overgiving in her career—and how healing meant learning to stop “lighting herself on fire to keep others warm.” If you’ve ever wondered why relationships leave you drained, or why you carry responsibility that isn’t yours, this episode will help you see the truth: it’s not you. Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! 🎧 Ready for More? ➔Subscribe to You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and archived episodes no longer available in the public feed: confidentboundaries.com/private ➔Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/month and the first 24 hours are free!) 📱 Download the Confident Boundaries App iOS and Android Let's be friends: tiktok.com/@theboundariescoach instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Feeling like you’re “not healed enough” from your toxic family patterns? You’re not broken—and you’re not alone. In this powerful episode of You’re Not Crazy, therapist and boundaries coach Torie Wiksell dismantles the harmful myth of perfect healing that keeps so many cycle breakers stuck in shame and self-judgment. You’ll learn why healing from narcissistic, borderline, or emotionally immature parents is messy, non-linear, and never a one-and-done checklist—and how chasing “completely healed” can actually block your growth. Torie shares what real progress looks like: building capacity, creating space between yourself and your triggers, and trusting that you can handle whatever arises. This episode is your reminder that two steps forward, one step back isn’t failure—it’s the actual path to freedom. You’ll walk away knowing how to measure growth more realistically, and why anyone claiming to have zero struggles is misrepresenting the human experience. Plus, Torie announces exciting news: The Confident Boundaries Membership is now just $39/month—with two weekly group coaching sessions, monthly workshops on topics like gaslighting and guilt-tripping, and a private community of cycle breakers who get it. You can even try it for free for 24 hours. If you’re ready to stop judging your healing and start building the skills and support you need to thrive, join us at confidentboundaries.com/membership. Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! 🎧 Ready for More? ➔Subscribe to You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and archived episodes no longer available in the public feed: confidentboundaries.com/private ➔Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/month and the first 24 hours are free!) 📱 Download the Confident Boundaries App iOS and Android Let's be friends: tiktok.com/@theboundariescoach instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

This week, I’m sharing a personal story I never expected to be telling: what it’s been like to go viral on TikTok as a boundaries coach for adult children of toxic parents. Spoiler alert—if you’ve ever wondered whether your healing work is actually paying off, I promise this episode will help you see your own progress more clearly. I talk about the hate comments that echoed things my narcissistic mom used to say, the emotional whiplash of visibility, and the surprising power of not needing people to understand you in order to stay steady. This is one of those “here’s what it looks like in real time” episodes—real talk, no fluff. We also talk about: The difference between therapy and coaching (and how to work together!) What emotional healing actually looks like as a cycle breaker (hint: it’s not always loud or dramatic, but it is powerful) Whether you're in the thick of it or quietly realizing how far you've come, I hope this episode helps you pause and reflect on your own growth. You’re not crazy. You’re healing. And you’re doing a damn good job. Grab one of my 1:1 Coaching Packages and let's work together! Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! 🎧 Ready for More? ➔Subscribe to You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and archived episodes no longer available in the public feed: confidentboundaries.com/private ➔Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/month and the first 24 hours are free!) 📱 Download the Confident Boundaries App iOS and Android Let's be friends: tiktok.com/@theboundariescoach instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

You’re not stuck because you’re lazy—you’re stuck because you were trained to put everyone else first. In this episode, I walk you through the mental blocks that keep cycle breakers paralyzed—especially the guilt that makes boundary-setting feel impossible. Plus, I’m sharing a one-time offer to get everything you need to finally break through—inside the Boundaries Bootcamp Bundle. Don’t miss this: it’s available through Tuesday at midnight. Click here to grab the Boundaries Bootcamp Bundle Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! 🎧 Ready for More? ➔Subscribe to You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and archived episodes no longer available in the public feed: confidentboundaries.com/private ➔Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/month and the first 24 hours are free!) 📱 Download the Confident Boundaries App iOS and Android Let's be friends: tiktok.com/@theboundariescoach instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Do you catch yourself writing paragraph-long texts just to say “no”? Do you feel the urge to explain every decision, anticipate every reaction, or soften your truth with a long-winded disclaimer? That’s not overthinking. That’s overexplaining—and it’s a trauma response. In this episode, we’re talking about the exhausting cycle of overexplaining yourself, especially if you grew up with a narcissistic or otherwise toxic parent. I’ll walk you through why it started, why it still feels so necessary, and how to start letting it go. You’ll learn: How childhood invalidation trains us to justify our existence Why toxic parents weren’t misunderstanding you—they were never interested in knowing the real you How overexplaining becomes a codependent pattern that follows us into adulthood This one’s for the cycle breakers who are tired of holding their breath after hitting send. 🎧 Prefer ad-free episodes and bonus Q&As? Join the Private Feed: confidentboundaries.com/private Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! 🎧 Ready for More? ➔Subscribe to You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and archived episodes no longer available in the public feed: confidentboundaries.com/private ➔Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/month and the first 24 hours are free!) 