This week, Emma and newly engaged Ashley Nichole go down the bachelorette party rabbit hole — and it’s not all cute matching outfits and tequila shots. They call out the parts everyone not-so-secretly hates: power-tripping maids of honor, passive-aggressive "games" that feel like the Hunger Games, Splitwise drama, budget shaming, and the politics of who’s “close enough” to make the cut. But don't worry, they talk about the fun stuff too. Ashley breaks down her proposal story (yes, it was perfect) and Emma shares two of her very important hot takes that may have just cracked the code on how to make bachelorette parties drama-free. Consider this episode a permission slip to set boundaries, skip the cringe, and plan a celebration that fits the bride—not the group chat. Get 15% off your Schedule35 orders with code toomuch at Schedule35.co Follow Ashley and her podcast, Unsolicited Advice For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com Shop the merch!! Join the muchness on Patreon Follow Too Much: IG TikTok Follow Emma: IG TikTok Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9
Self-sabotage is one of those things we all do, but rarely admit to. From procrastination and perfectionism to negative self-talk, toxic relationship cycles, and numbing habits — we’ve all been guilty of standing in our own way. In this episode, Emma is going down the rabbit hole about self-sabotage, why it’s rooted in fear and survival, and how it disguises itself as “logic” or “discipline.” Emma is sharing her own stories — everything from missed opportunities in her twenties to how hyper-independence and people-pleasing played into the patterns. More importantly, she's giving you the tools to recognize these habits, reframe them, and start building momentum again. If you’ve ever caught yourself saying “I’ll do it later,” picked the wrong partner because it felt easier, or sabotaged an opportunity out of fear of success, this episode is your wake-up call. Get 15% off your Schedule35 orders with code toomuch at Schedule35.co For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com Shop the merch!! Join the muchness on Patreon Follow Too Much: IG TikTok Follow Emma: IG TikTok Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9
Moving out, moving in, and moving on — today’s Emma is going down the rabbit hole on one of the most defining parts of adulthood: living with someone. From her first chaotic dorm to years of living solo, and then finally moving in with Mr. Right, Emma is breaking down the lessons, horror stories, and hilarious realities of sharing your space. We’re talking communication, compromise, boundaries, and why the people you live with shape you more than you realize. Emma is sharing what living alone taught her about independence, why living with friends can make or break a relationship, and how cohabiting with a partner brings up insecurities, intimacy shifts, and a whole new level of vulnerability. Whether you’re debating your first solo apartment, dreading your roommate’s loud chewing, or considering moving in with your partner, this episode gives you the tools (and the warning signs) to set yourself up for success. Get 15% off all Schedule35 orders with code toomuch at Schedule35.co For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com Shop the merch!! Join the muchness on Patreon Follow Too Much: IG TikTok Follow Emma: IG TikTok Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9
We’re talking attachment styles — the blueprint for how you love, fight, chase, or push people away. If you’ve ever wondered why you’re drawn to emotionally unavailable partners, why you freak out when someone pulls back, or why “secure” feels boring compared to chaos — this episode is for you. We're going down the rabbit hole on: The four attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized) and and why they're so important to identify and understand. Why 75% of relationships involve at least one insecure attachment style How your attachment style isn’t a life sentence — it can shift with the right partner, therapy, or self-work. The messy intersection of attachment styles, love languages, and toxic traits (spoiler: your toxic trait is often the opposite of your love language). How to stop calling anxiety “love” and start seeing security as peace, not boredom. It’s part psych lesson, part roast of my own past dating choices, and part pep talk to stop choosing the bad boy just because he makes your nervous system light up. Secure isn’t boring. Secure is freedom. Get 15% off your Schedule35 orders with code toomuch at Schedule35.co For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com Shop the merch!! Join the muchness on Patreon Follow Too Much: IG TikTok Follow Emma: IG TikTok Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9
Running on three hours of sleep, possible vertigo, and zero filter — this episode goes straight down the rabbit hole of making the first move. Why is it so terrifying to walk up to someone you’re interested in? From caveman survival instincts to modern-day gender norms, Emma breaks down the psychology behind fear of rejection, overthinking, and why we all get stuck in the “what if” loop. But here’s the twist — sometimes shooting your shot can lead to the wildest rewards. Case in point: the infamous Zac Efron story you’ve all been begging Emma to retell. Yes, it involves spilled drinks, secret hallways, a Gabriella Montez dance performance, and a weekend that changed everything. We’re talking confidence, reciprocity, proximity, and why the regret of not trying will always sting worse than a no. Whether you’re a guy paralyzed by the fear of being “creepy”, a girl told making the first move makes you “too much,” or just someone sick of waiting to be approached — this is your pep talk to stop sitting on the sidelines of your own life. It's time to apply Emma's tips to get what you've always wanted. Worse case scenario, you hear a "no." Best case scenario? You walk away with your own Zac Efron story. For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com Shop the merch!! Join the muchness on Patreon Follow Too Much: IG TikTok Follow Emma: IG TikTok Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9
This week on Too Much, Emma sits down for a roller coaster conversation with Lucie Fink — the OG content creator who went from student vlogging at Johns Hopkins in 2010, to being one of Refinery29’s first video stars, to running her own media brand while raising two kids. She’s a video producer, host of The Real Stuff podcast, and a TEDx speaker. Lucie down the rabbit hole about the realities of building a digital career in the spotlight: thin-shaming, being gaslit by comment sections, and most importantly — a tell-all about the time she did what every creator has fantasized about: confronting her internet troll. Not by blocking. Not by clapping back in the comments. By literally inviting her onto a Zoom call to ask why. And the story that unfolds is equal parts wild, heartbreaking, and eye-opening. Consider this your masterclass in human psychology, empathy, and boundaries. If you’ve ever wondered what’s really behind the hate online, this conversation is the closest thing to pulling back the curtain. To watch the video version of this episode, stream it on YouTube Follow Lucy on Instagram or subscribe to her YouTube channel For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com Shop the merch!! Join the muchness on Patreon Follow Too Much: IG TikTok Follow Emma: IG TikTok Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9
Losing friends, making new ones and boyfriends who make you question your worth — today’s episode is a masterclass in calling it like it is. Emma is going down the rabbit hole dug by the stories and questions YOU submitted, from a 20-year friendship imploding over a bridesmaid invite and a boyfriend who weaponized your personality against you, to the friend who always makes you feel like the “backup plan.” We’re talking emotional maturity (or lack thereof), knowing if he's the one, spotting narcissistic tactics and how to walk away — whether it’s from a toxic friend, an insecure partner, or a situationship that’s going nowhere. This one’s equal parts tough love, big sister pep talk, and a reminder that protecting your peace is never the wrong move. *SHOW NOTE* Going forward, video episodes will only be available on YouTube! To watch the episode, stream it here ❤️ For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com Shop the merch!! Join the muchness on Patreon Follow Too Much: IG TikTok Follow Emma: IG TikTok Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9
By popular demand, Hyper-Independence Part 2 is here. In this follow-up to one of our most downloaded episodes, Emma is going even deeper down the rabbit hole into what it really means to be hyper-independent — not just the self-help jargon, but the real-life impact it has on relationships, intimacy, and the ability to let love in. She breaks down the difference between healthy independence and emotional isolation, the invisible alarm bells that go off when someone tries to take care of you, and the subconscious belief that needing anyone equals weakness. Emma also explores the stages of a relationship and how hyper-independence disrupts them, how it overlaps with (but isn’t the same as) avoidant attachment, and why being “low maintenance” is often just a wall dressed up as a compliment. If you’re someone who always says “I’m fine” when you’re not, would rather break your back than ask for help, or is dating someone like that and wondering why they feel emotionally shut out — this episode is your survival guide. Consider this your how-to on letting people in (or lovingly being there for someone who won’t). For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com Shop the merch!! Join the muchness on Patreon Follow Too Much: IG TikTok Follow Emma: IG TikTok Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9
Do you like older guys, or is it daddy issues? That’s the question we’re chasing down the rabbit hole today. In this episode of Too Much, Emma is finally digging into her long history of dating up — from 4 year age gaps to 21 year age gaps — and why she thought she needed an older man to feel safe, stable, or seen. Spoiler: it wasn’t about money, and no, it wasn’t daddy issues either. We’re talking power dynamics, youngest sibling syndrome, emotional unavailability disguised as maturity, and how she confused “having their life together” with “being able to love me.” We’re getting into the psychology of dating down, why confident women are now going younger, and how closing the age gap with Mr. Right changed everything (who may or may not be dropping into the studio today...) Whether you’ve chased silver foxes or swore off Peter Pans, this episode is a deep dive into the real reasons we date outside our age bracket — and why your “type” might be the thing holding you back. For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com Shop the merch!! Join the muchness on Patreon Follow Too Much: IG TikTok Follow Emma: IG TikTok Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9
This week on Too Much, Emma is pulling you out of your delulu spiral and dragging you into the light — because we need to talk about the exhausting obsession with being liked. Emma is breaking down why it’s biologically wired into us (hi, cavemen), how social media hijacked it, and what finally freed her from the trap of performing for approval. From being the girl who never got picked as a bridesmaid to ditching dressing for the male gaze, Emma walks you through the shift that changed everything. If you’ve ever shrunk yourself to fit in, stayed silent to stay liked, or wore butter yellow when you hate it just to match the vibe… this one’s for you. Go down the rabbit hole about confidence, comparison, people-pleasing, and how to stop giving a single f*ck about what anyone thinks. Because being liked by everyone? That’s a full-time job with zero benefits. For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com Shop the merch!! Join the muchness on Patreon Follow Too Much: IG TikTok Follow Emma: IG TikTok Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9
This week’s guest is a creator, producer, entrepreneur, soon-to-be author, and, of course, the Queen of Confidence — Serena f*cking Kerrigan. But, this is not a monarchy and we saved you a seat on the throne. Serena (aka SFK) joins Emma in going deep down the rabbit hole on all things from rejection wounds and confidence as survival, to how SFK was born (and what it’s been like slowly taking the mask off). The two swap stories about dating as a woman with a big personality, finding someone who doesn’t try to dim you and so much more. If you’ve ever been told you’re intimidating, too loud, too opinionated, too ambitious, or just “too much”… this episode will hit. Hard. Want more of Serena, her show and card game? Click here Follow Too Much: IG TikTok Follow Emma: IG TikTok Shop the merch!! Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com
If you’ve ever wondered why you chase emotionally unavailable people, why you jump ship the second someone gets too close, or why “I’m fine” is your go-to lie — this one’s for you. In this week’s raw (and unexpectedly tearful) episode, Emma goes down the rabbit hole about the real root of her abandonment issues. And spoiler: it wasn’t her parents. From revolving-door relationships and friendships to feeling utterly disposable, she pieces together the wounds that shaped her attachment style, hyper-independence, and her constant need to prove she's worth staying for. But per usual, Emma leaves you with how she’s working through it and all the ways you can give little inner you the big hug they need. Shop the merch!! Join the muchness and get exclusive content, discounts and hangs with Emma on Patreon Follow Too Much: IG TikTok Follow Emma: IG TikTok Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com
We are BACK with another episode of Ask Emma where she answers the unfiltered questions you guys send in — completely off the cuff. This week, Emma’s going down the rabbit hole on everything from the friendship breakups lacking closure to porn addictions ruining a relationship. She’s giving her two cents on where to actually meet people IRL when the apps are flopping, the difference between looking confident and being confident, and the real reason you may have trouble meeting someone. Whether you’re overthinking alone time, spiraling about that ghosted group chat, or just need a reminder that “right person, wrong time” is a lie we tell ourselves — this one’s got it. Merch is live, energy is high, and Emma’s got thoughts. Shop the merch!! Follow Too Much: IG TikTok Follow Emma: IG TikTok Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com
What do Navy SEALs, Halloween, and an accidental acid trip have in common? Emma, apparently. In this episode of Too Much, we go all the way down the rabbit hole and into the power of the mind — what it is, why it works, and how to actually use it instead of spiraling into chaos. Emma breaks down the the psychology behind thought loops, all the ways she masters her mind and tools you can use to train yours. Plus, she shares the most wild story of her life, where she really put the power of her mind to the test. This isn’t manifestation. This is mental discipline. Control your thoughts, reframe your reactions, and learn how to literally brainwash yourself into surviving your breakup, your hangover, or just your Sunday night existential spiral. Shop the merch!! Follow Too Much: IG TikTok Follow Emma: IG TikTok Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com Disclaimer: This story, although factual, is shared for entertainment purposes only — I do not endorse or recommend the use of psychedelic substances, especially in unsafe or uncontrolled environments like airplanes.
