In this thought-provoking episode of "Diving Deep with Destin: Sex, Love, and Evolution," Destin Gerek welcomes Ben Raya, a menswear coach and tantra facilitator, to delve into the complex dynamics of male safety, societal perceptions, and the defensive postures men often adopt when confronted with women's fears and experiences. The discussion explores why many women state they would feel safer encountering a bear in the woods than a man, what this reflects about our society, and how men can engage in meaningful self-reflection and change. This episode challenges listeners to think deeply about gender dynamics, safety, and the role of men in creating a more empathetic and secure world for all.

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Key Insights:

• The societal implications of women's expressed preference for the safety of encountering a bear over a man.

  
  



• Reflecting on the defensive reactions of men when facing criticisms related to women's safety and experiences.

  
  



• Encouraging a deeper, introspective look at masculinity and how it shapes interactions and perceptions in society.

  
  

Notable Quotes:

• "Boys argue about whose fault it is. Men show up to help hurting people."

  
  



• "Women don't feel safe around men. Not because all men are bad, but because enough men are bad and they don't know who's who."

  
  



• "This is about so much more than whether or not you personally are safe or if bears in general are dangerous. This is about hearing the experience of women."

  
  

Timestamps:

00:03:10 - Introduction to Ben Raya and the bear versus man safety debate

00:14:50 - Analyzing societal perceptions and personal reactions to women's fears

00:25:35 - Discussing the role of introspection in addressing and changing harmful narratives

00:37:00 - Exploring practical steps for men to engage in transformative self-awareness

00:48:15 - Insights from Ben on facilitating change and understanding within men

01:02:20 - Wrapping up: How men can actively contribute to creating safer spaces

Guest Bio:

Ben Raya is a mens coach and tantra facilitator known for his thoughtful approach to gender dynamics and safety. His work focuses on helping men understand and shift their perceptions and behaviors, fostering safer and more respectful environments. Ben’s insights offer profound shifts in perspective, challenging men to better themselves and the world around them.

Connect with Ben:

IG: @itsbenraya 

Website: https://www.samavetaliving.com/

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