Why You Feel So Triggered at the Holidays: Perfectionism, Toxic Parents, and What You Can Control
Description
This week’s episode breaks down why the holidays bring up so much dread, why perfectionism shows up so strongly for cycle breakers, and how to stay grounded when your family triggers you.
Torie Wiksell, therapist and boundaries coach, shares:
• Why “not being triggered” is not the goal
• How perfectionism shows up for cycle breakers
• What’s actually in your control this week
• How to prepare for emotional flooding, guilt, and old survival mode
• A realistic definition of “success” for adult children of toxic parents
• How to navigate the holiday without dissociating or blaming yourself
This episode is your reminder that complicated emotions don’t mean you’re failing. They mean you’re human.
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