You know what’s harder than walking away from a toxic relationship? Walking away from one that looks perfect on paper — but leaves you questioning your worth every damn day. In this episode, we're going down the rabbit hole of why we stay too long, how to finally walk away, and what happens when you actually do. From relationships to friendships to business partners who drain your joy like a full-time job, Emma breaks down the psychological traps (hi, sunk cost fallacy), the excuses we keep recycling, and the moment everything in your body screams go. This is the episode for anyone who’s ever thought, “But maybe it’ll get better…” Let this be your sign, your slap, and your permission to choose yourself — louder, sooner, and without apology. This one’s not just about leaving — it’s about coming back home to your damn self. Shop the merch!! Follow Too Much: IG TikTok Follow Emma: IG TikTok Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com
She kept quiet when the internet thought it had all the answers. Now, two years later, Gigi Paris is telling her story — on her terms. Today, Gigi breaks her silence for the first time since the very public unraveling of her four-year relationship with a certain A-list celebrity ex. This isn’t just a breakup story — this is a masterclass in self-worth, restraint, resilience and taking back the narrative. Cheating rumors, the call that changed everything, and fresh headlines surfacing all over again — Gigi addresses the questions that still remain on everyone’s mind. But most importantly, she shares her honest experience of what it felt like to have her relationship become PR collateral, why she chose to wait to respond rather than react, and how she’s thriving today. Because yes, sometimes the most graceful thing you can do is say nothing — but the most powerful thing you can do is finally speak. Follow Gigi Shop the merch!! Follow Too Much: IG TikTok Follow Emma: IG TikTok Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com Disclaimer: The views and experiences shared in this episode are personal and reflect the guest’s own perspective and opinions. This conversation is not intended to make any factual claims about any other individuals involved.
Consider this episode your detonation. We’re going DEEP down the rabbit hole (like “$5K ring on a first date” deep) into the psychological mindf*ck that is love bombing — what it is, how it shows up, and why even the savviest among us can fall for it when it’s wrapped in compliments, constant texts, and Paris plane tickets. Emma is breaking down the sneaky ways it appears, her wildest love bombing story, and how to avoid the emotional whiplash by setting some bomb-proof boundaries. Whether you've been love bombed, done it yourself, or just want to avoid getting trapped in fantasy disguised as romance — this one is for you. Follow Too Much: IG TikTok Follow Emma: IG TikTok Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 For collaborations and opportunities, email: emmapaigeteam@unitedtalent.com
Let’s clear something up: not everyone you hate is a narcissist. And not everyone you love isn’t. This week, Emma is going down the rabbit hole of actual narcissism — in platonic and romantic relationships. What it is, what it isn’t, and how to spot the difference between someone who’s just selfish… and someone who’s clinically manipulative. And this is just PART ONE. From love bombing and future faking to victim-playing and covert sabotage, we're going through the key red flags and the psychology behind why it’s so hard to walk away from someone who keeps you craving the highs. Shop the merch!! Follow Too Much: IG TikTok Follow Emma: IG TikTok Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 For collaborations and opportunities, email: emmapaigeteam@unitedtalent.com
This week, we're going down the rabbit hole about the rabbit hole. The one we go down when we see everyone’s getting engaged, having babies, buying homes... and you’re over here just trying to find your phone. Emmas' diving into the psychological chaos of comparison, the pressure of timelines, and the positive pregnancy test that changed her perspective forever. From biological clocks and made up milestones to redefining success on your own terms — this one’s for anyone who’s ever felt behind, panicked, or like their life isn’t happening “on time.” It’s not about being picked — it’s about choosing. And the next chapter of your life can start any damn minute. Follow Too Much: IG TikTok Follow Emma: IG TikTok Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 For collaborations and opportunities, email: emmapaigeteam@unitedtalent.com
You hope he’ll text you. You hope he’ll change. You hope the mixed signals mean something good. Let’s be real: you’re not hopeful — you’re in denial. This week, we're joined by dating coach, podcaster, and professional bullshit-caller, Sabrina Zohar, to unpack the psychology behind clinging to potential in dating. We talk dopamine addiction, Disney delusions, and the brutal difference between healthy optimism and emotional procrastination. Sabrina and Emma (two “too much” girls turned thriving adults) break down how to stop mistaking inconsistency for compatibility, how to grieve what never actually existed, and how to stop handing out CEO roles in your life to people who haven’t passed the first interview. If you've ever romanticized a walking red flag or stayed just because "there’s potential," this one’s for you. Stream The Sabrina Zohar Show Follow Sabrina: IG and TikTok Follow Too Much: IG and TikTok Follow Emma: IG and TikTok Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 For collaborations and opportunities, email: emmapaigeteam@unitedtalent.com