Married With Benefits™

True or False? One of the best ways to resolve conflict in marriage is to let go of it. Join hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn as they discuss the art of "conflict amnesia." Show Notes and Resources Weekend to Remember is FamilyLife's getaway for couples, at the intersection of faith-based marriage conference and romantic retreat from everyday life. Want to foster more oneness in your marriage? Learn more and find one near you at weekendtoremember.com. FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy. Learn more about the the all-new Art of Marriage at artofmarriage.com and get 20% off with the code "Benefits". For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages, head to her website. Check out Married with Benefits on YouTube See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy

Divorce and Christians: there are some misunderstandings around its prevalence. Join hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn as they set the record straight and learn how keeping God at the center does help to make highly happy couples. Show Notes and Resources For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, "The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages", head to her website  George Barna Study: The episode refers to the misinterpretation of a study by George Barna regarding divorce rates among different belief systems. Brad Wilcox: University of Virginia researcher who provided data showing the correlation between church attendance and lower divorce rates. FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy. Learn more about the the all-new Art of Marriage at artofmarriage.com! See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy

Can you keep an eye on the exit and have a happy marriage? Some couples keep separate bank accounts just in case. But in this episode, Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn explore how vulnerability in relationships—being "all in" with your spouse—leads to greater trust and happiness. Show Notes and Resources For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, "The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages", head to her website . Learn more about the 30-Day Kindness Challenge at https://www.jointhekindnesschallenge.com/. FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy. Learn more about the the all-new Art of Marriage at artofmarriage.com! And for more resources on building a happy marriage and family, check out familylife.com. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy

We can all agree that open communication is good for healthy relationships. But is there such a thing as being 'too honest'? Listen in as hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn discuss!   Show Notes and Resources For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, "The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages", head to her website [https://shaunti.com/tb-books/surprising-secrets-highly-happy-marriages/]. Learn more about the 30-Day Kindness Challenge at https://www.jointhekindnesschallenge.com/. FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy. Learn more about the the all-new Art of Marriage at artofmarriage.com! And for more resources on building a happy marriage and family, check out familylife.com. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy

Struggling to get a consistent date night? Not to worry. Hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn are joined by Dr. Brad Wilcox, renowned sociologist specializing in marriage and family research, as they share tips for a great marriage—even without a budget or a babysitter. Show Notes and Resources Learn more and connect with Dr. Brad Wilcox at https://ifstudies.org/brad-wilcox. His new book "Get Married: Why Americans Must Defy the Elites, Forge Strong Families, and Save Civilization" can be purchased here or anywhere books are sold. Learn more about his work and research with the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia at nationalmarriageproject.org/ and the Institute for Family Studies at ifstudies.org. FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy. Learn more about the the all-new Art of Marriage at artofmarriage.com and get 20% off with the code "Benefits". Weekend to Remember is FamilyLife's getaway for couples, at the intersection of faith-based marriage conference and romantic retreat from everyday life. Want to foster more oneness in your marriage? Learn more and find one near you at weekendtoremember.com. And for more resources on building a happy marriage and family, check out familylife.com. For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, "The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages", head to her website [https://shaunti.com/tb-books/surprising-secrets-highly-happy-marriages/]. Looking for a new resource for your small group? Check out FamilyLife's small group studies in our shop! Check out Married with Benefits on YouTube [Link: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSzse1nmlqbKytpFD6blgrimXPYZoi-_J ] See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy

Ever notice some couples seem to have a secret language? Maybe it looks like little loving gestures saying, "I appreciate you." "I forgive you." "I want to hear what you have to say about that." Jen Goins joins hosts Brian Goins and as they discuss the 7th secret of highly happy couples! Show Notes and Resources Weekend to Remember is FamilyLife's getaway for couples, at the intersection of faith-based marriage conference and romantic retreat from everyday life. Want to foster more oneness in your marriage? Learn more and find one near you at weekendtoremember.com. Looking for a new resource for your small group? Check out FamilyLife's small group studies in our shop! Learn more about the Five Love Languages at 5lovelanguages.com. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy

Not all fantasies are created equally, in fact, one kind is the leading cause of unhappiness in marriage. But how do you avoid pitfalls and pursue contentment with your spouse? Tune in as hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn continue discussing the fifth secret of highly happy couples! Show Notes and Resources Weekend to Remember is FamilyLife's getaway for couples, at the intersection of faith-based marriage conference and romantic retreat from everyday life. Want to foster more oneness in your marriage?  Learn more at weekendtoremember.com For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, "The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages", head to her website. Check out Married with Benefits on YouTube  FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy! The the all-new Art of Marriage  is masterfully designed to inspire and equip today’s couples: whether newly married, seasoned, empty nesters, or part of a blended family. And for more resources on building a happy marriage and family, check out familylife.com. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy

Do you manage your emotions...or do they actually manage you? Learn how deliberate emotional management can promote your happiness—both maritally and otherwise. Join special guest, Jeff Feldhahn, and hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn as they discuss secret 5 of highly happy couples! Show Notes and Resources Weekend to Remember is FamilyLife's getaway for couples, at the intersection of faith-based marriage conference and romantic retreat from everyday life. Want to foster more oneness in your marriage? Learn more and find one near you at weekendtoremember.com. For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, "The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages", head to her website. FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy! The the all-new Art of Marriage  is masterfully designed to inspire and equip today’s couples: whether newly married, seasoned, empty nesters, or part of a blended family. And for more resources on building a happy marriage and family, check out familylife.com. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy

You've probably heard the marriage advice: don't try to keep score. Hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn suggest there's one tally that might actually be good to track in Christian marriage—find out what it is! Show Notes and Resources For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, "The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages", head to her website. Learn more about the 30-Day Kindness Challenge at jointhekindnesschallenge.com. FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy! The the all-new Art of Marriage is masterfully designed to inspire and equip today’s couples: whether newly married, seasoned, empty nesters, or part of a blended family. And for more resources on building a happy marriage and family, check out familylife.com. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy

Going to bed angry or not: if someone's giving you advice for marriage, they likely have an opinion. And doesn't the Bible take a stance? Join hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn for a fresh take on how to deal with anger in marriage — a normal part of the human experience — at bedtime and beyond. You'll leave this episode with perhaps a fresh perspective, as well as practical tips on handling conflict, communication, and, yes, anger. Show Notes and Resources FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy. Learn more about the the all-new Art of Marriage at artofmarriage.com! And for more resources on building a happy marriage and family, check out familylife.com. For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, "The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages" on FamilyLife's shop.  Learn more about Shaunti on her website, Shaunti.com  See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy

Looking for some happy vibes in your marriage? Learn about the 'fantastic five' small but mighty try-now practices to grow happiness in your marriage.   Show Notes and Resources FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy. Learn more about the the all-new Art of Marriage at artofmarriage.com! And for more resources on building a happy marriage and family, check out familylife.com. For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, "The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages" on FamilyLife's shop.  Learn more about Shaunti on her website, Shaunti.com  See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy

You know what they say about making assumptions, right? But there's one kind of assumption that can dramatically improve your marriage. Hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn discuss first secret of highly happy marriages on today's episode of Married with Benefits. Learn how one foundational mindset shift can help you move from frustration to affection and from grumpy to gracious. Show Notes and Resources FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy. Learn more about the the all-new Art of Marriage at artofmarriage.com! And for more resources on building a happy marriage and family, check out familylife.com. For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, "The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages" on FamilyLife's shop. Learn more about Shaunti on her website, Shaunti.com See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy

"Highly happy" is possible for marriage. But how do you get there? Change—even "good" change and growth—can be uncomfortable! Join hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn for a roadmap for perseverance in relationship growth, towards the highly happy marriage you dream of. Show Notes and Resources FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy. Learn more about the the all-new Art of Marriage at artofmarriage.com! And for more resources on building a happy marriage and family, check out familylife.com. For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, "The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages" on FamilyLife's shop. Learn more about Shaunti on her website, Shaunti.com See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy

Is marriage worth it? If you've never wondered yourself, you may have had someone ask you that question. In this special teaser episode to Season 4 of Married with Benefits, hosts Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins are joined by Dr. Brad Wilcox, a renowned sociologist specializing in marriage and family research. Dr. Wilcox is a Professor of Sociology and Director of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia, as well as the Future of Freedom Fellow at the Institute for Family Studies. Join us for this conversation exploring why more and more people are doubting marriage's value and what the research actually says. You'll also learn data-backed practical advice for building a happy marriage and family -- for yourself or for a friend! Show Notes and Resources Learn more and connect with Dr. Brad Wilcox His new book "Get Married: Why Americans Must Defy the Elites, Forge Strong Families, and Save Civilization" can be purchased hereor anywhere books are sold. Learn more about his work and research with the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia at nationalmarriageproject.org and the Institute for Family Studies at ifstudies.org. FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy! The the all-new Art of Marriageis masterfully designed to inspire and equip today's couples: whether newly married, seasoned, empty nesters, or part of a blended family. And for more resources on building a happy marriage and family, check out familylife.com. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy

Could your sex life be missing the point? Dr. Michael Sytsma talks about why we have sex…and the key to wow-level sex that changes everything. Show Notes and Resources Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions. For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma's book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy

Has your married sex coasted into the blahs? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma's got solutions to keep you both captivated in the bedroom. Show Notes and Resources Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions. For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma's book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy

Sex can be painful in more ways than one: from trauma, to physical pain, to porn. But these don't need to doom your relationship. Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers ideas to transform hurt to eventual healing and wholeness. Show Notes and Resources Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions. For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma's book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy

Initiating or declining sex: It's tricky. Are your signals clear to your spouse? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma helps you with “not tonight” and “yes, please.” Show Notes and Resources Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions. For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma's book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy

Wondering how to keep your married sex life sizzling—or just move around conflict or hurt? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma helps you troubleshoot. Show Notes and Resources Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions. For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma's book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy

Does one of you want more sex than the other? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers ideas and insight to work through differences in sexual desire. Show Notes and Resources Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions. For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma’s book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy