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Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions.Britt’s broken a nail, Laura’s had to put up with a screaming baby for 45 minutes on the way to work and Keeshia is MIA because she’s as sick as a dog.Britt has the sh*ts with a truck driver who decided to order coffees and do his groceries while she (and others) were waiting for him to clear the petrol pump. Whose side are you on for this? Laura has given the delivery man a lot more than he expected when it came to signing for their package.Vibes for the week:Britt - Luna Lane Laura - Wayward on Netflix  Then we jump into your questions! DO I LEAVE MY FIANCE? I am 24 and have a partner of 5 years who proposed at the end of last year. We have always been a solid couple and never used to fight, however, twice this year he has broken up with me whilst drunk and twice we have agreed to work things out and gotten back together. Our relationship has been reasonably stable since and we’re both working on things to be better for each other. Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago when I went on a work trip and was flirted with at a bar by a stranger (this is very new to me). Since then, I have been in a spiral of wanting to invest in myself, live guilt free and have new experiences in my 20s or settling with the comfortable life that me and my partner have planned and what I currently know. I have tried really hard to move past his mistakes but I have a gut feeling that need some time to work on myself before I can be in another relationship but feel so guilty for thinking about possibly choosing myself. MY HUSBAND HATES MY TATTOORecently I told my husband of 18 years that I wanted to get another tattoo. He expressed in the past that he doesn't really like my tattoos but I enjoy having them, so YOLO. I told him I was going to get another one on my forearm for something I have been thinking about for a while. He said that of course he won't stop me, but he thinks he will find me less attractive. He was pretty honest. Fast forward, it's been two months since I've had it. I know it is my body, my choice, he said the same, and he recently told me he now finds me less attractive. I feel as though it's more a punishment just because I went and did it. I am really hurt by this as you can't take that back, where do we go from here? And should it matter that much?  CAN YOU SHARE IUD CONTRACEPTIVE COSTS?I need to get my IUD replaced and I suggested to my boyfriend of 2 years that we split the cost (I live in the US and my insurance doesn’t cover it). He is flat out refusing and is acting shocked like it is so bizarre that I would ask. I just think that we both need to be equally responsible for birth control and since I have to undergo the whole thing and deal with any side effects I think it’s only fair that he helps with something! He even said ‘well it’s your choice so if you want to do it then do it’ but best believe the man would kick up a fuss if I insisted he always used condoms. For context, we both earn exactly the same salary and split almost everything in our relationship. Am I being unreasonable? He is usually an understanding person but somehow he is not getting my point. HOW TO SPLIT TICKETS?4 months ago me and my friend bought tickets ($75 each) to a live show where we are sitting together to hang out because we are super busy and never get to catch up. She just found out she has a wedding to attend on the night so can no longer go. I wouldn’t have booked tickets to this show if it wasn’t with her. What do you think her responsibility is? Should she pay for my ticket, give me her ticket so I can go with someone else, or is she free to give the ticket to a friend? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Today’s episode is on the more unhinged side of any of the previous interviews we’ve done. We guess it’s what happens when you put 3 yappers in a room together. Joining the podcast today is podcaster, radio broadcaster and dad Ryan Jon Dunn. Ryan is half of the Toni and Ryan podcast. We’ve had the pleasure of chatting with Ryan’s cohost Toni Lodge at one of our live shows and here on the podcast and we were well overdue to chat to Ryan, so when he slid into the DM’s it was a quick yes.  Today we wanted to chat with Ryan about his career and building the mammoth podcast that is Toni and Ryan, Ryan’s search for his biological parents and the experience of being an adoptee, and becoming a dad himself! We chat: Being dot-comrads “friends of the internet” Ryan shares the story about himself that will haunt him forever His ‘past life’ as an accountant before radio Why Ryan isn’t worried about ever going back to a ‘regular job’ Being adopted at 10 weeks old and his feelings towards his biological mother How an ancestry DNA test found his biological dad What it was like meeting him Finding out that his biological mother had passed away before he met her The grief of losing the opportunity of something  Ryan’s IVF journey Deciding whether they would share their kid on social media or not New guidelines with kids and content You can find more from Ryan at his:Instagram Tiktok Website We mentioned the AiMCO family influencer’s pack  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers and happy Halloween!Britt really put in the effort this year but we can’t work out if she’s Gandalf or God.Do you celebrate Halloween now or did you as a kid? We share some stories from our childhood about Halloween.Britt has had a beauty mishap and Keeshia has gone wagatha mode to try and figure out which neighbour stole her bin.Is it just sex or is there emotion? When it comes to cheating, is physical or emotional worse? Lily Allen has dropped the break up album of all time that has us feeling like we are reading her diary. In it, she shares how her and her husband David Harbour (of Stranger Things fame) had an unconventional arrangement where he could have sex with other people, as long as it was ‘discreet’ and ‘paid for with strangers’. Lily later found out through snooping that David had been having an affair where they in fact, played tennis!Today we wanted to unpack one particular line in her new music “is it just sex or is there emotion” and speak about how men and women seem to view emotional vs physical cheating differently.Researchers asked what kind of betrayal, emotional or physical, would hurt more. They found that on average, men report feeling more distress over physical infidelity whereas women more often said that emotional betrayal, when a partner develops feelings or emotional closeness with someone else, was more painful. Lily described the tracks as being "inspired by" what happened in her marriage, she says they are "not gospel" and that it’s “a mixture of fact and fiction.” We share how we feel about the woman who has been ‘outed’ in this and whether you can share so much that exposes other people without being clear on what’s real and what has been made up. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions! Laura has left Lola traumatised with a video she’s seen on her phone! Britt has a new idea of what she wants done with her body once she dies.Vibes and Unsubscribes for the week:Britt -Victoria Beckham on Netflix Keeshia - Unsubscribe The Woman in Cabin 10 on NetflixVibe - @mylawn_coLaura - The Traitors UK Season 4   Then we jump into your questions! SHOULD I HAVE A THREESOME WITH A COUPLE I JUST MET?Should I try to have a threesome with a couple I just met? I am currently on holiday and I have met an Australian couple who live near me back home. I really get along with them and my mind keeps wondering about the possibility of having a threesome with them. I’ve always been curious but not interested in having a threesome when I’m in a relationship. Should I go for it? And if so, how do I even approach this topic with them? (For context they are about 8 years older than me) FRIEND BOOKED OUR ACCOM WITH SHOPBACK- SHOULD I GET HALF? My friend and I are going on holiday together and we travel well together. We both are in good paying jobs however she has worked full time for around 2 years more than me. When booking our accommodation (which we looked for and decided together) she said she was happy to book and when I asked her to send the email confirmation to me for my records I could see that she used the shopback app. Now I love the app and use it all the time, but booking accommodation that’s approximately more than $1000 and getting 10% off that is a reasonable discount. Am I weird for finding it a bit uncomfortable that she will receive $100 cashback whilst I will pay full price? LOUD SNIFFER - CAN I OFFER A TISSUE?If someone is loudly sniffling incessantly on the train (and driving me f*cking insane), is it rude to offer them a tissue? Or is that taking passive aggressive one step too far?BESTIE IS DATING SOMEONE I USED TO HOOK UP WITH AND WANTS TO ALL HANG OUTMy best friend matched with someone on Tinder a while ago. They spoke a bit and she told me about him. I worked out that we had hooked up a number of years ago. We spoke for a bit and got together a few times but nothing progressed. She originally said she wouldn’t pursue him because it was weird, but then asked if it would bother me if they hooked up. I was fine with it. She was very adamant that it would only be sex. Fast forward a few months later, they are now almost exclusive. I’m not upset or ‘bothered’ by it, but I do find it very uncomfortable and awkward. She wants us all to go out on a ‘double date’ but my partner and I find it to be very awkward. Am I bad friend for not hanging out all together? Do I need to suck it up because I said it was okay? Idk how I’m going to do friendmas