Today I'm going to try to convince you that embracing stress is the secret to your long term peace and happiness. Discover how the cycle of avoidance, driven by the fear of upsetting a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, might be keeping you stuck in a loop of burnout and resentment. By shifting your mindset and recognizing this pattern, you can start prioritizing long-term peace over fleeting comfort. This episode promises to guide you through practical strategies th...
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In today's episode, I discuss whether you should set boundaries or go no contact with a parent who has unmanaged borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. We'll explore the emotional exhaustion that often leads to the choice of going no contact and the societal pressures that can make you doubt this decision. Full disclosure- the audio on this episode is not great quality. I ambitiously attempted to do a video recording to post to YouTube and my editing skills are not at that level! Th...
Emotionally vulnerability with a parent who has unmanaged borderline personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder is always a bad idea. But, it's hard to not get sucked into those feel good moments- so what should you do?Listen to this episode of "You're Not Crazy" to hear my thoughts on the many complicated layers of being emotionally vulnerable with a parent who has BPD or NPD. Also, we talk about our first Patreon group Zoom call which is coming up next Monday! Make sure to si...
Feeling stuck in a relationship with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder can be overwhelming. The fear of triggering them can leave you feeling paralyzed and like you have no options. But here’s the thing: doing nothing is making a choice—and it’s probably not the one that serves you best.In this episode, I share practical strategies for navigating those moments when every option seems difficult (because, let’s be honest, that’s often the reality when you have a p...
Today I share about my own childhood growing up with a narcissistic parent. I talk about why it's been such a struggle for me to really accept my mother's narcissism and how becoming a parent myself has made me much less sympathetic to my mother's poor parenting journey.Also, thank you to all of our new Patreon members! I'm so excited to see the You're Not Crazy community grow :) Haven't joined yet? Sign up at patreon.com/yncpodcastSupport the showI've opened up a handful of coaching spots to...
In this episode, we talk about self-compassion and why it is so hard to develop for adults who grew up with emotionally unpredictable parents. I dive deep into why an emotionally safe space is essential for developing self-compassion and ways you can practice being kinder to yourself starting today.Support the showI've opened up a handful of coaching spots to help you navigate tricky moments with your BPD/NPD parent this season. Click here to learn more about working together and grab one of ...
In this week's special bonus episode, I share about how this little podcast that could is growing- thanks to you! Whether you're seeking extra support, insightful Q&A sessions, or just some good company on bi-monthly Zoom chats, our brand-new Patreon community has got you covered. But, don't worry- our weekly Tuesday podcasts aren't going anywhere! Listen to learn more about this exciting change and what it means for the future of the podcast. Also- I forgot to mention on this episod...
In this episode of "You're Not Crazy," I answer the questions you sent in about dealing with parents who have borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Hear my thoughts, advice, personal experiences, and more in the first question and answer episode of the podcast!Support the showI've opened up a handful of coaching spots to help you navigate tricky moments with your BPD/NPD parent this season. Click here to learn more about working together and grab one of the spots before they're a...
What happens when the very people meant to guide and nurture you leave you questioning your own emotions and self-worth? On this episode of You're Not Crazy, we tackle the complex aftermath of being raised by parents with borderline and/or narcissistic personality disorders, unraveling the mystery of how this impacts our adult lives. Listen for advice on mastering five key skills we all need as adults but definitely didn't learn from our parents. Support the showI've opened up a handful ...
Today, I'm talking about the frustrating reality of dealing with parents who continue to display toxic behaviors despite years of therapy. I share a personal story about my own mother who insisted her therapist told her she no longer needed therapy. Then, I discuss why some therapists are not be equipped to work with clients who have personality disorders and why people with personality disorders often seek out therapists who validate rather than challenge them. Support the showI've open...
Today I share my journey from being a skeptic of the coaching industry to launching my own coaching business, Confident Boundaries, earlier this year. You'll hear about my initial frustrations with the unregulated nature of coaching, especially during the COVID-19 boom, and how I came to recognize a pressing need for accessible support for adults who are trying to navigate their relationship with a parent who has borderline and/or narcissistic personality disorder.Tune in as I breakdown the r...
This week, I tell you why I absolutely refuse to help you suppress your emotional reactions to your parent's toxic behaviors. Listen to hear me out and why I instead recommend focusing on setting boundaries with your parent who has borderline and/or narcissistic personality disorder.Also, I share why this episode is a little late! As always- thanks so much for your patience and continued support!Support the showI've opened up a handful of coaching spots to help you navigate tricky moments wit...
So sorry this episode was up a little late- thanks for bearing with me!Can you really accept a painful reality without liking it? In this episode of "You're Not Crazy" I share why radical acceptance, a crucial skill for adult children dealing with parents who have borderline and narcissistic personality disorders, can help you do just that. Understanding radical acceptance will equip you to better manage the emotional turbulence and false hope that often contribute to the stress of these...
This week on You're Not Crazy, I chat about why I loathe the Tony Robbins of the world and why you need to be careful about being the target of charismatic people who want to exploit you. Growing up with parents affected by borderline or narcissistic personality disorders can distort our sense of self and intuition, making us prime targets for re-traumatization by these so-called empowerment experts. We'll explore the deep-seated impact of a dysfunctional upbringing and how it leaves us susce...
Ever feel paralyzed by the thought of setting a boundary, let alone enforcing it? You’re not alone. Many of us didn't grow up witnessing healthy boundary-setting, and it can feel like an insurmountable task to learn it as an adult (but good news- it's not!). In this episode, I discuss practical steps and strategies to help you navigate the path towards a less stressful life. Through relatable anecdotes and expert advice, I hope to support you in reclaiming control of your emotional well-...
Let's talk about common forms of parental manipulation and abuse. Today, we pull back the curtain on the dysfunctional tactics employed by parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Has your reality has been twisted through gaslighting? Were family rivalries created through triangulation? Today's episode reveals how guilt-tripping and emotional blackmail can devastate your mental health and relationships, and provides insights into recognizing these harmful behaviors.We'l...
Can trauma from growing up with a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder shape the way you see yourself? On this episode of "You're Not Crazy," I'm pulling back the curtain on my own experiences growing up as the child of a parent with unmanaged BPD. For years, I worried that I might have borderline personality disorder (BPD) myself, which was truly one of my biggest fears. In this episode, I break down the differences between BPD and narcissism, revealing how parent...
Thinking about going no contact with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder? Be careful about how you execute that plan and what advice you follow—a recommendation by a popular therapist YouTuber of sending a letter is probably the worst idea I've ever heard. Join me, Torie Wiksell, as I unpack why this seemingly empowering move could be the worst advice you’ve ever received. You’ll learn when writing might actually be helpful and discover less provocative ways to pr...
Finding the right therapist can feel like navigating a minefield, especially when you're dealing with the complexities of a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. Ever been told to maintain contact with toxic family members because it's "good for your mental health"? I have, and let me tell you, it was eye-opening—and not in a good way. On this episode of "You're Not Crazy," I share my personal journey, the highs and lows, and the invaluable lessons learned from both ste...