Because of life choices, lack of confidence in myself, and a poor grasp of the parameters of healthy relationships, at the age of 53, I discovered I did not know who I was.

Suddenly, I discovered that I could not say what I liked, what I wanted in life, what I thought, which opinions were mine and which were those of others.

I was shocked and frustrated, and angry, and my foundation felt like quicksand.  Suddenly, I panicked…I wondered if I was crazy, if I’d lost my self forever.

I was 53!!  I was 53 and felt like a child…a lost child. A frightened child.

I began reading personal growth books, I hired a counselor and a coach. I took classes online and in real life, joined women’s groups online and in real life.  

Eventually, everything fell back into place.  Within a few months, I was feeling better, stronger, more like myself.

Eventually, I started recognizing ME again. I embraced letting go of a lot of negativity and frustration.

Along the way, no matter what is going on, I learned that I am in control.  No one can take advantage of me without my permission.  No one can control me without me having some responsibility in the process.

At 53 I discovered that new beginnings are wonderful things!

One of my coaches suggested doing one new thing a week…something I had never done before.  Some of the things were easy like wearing toe rings and trying thong underwear.  Some were hard and required budgeting, like fly fishing lessons and writing a book.

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