with someone I’ve banged that’s not dating my bestfriend?? Help    You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit  Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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We are the self help generation. There is so much access to information on how to better ourselves, work through all the sh*t from our childhoods, and break cycles. Today’s episode is going to be particularly interesting to anyone who is a parent, but even if you don’t have kids yourself, it will help you understand some of the psychology of your own experiences growing up and how those experiences show up in our day to day lives. Dr. Shefali is joining us today and she has been described by Oprah herself as “one of the most profound parenting experts of our time”.  With a doctorate in clinical psychology, Dr Shefali is a New York Times bestselling author multiple times over, and the founder of the Conscious Parenting movement. Much of her work centers around healing a lot of the stuff that we are carrying with us from our childhood into our adult lives - and how it shows up in our parenting styles. She also answers one of the biggest parenting questions we tend to ask ourselves - how to build resilience in kids in today’s chaotic world.  We chat: How Dr Shefali’s work was revolutionary at the time, but we are now immersed in it Our ego gets in the way when we are parenting How much of our experience as a parent is impacted by our own childhood The real reason children have tantrums Our kids don’t need the ‘heavily architectured’ lives we give them full of extra curricular activities every day Building resilience in kids and how to find the balance Unpacking our challenging relationships with our parents Is parenting actually a selfless act?   You can get yourself a ticket to Dr Shefali’s tour SydneyMelbourne You can find more from Dr Shefali’s website and Instagram    You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers! First up, we address the reports that the future of the podcast is unknown.  Britt has a friend that received a message from someone they went on two dates with. If Britt hadn't seen it with her own eyes she would have said it was a fake story! Last week we told you about the ridiculous reason Keeshia and Delilah ended up at the vets and today we share the silliest reason your pet made you have a vet visit. Halloween is around the corner. Do you get the treats for the kids or do you pretend you’re not home? Britt wants the kids to tap dance and Keeshia wants dog ‘trick and treating’ to start. Victoria's Secret ditches ‘woke’ rebrand and returns to 'unapologetically sexy' roots. Last week, the new and improved Victoria's Secret Fashion Show made its return to Brooklyn for the second year in a row. They have reversed their "woke" rebrand and they’re moving back to a more traditional, "sexy" image after a period of declining sales, after the reaction to the failure of its inclusivity-focused marketing.  In 2025 is woke branding dead or just being recalibrated? We unpack how virtue signalling and brands undergoing impurity tests may have contributed to consumer fatigue. We speak about whether we still want advocacy for social justice issues in marketing and whether this ‘nostalgic’ return to advertising might have more to do with more conservative politics than anything else.We speak about the notion of ‘go woke, go broke’ and the more recent American Eagle campaign with Sydney Sweeney and Carl’s Jr with Alis Earle.We referenced a reel by @carlzjsoda You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions!Keeshia had a bit of a nightmare commute to work this morning and it led to her disclosing some of our BTS secrets. We somehow ended up speaking about trigger warnings and the research that suggests they’re not as useful as we have been led to believe.Vibes for the week:Keeshia - Emily Henry “Great Big Beautiful Life” Britt - @parkergetajob  Then we jump into your questions! THINKING ABOUT MAKING A SEX TAPE FOR MY BFMy partner and I are thinking about making a sex tape. He is FIFO week on week off swings. We can’t really talk on the phone or FaceTime. Because of his job he is around people all the time and sleeps in a swag with everyone else around him so people would hear if I call him for sexy time. I trust him and don’t have any fears that he will show anyone or anything bad will happen. However, am I being stupid because things live on the internet forever and it could always get out somehow. The person you date if not the same person you break up with, maybe it does get out one day. Do I do it or not? Also have either of you ever done it? I love you girls so much and couldn’t think of anyone else I could ask this question to.   HOW TO DISCUSS FINANCES/DEFACTCO WITH NEW BF - I EARN MUCH MOREI’ve been seeing a guy for about 5-6 months. Everything is going great and he is a walking green flag. I’m starting to feel myself get a bit more invested but still not 100%. My problem is a financial one. I have a relatively successful business (I’m talking 7 figures) which he is aware of. I understand that there will come a time where we have to discuss what this looks like going forward and when we are classed as a de facto relationship, how finances will look. I know that there are some criteria that have to be met before being classed as a de facto relationship and what he may be entitled to, should we continue on this steady path. In my opinion, everything that I have earnt before him in my business and property purchases, is considered my own and I worry that he could be entitled to that when we are considered de facto (not that I think he would take anything from me, but you never know)! The thing is, I’m unsure of when I should broach this topic with him. Part of me wants to discuss it now so I know we are on the same page, rather than getting another 1-2 years in and he is unhappy about it. If he’s unhappy about it, that’s a big red flag to me. Is it worth having this conversation sooner rather than later, and if so, how would you go about discussing it ? We are quite open with everything else and we each know what the other owns and salaries etc. He also partially owns a property and is on a six figure salary.   MY DAUGHTER HAD A SLEEPOVER WITH A STRANGER WITHOUT US KNOWINGI'm married with a 6 year old daughter from a previous marriage. My new husband is amazing and adores my daughter. We are having another baby in November. My in-laws were great for the first few months but have had a few issues come up and I want to know what your opinion is of this particular scenario. My daughter was having a sleepover with my in-laws, who she adores. I found out whilst they had her that my husband's mum's nephew had come over and had a sleepover too. He is 9 and we have met him maybe 2 or 3 times. They slept in the same bed upstairs whilst my partner's parents were sleeping downstairs. We were incredibly uncomfortable with this. When we confronted them, it was basically implied that we were being over dramatic and they refused to accept that we weren't okay with it and did not apologise. Do you think we were being over dramatic? When my husband picked her up he walked in the room and they were watching movies and TV shows in the bed together, not supervised and the nephew didn't even recognise who my husband was so we are definitely not close family.   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Every week we live across the country at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Today’s guest is someone that Britt is completely convinced she manifested on to the podcast!Teddy’s voice has been the sound track to her relationship hard launch, her engagement and also her wedding first dance! Teddy is the superstar singer songwriter behind hits like ‘Lose Control’ which has over 2 billion streams on Spotify, ‘Bad Dreams’ and ‘The Door’. He also has a brand new song out with our friend Tones and I and David Guetta!  He’s currently touring around Australia, playing sold-out arena shows! But behind the tattoos and the big voice is just a salt of the earth guy who really hustled his way into the music industry.  We chat about: The first time Teddy ever heard his song ‘Lose Control’ on the radio from a service station bathroom where he had in fact ‘lost control’ Teddy’s upbringing with Christian pastor grandparents and great male influences Teddy’s mum crying when he said he wanted to stop playing football and do musical theatre Whether he was ever pressured by record labels to ‘be’ a certain way or change the music he was making The hustle and not being an overnight success Writing from heartbreak v writing from a place of happiness Teddy experiencing his first ‘slow burn’ love  Becoming a father and it changing his purpose in life Teddy being into manifestation Teddy’s ‘made it moment’ being quite unusual and it involves spy kids What it was like performing at the NRL grand final What Teddy thought of Britt's wedding dance You can find tickets for his AUS/NZ show  Follow Teddy on Instagram and Youtube You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack all of your deep and burning questions. Britt has an aeroplane/travel dilemma of her own - who owns the space UNDER the seat? Is it the person whose designated seat it is? Or is it the person behind whose legs go underneath? Vibes for the week: Britt -  __mrsinthemaking Bridal & Hens Personalised Jewellery Keeshia - Great Company with Jamie Laing Podcast - Spencer Matthews Our First Honest Conversation About Our Friendship  Then we get into your questions! ARE TOPLESS WAITRESSES NORMAL?I recently found out that my husband and his mates sometimes ‘order’ topless waiters during their Saturday night drinks. He says it’s only happened 2–3 times over our 6 years together, but I can’t help feeling like it’s a bit sleezy and icky. He never mentioned it to me before, and I only found out after poking and prodding when I could tell he was hiding something on the weekend. He insists it’s never his idea and that he just goes along with the group. It’s usually 4–5 friends, none of whom have wives or kids at home (unlike us), and I guess I’m wondering… am I overreacting for feeling put off by this? Would this bother anyone else, or is it something I should just let slide MY FIL IS A PIG BUT ALSO HELPS ME OUTAm I justified in being frustrated with my filthy father in law, or is it the price I have to pay for a reliable pet sitter? For context, my partner and I have been together for 10 years and are in our late 20’s. My partner’s father is much older, aged in his 70’s, and will pet-sit for 2-3 weeks when we go overseas for an annual holiday. He is always very willing to house sit as he loves the fur-babies, and he lives by himself in a caravan park, so he enjoys the space and company. We of course give him a bit of cash (usually $50-100) to use towards take out. Now here is my dilemma. Every time we return home from a holiday, I am extremely frustrated with the lack of cleaning and things I find around the house that give me the ick. Certain things are probably outside my FIL’s control - like his dandruff skin flakes all over the couch. However, there’s things that have frustrated me and I can’t tell if I’m being unreasonable. Examples include: Tobacco flakes spilt on the floor and kitchen bench. - Food spillage on the kitchen floor and down the cupboard doors. - Putting dirty greasy Tupperware away because he refuses to use the dishwasher. Drapping his wet bath towel on the bed instead of 1 of the 3 towel racks in the bathroom. - And here is my main cleaning frustration. My FIL has a stoma bag (which I of course am not judging him for) and he obviously has to empty it. However, on multiple occasions, including most recently, we’ve come home to find a little bit of shit splattered on the toilet seat or even dripping down the bowl onto the floor. My partner will always clean up the toilet because I’m disgusted, but I also don’t think it’s my partner's responsibility to clean up after his dad when he is still mobile and capable. I have tried to say things as they arise, for example, asking my FIL not to smoke directly next to the clean laundry outside. However, I don’t feel like I should have to say this to a grown man. I am trying to see the other side of it, including the fact that he lives alone, so maybe my FIL doesn’t realise how messy he can be. However, I would be mortified if I house-sat for someone and left shit on their toilet for them to clean when they got home. My partner it’s not confrontational and does not want to embarrass his father, but I think his father is a grown man and should have more respect for our home and cleaning up after himself, even if he is doing us a favour by looking after the pets. So - should my partner and I say something to him? Or do I just suck it up, bite my tongue and clean up when we return home from a trip?   IS EVERYONE A LITTLE UNHAPPY IN LOVE?Is everyone struggling just a little bit in their relationship or is it just me?!? Lifers I need help. I love my partner, we have been together for 5 years and he is exactly what I was looking for in a lot of ways. He’s thoughtful, emotionally available, loyal, affectionate, hard working, funny and just generally a good partner. And although most of the time I truly feel he is my penguin. There are also times where I completely question it all, lately a lot more. I sometimes feel he’s a bit immature, with his favorite activity still getting drunk most weekends with “the boys”. He’s not very present (completely hooked on his phone) and is very snappy/impatient. And sometimes these traits really make me question it all. Do we want the same things (I rarely drink)? Do I want kids with someone who is so snappy and impatient?  Anyways, I’m worried i’m just striving for a perfection that doesn’t exist, that i’ll always feel the grass is greener and I need to stop being so critical. So my question is, are most couples just slightly unhappy? Do we all question our relationships from time to time and just not talk about it? I feel like most couples I know are all struggling with something, but i’m not sure if that’s how it usually is/or if it’s just my circle HUSBAND WANTS TO ‘WET THE BABY’S HEAD’ AND I THINK IT”S UNFAIR AND JUST A PISSUPI want to know your ladies thoughts on a ‘wet the head’? For context, my husband and I are expecting a baby in April next year. We aren’t the first in our friendship group to have a baby, so therefore my husband has been to a few wet the head celebrations before. Here’s the kicker; it always turns into a huge piss up. I’m talking bulk beers and hours at the pub while the new mother is at home alone in the absolute trenches of having a new born baby and navigating postpartum hormones. My husband was talking about his ‘wet the head’ a few days ago when I mentioned I wasn’t keen on the idea. He was quite upset by this when I stated that I don’t understand why the men would get a celebration after childbirth when respectfully they’ve done nothing I understand their excitement around having a new born baby and them having a proud dad moment, but wouldn’t it be better received if they were at home being a supportive father/husband. What are your thoughts?   