📱 Download the Confident Boundaries App iOS and Android Let's be friends: tiktok.com/@theboundariescoach instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Is your toxic parent’s “I’m sorry” leaving you more confused than comforted? In this episode of You’re Not Crazy, we unpack why apologies from narcissistic or otherwise toxic parents rarely feel like closure—and often reopen old wounds. You’ll learn: The signs of a real apology (and what performative regret looks like) How to stop spiraling when they say “sorry” but nothing changes A mindset shift that will help you decide whether or not to forgive If you’ve ever thought “maybe I’m being too harsh…” this episode is the clarity you’ve been needing. Jess Gleim Marketing Strategist and Meta Ads Expert. Smart, data-backed strategy that actually makes you money. Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! 🎧 Ready for More? ➔Subscribe to You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and archived episodes no longer available in the public feed: confidentboundaries.com/private ➔Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/month and the first 24 hours are free!) 📱 Download the Confident Boundaries App iOS and Android Let's be friends: tiktok.com/@theboundariescoach instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this episode, I talk about the complicated grief that surfaces once we begin setting boundaries and creating distance from toxic, narcissistic, or emotionally immature parents. I share what it looked like in my own life— the emotional toll of being a parentified child, and why our healing journey often involves mourning the milestones we missed while we were just trying to survive. This conversation is especially for those who feel behind in life, who struggle with guilt for being sad about the past, or who just need to hear that it’s okay to grieve what should have been. Because healing from a toxic parent doesn’t mean pretending it didn’t hurt—it means being honest with our reality, making space for that pain, and still choosing to move forward. If you're looking for support navigating your cycle breaking journey in real time, the Boundaries Helper GPT inside the Confident Boundaries Membership is now live and ready to help. Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! 🎧 Ready for More? ➔Subscribe to You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and archived episodes no longer available in the public feed: confidentboundaries.com/private ➔Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/month and the first 24 hours are free!) 📱 Download the Confident Boundaries App iOS and Android Let's be friends: tiktok.com/@theboundariescoach instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Big news! The Confident Boundaries App is officially live—now available for free on iPhone and Android. Inside, you’ll get instant access to a curated starter bundle of some of my favorite episodes and articles to support your healing from family dysfunction. In today’s episode, we’re digging into a question I hear often from adult children of narcissistic parents or those with unmanaged BPD: “Why do I keep ending up in toxic relationships?” When you grow up with emotionally immature or abusive parents, you're taught to dismiss your gut, minimize your needs, and tolerate mistreatment. That pattern doesn’t magically disappear in adulthood. You’re not doomed to repeat these patterns forever. You can learn healthy love—and it starts with understanding what was never your fault to begin with. 📲 Download the Confident Boundaries app now to start healing with practical tools and community support. And if this episode hit home, tap 5 stars and leave a quick review to help others find the podcast. Link to download on iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/confident-boundaries/id6746057902 Link to download on Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kj2148582879.app&pcampaignid=web_share Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! 🎧 Ready for More? ➔Subscribe to You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and archived episodes no longer available in the public feed: confidentboundaries.com/private ➔Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/month and the first 24 hours are free!) 📱 Download the Confident Boundaries App iOS and Android Let's be friends: tiktok.com/@theboundariescoach instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

If you’re breaking toxic cycles in a family marked by emotional immaturity, narcissism, or borderline traits, there’s something we don’t talk about enough: the profound loneliness that can come with healing. You’re not just setting boundaries—you’re stepping out of the role your family expected you to play. Maybe you were the peacekeeper, the fixer, the golden child, or the scapegoat. But once you stop playing by the unspoken rules, the system fights to pull you back in. What hurts the most is realizing your family often wants access to the old version of you—not the healthier, more boundaried version you’ve worked so hard to become. That rejection can feel like losing your family all over again. This episode is for the cycle breakers—the ones doing the heavy lifting, often in silence, wondering if anyone else truly gets it. You’ll learn: Why healing often feels lonelier before it feels better How to reframe your isolation as a sign of growth Where to find real, mutual support outside of dysfunctional systems Ready to connect with other cycle breakers? Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership: confidentboundaries.com/membership Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! 🎧 Ready for More? ➔Subscribe to You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and archived episodes no longer available in the public feed: confidentboundaries.com/private ➔Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/month and the first 24 hours are free!) 📱 Download the Confident Boundaries App iOS and Android Let's be friends: tiktok.com/@theboundariescoach instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Healing isn’t linear—especially when you’re the cycle breaker. In this episode of You’re Not Crazy, I’m pulling back the curtain on what real, sustainable healing looks like when you grew up with emotionally immature, narcissistic, or borderline parents. I share how becoming a therapist over a decade ago didn’t free me from my dysfunctional patterns—it magnified them. I was the classic parentified child turned overwhelmed helper: running myself into the ground trying to "fix" everything and help everyone. I talk about how I'm working on breaking toxic cycles right now and all the feelings and thoughts I have around my own healing journey. Jess Gleim Marketing Strategist and Meta Ads Expert. Smart, data-backed strategy that actually makes you money. Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! 🎧 Ready for More? ➔Subscribe to You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and archived episodes no longer available in the public feed: confidentboundaries.com/private ➔Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/month and the first 24 hours are free!) 📱 Download the Confident Boundaries App iOS and Android Let's be friends: tiktok.com/@theboundariescoach instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Cycle breakers are often raised to believe that honesty = full disclosure and transparency… even when the other person has a history of weaponizing that honesty against them. In this episode of You’re Not Crazy, we’re digging into the messy middle between brutal honesty and self-abandonment—especially when it comes to dealing with parents who have borderline personality disorder (BPD) or narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). So many of us value being open and real because we didn’t get that growing up. But when it comes to setting boundaries with toxic parents, that same desire to be transparent can backfire—leaving us feeling overexposed, manipulated, and unsafe. In this episode, I’m sharing: The difference between honesty and over-disclosure How I decide what to share (and not share) on this podcast and in my own life Why you don’t owe anyone—not even your parent—access to your most vulnerable truths And the underrated boundary no one talks about: walking away when you're being mistreated →Ready to learn why your boundaries haven’t been working—and what to do instead? Grab my free mini-course at confidentboundaries.com/course Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! 🎧 Ready for More? ➔Subscribe to You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and archived episodes no longer available in the public feed: confidentboundaries.com/private ➔Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/month and the first 24 hours are free!) 📱 Download the Confident Boundaries App iOS and Android Let's be friends: tiktok.com/@theboundariescoach instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Let’s talk about the real work of breaking dysfunctional family cycles. If you're the adult child of a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, you probably know the drill: chaos explodes, you search frantically for tools to survive it… and then once things settle down, you convince yourself it's “not that bad.” Sound familiar? This episode is your reminder that healing isn’t just something you do in a crisis. In fact, the most transformative progress happens between the chaos—when things are calm, quiet, and deceptively “fine.” In this episode, I break down why that in-between time is exactly when you need to be doing the deeper work. Because this is your chance to reclaim your life without being stuck in reaction mode. We’ll talk about what real healing looks like, how to stop falling for the illusion of “it’s better now,” and why the work you do when things are calm is what actually sets you free. Whether you’ve been the scapegoat, the peacekeeper, or the fixer—this is your sign to stop waiting for another meltdown to reach out for support. Let’s normalize choosing to heal—not just when you have to, but when you can. Take my free boundaries course: confidentboundaries.com/workshop Jess Gleim Marketing Strategist and Meta Ads Expert. Smart, data-backed strategy that actually makes you money. Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! 🎧 Ready for More? ➔Subscribe to You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and archived episodes no longer available in the public feed: confidentboundaries.com/private ➔Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/month and the first 24 hours are free!) 📱 Download the Confident Boundaries App iOS and Android Let's be friends: tiktok.com/@theboundariescoach instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Surviving (not thriving) Mother's Day weekend is what we're celebrating this week. Breaking cycles isn’t about perfection—it’s about progress. Your commitment to healing, despite few healthy examples, is powerful. Be gentle with yourself; your journey of growth deserves compassion, not criticism. Next we’re calling out the toxic phrases that gaslight, invalidate, and harm adult children of parents with BPD or NPD. You've probably heard, "But they're your parents, you should forgive them," or "When they die, you'll miss them." Unsurprisingly, I share how much I hate these comments and try to give you a chuckle along the way. One week left to join the Confident Boundaries Membership before prices go up! Click here to join for $69/month Click here to join for $189/quarter My FREE Boundaries Workshop: confidentboundaries.com/workshop Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Membership: confidentboundaries.com/membership Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! 🎧 Ready for More? ➔Subscribe to You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and archived episodes no longer available in the public feed: confidentboundaries.com/private ➔Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/month and the first 24 hours are free!) 📱 Download the Confident Boundaries App iOS and Android Let's be friends: tiktok.com/@theboundariescoach instagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome to You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders. Hosted by therapist and coach Torie Wiksell, this podcast is dedicated to those who have grown up trying to navigate the complicated and challenging realities of having a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. In this first episode, Torie introduces herself, share a bit about her background and experience, and tells you what you can expect from this podcast. Listen every Tuesday for support, encouragement, and practical advice to help you on your journey towards peace and healing—and to remind yourself that you're definitely not crazy.Support the showA huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! 🎧 Ready for More? ➔Subscribe to You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and archived episodes no longer available in the public feed: confidentboundaries.com/private ➔Join me in the Confident Boundaries Membership ($39/month and the first 24 hours are free!) 📱 Download the Confident Boundaries App iOS and Android Let's be friends:tiktok.com/@theboundariescoachinstagram.com/torieatconfidentboundaries Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.