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Every week we live across the country at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why do we want to hurt the people that hurt us?Over the years we have spoken about so many different aspects of relationships but today’s topic is one we have never fully unpacked before and it’s one of the most destructive forces in relationships: revenge.  We don’t always call it that in romantic relationships, but when couples fall into patterns of "getting back at each other", keeping score, or holding long grievances, they’re often trapped in what’s called a “revenge loop;” one that science now shows is addictive and deeply damaging. Today’s guest is James Kimmel. James is a lawyer, Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Yale School of Medicine and the author of The Science of Revenge. James has done a huge amount of research into how revenge quietly simmers inside all of us and how revenge triggers the brain’s reward system, much like a drug, and some of us might be revenge addicts without even knowing it.  Today we chat: James wanting to get revenge on the teenage boys who killed his dog The neuroscience of revenge & how it can be addictive Could this ever be used as a ‘defence’ in court? Why we want the people who hurt us to hurt Justice v revenge How Hollywood has relied on revenge plot narratives How women and men experience empathy differently  How forgiveness can rewire our brains You can find more from James Kimmel at his website  You can get a copy of The Science of Revenge You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers!Poppy has popped out! She’s just the cutest! Next week we will have an episode with Laura about Poppy’s birth. Britt is always *rooting for long distance relationships. She’s been over to see Ben in Italy and been reminded that she found herself a bit of a chefing unicorn! She’s also made a friend over in Italy despite one big difference between them. Do you have a friend who looks really put together and tidy on the outside of their home, but on the inside it’s a complete mess? That’s our girl Britt and she’s got a new air fryer hack for you. Keeshia was given 3 minutes to talk about the rugby league grand final and she’s calling BS on some of the headlines that are always printed after any grand final entertainment performance. Do you think having big international acts like Teddy Swims and Snoop Dog is a good thing or should we only feature Aussie artists? There are 5 new dating trends predicted for 2026: ChemRIZZtry Curveball-crushing Love-loreing Truecasting StAtuS-flexing We also share a story that we’ve kept private for 4 years about the very worst guy Keeshia ever dated. Hopefully she is alone in this experience.  Victoria Beckham posted a photo from her Paris Fashion show that led to people questioning whether her 20 year old son’s relationship with a 29 year old woman was ‘weird’. We speak about whether the ‘issue’ is actually a timeline gap and if our views on age gaps are class coded. We also chat about which attachment styles are more likely to end up in age gap relationships and why society seems to freak out when a woman is the older partner.  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions! Britt has been in Italy and Laura has had a baby! If you found out the gender of your baby when you were pregnant, was it correct? Google AI says it’s wrong in Australia about 5% of the time. We’d love to know if yours wasn’t right!Apparently if you’re really into true crime, you need to evaluate ‘why trauma feels comforting to you’. Britt feels a little attacked by this info and she also thinks it doesn’t make sense. Vibes for the week:Britt - Dexter Original Sin  Keeshia - KW ceramics reusable cup  Then we get into your questions! FRIEND HAS ACCESS TO HER EX HUSBANDS EMAIL AND I THINK ITS UNETHICALI’ve just found out my good friend has access to her ex-husbands emails. She recently told me she saw something in his emails. It was a fleeting comment and I didn’t think much of it until I realised how unethical and inappropriate it is. They got divorced 2-3 years ago and it was quite toxic and their relationship is still very toxic. I’m really close with both of them, I don’t want to ruin our friendship by telling him but I think it’s extremely inappropriate and potentially illegal that she has access to his emails. I have no idea how to approach the situation. Please help. MUM WON’T GET WHOOPING VAX FOR MY NEW BABYHi ladies, OG listener here. I’m stuck in a pickle. I’m 17 weeks pregnant. Here’s where I’m stuck - during COVID my mum became really anti-vax. She was never like this previously, my siblings and I got all our childhood vaccinations. I work in healthcare and always get flu shots, got my COVID boosters etc. I’m really nervous about asking her to get vaccinated for whooping cough before the baby comes. Originally she only cared about the Covid vax but since has gone down a lot of conspiracy rabbit holes in regards to healthcare in general and I’ve heard her make comments about other vaccines. I admit no one will be holding or touching my baby without one and I know my partner and his family would back me up on this. How would you approach this conversation? She is known to be rather reactive so I don’t want to make a drama out of it, rather approach it gently.  DO I DELETE PICS OF EX FROM IG BEFORE NEW PARTNERS FOLLOW ME?Should I delete photos with my ex on Instagram before I let the new people I date follow me? I broke up with my ex 3 months ago, and I have one in-feed picture of him and I sitting on a boat (not super coupley but coupley enough) I love the photo - I am so happy in that photo, and nothing bad happened between me and my ex. The photo was from late last year. I am not sure to remove it in case it makes my (potential) future partners uncomfortable? I wouldn’t care if they had a photo of their ex on their Insta. Not sure what to do here (and neither do my friends!) FOUND OUT MY SISTER CHEATED ON HER HUSBAND AND NOW I SEE HER DIFFERENTLYI recently found out that my sister cheated on my brother-in-law last year. We’re a very close family—it’s just the two of us, and our kids and partners are all really connected. I knew about the man she had been flirting with and often warned her, reminding her of how good her husband is and encouraging her to work on her marriage if things weren’t going well. Now that I know she went through with it, I feel devastated. Her husband knows and, while deeply hurt, he wants to try and work things out. For me, loyalty, trust, and respect are core values, and I feel like she has not only let her husband and kids down but also me and everyone close to her. She struggles with mental health and was drinking a lot at the time, but I still feel conflicted. I can’t help but see her differently now, and I feel hurt that she could lie about it for so long while looking us in the eye. How can I move forward from this? What can I say to her to express how upset and disappointed I am, without damaging our bond forever? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! You’re with Britt and Keeshia today because Laura has officially had her little Poppy! We’ll be bringing you an episode all about Poppy’s birth soon! Britt has been reunited with Ben and is back to enjoying marital life. Britt has been seesawing on the decision of whether to have kids or not for a while now, and this experience with breast milk has surprisingly not brought her any closer to the decision. Did you/do you feel an intense ‘maternal pull’ or are you still ‘waiting’ for it to ‘kick in’?  Do you have ROMO (relief of missing out)? Or is there a part of you that misses some of the chaos that used to be in your life? We speak about Cillian Murphy’s new ROMO phase and how our new joy in life comes from high pressure hoses. There’s a new reality TV show where “true crime meets true love and judgement meets redemption.” We speak about whether we’ve gone too far with reality TV. Would you date someone with a criminal record? Would it depend on what the record was for? We unpack a video posted by Emma Paige; “your toxic traits are the opposite of your love languages.”It seems to check out in our lives! We also speak about a substack written by Lauren Talulah titled What The Cool Girls Are Quietly Doing Right Now . There seems to be a shift in the way people are showing up online especially with LinkedIn, wearing outfits that don’t try to be flattering, romanticising platonic dependence and posting much less. Have you felt a shift in what is “cool” online? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions. Laura may or may not have her 3rd child by now so we recorded this a bit in advance!Do you have a ‘legacy contact’ (the person assigned to access your phone if you were to pass away)? Would you make your legacy contact your partner or are you trusting a best friend/sibling to scrub that thing clean of anything you don’t want anyone seeing? Vibes for the week:Britt - Egg in the air fryer for 8-10 minsKeeshia - Tapo TP-Link Smart Security Wi-Fi Camera  Then we jump into your questions! IS IT WEIRD TO ADD A FRIENDS BF ON IGI'm in a new relationship and I have never been in one before so I'm trying to understand what is normal and what isn't. I've known this guy for 2 months. My friend wanted to see me, and I asked if this new guy could join and she said yes. We hung out for a couple of hours that day. This was a month ago, fast track to now and she's just added him to Instagram. My new bf is very transparent and said he's not accepting her. After a few hours of him not accepting, I then got a message from her saying he came up on her ‘suggested’. Her one and only photo on Instagram is quite provocative. She's a friend I trust, but I just thought this was a bit odd as I've never added my friends bfs on Instagram. Most of my friends think it's weird, but one of them and ChatGTP seem to think it's showing signs of just friendliness. I'm also on my period, I just need help to know if this is normal  CAN I ASK A HOOKUP TO PUT DEODORANT ON?I recently went out for drinks with a distant work colleague who was tall, scruffy with a beard and overall very attractive. He was an amazing kisser and things got hot and heavy quickly. We went back to his hotel room and when he took off his clothes, I noticed he had a strong BO smell. I’m very sensitive to smells and would have liked to ask him to put deodorant on but it would have killed the mood. I ended up not saying anything but if this situation were to come up again, what is the protocol here? Is it inappropriate to ask a man to put some deodorant on? Or do women usually just put up with this?  IS PAYING SOMEONE FOR SEX BETTER THAN BEING CHEATED ON?I’m at a bit of a loss. My partner told me tonight that he has paid someone to have sex with him three times and to make matters worse, he thinks he may have caught something… he reckons the chick took the condom off and was really kissing him. (Writing this makes me feel like I’m going to be physically sick). I really didn’t think that he would ever do something like this to me and I just feel numb, I feel disgusting. We have been together for almost 7 years, we have a daughter who is almost two, I work full time, help him run his business as well as all the house stuff. I don’t mind doing all of this stuff as I want the business to be successful and I support him both best I can emotionally and financially. I’m always up for having sex with him and usually I’m the one who initiates it. I’m just curious on your thoughts, is this still betrayal. SHOULD I TELL MY PARTNER HIS SISTER IS GETTING AN ABORTION?My longterm partner has a sister who I am quite close to. She has revealed to me that she is pregnant and is getting an abortion next week. She does not want her parents to know. This feels like a pretty big thing to keep from my partner. I know he would not tell his parents, should I tell him? UPDATE: I spoke to her about the awkward position I am in and she said if I tell him she will not trust me again. But I think my partner’s trust is more important to me. I feel so torn. There is a chance he will never know about it anyway but what if he finds out and what if he finds out I knew all along? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. What's on the show: Would you leave your friend at the airport if they couldn’t run fast enough for the connecting flight? We announce that Matty J is filling in on The Pick Up while Laura is on Maternity Leave Britt's Phobia Quiz What was your medical mishap? Singles lists at weddings - hot or not? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Every week we live across the country at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today’s guest will probably not need much of an introduction unless you are quite new here. Mitch Churi is one of our closest friends, he is our former radio cohost and he’s one of the most entertaining people in Australian media. We said in our last podcast episode with Mitch last year that he would be coming back to life uncut and we’re really stoked to have him back now when he has such an exciting new chapter to tell us about. For anyone who doesn’t know Mitch’s origin story, we recorded a full episode back in March of 2022 In today’s episode we chat: Two of the most rogue accidentally unfiltereds we’ve ever had on the show The first time we’re all back together on mic Recovering from the betrayal of being cheated on The components of a ‘glow up’ Mitch “f*cking up Britt’s wedding” The awkward connection we all have with Britt’s bedroom Being made redundant when your job is a big part of your identity Mitch’s brand new chat show A BTS of how podcasting/radio/entertainment in Aus works You can follow Mitch on Instagram  & follow his new show The Mitch Churi Chat Show    You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.