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#11-You Don’t Have to Be Perfect to Feel Worthy

#11-You Don’t Have to Be Perfect to Feel Worthy

Update: 2025-08-20
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You’re not broken.

You’re just caught in a world that keeps asking you to prove you deserve love, rest, joy—anything.

This episode is about that quiet, stubborn belief deep down:

Am I really allowed to feel worthy?

Even when I’m not perfect? Even when I mess up?

I’ve often been seen as someone with high self-worth. But the truth is, worthiness isn’t something you “have” or “don’t have”—it’s something we build, slowly, from within.

In this conversation, we explore:

● Why perfection is a trap

● How self-criticism creeps in from external judgment

● The difference between inner strength and performative confidence

● And how to develop a sense of worthiness that doesn’t rely on approval

This isn’t about quick hacks. It’s about doing the quiet, honest work of meeting yourself—and deciding you’re already enough.

May you walk your path with clarity, face both success and failure with compassion, and know that every step you take is worth it.



00:10 So... what is worthiness, really?

03:39 How our inner belief system and external validation are always tugging at each other

14:10 When you don’t feel worthy, it’s easy to get trapped in the illusion of being “perfect”

15:00 Truth is, the opposite of perfect isn’t failure — our obsession with “perfect” is often just fear in disguise

16:23 We mess up out there, and somehow start doubting ourselves in here

17:10 That harsh inner voice? Watch it. You have every right to ask for what you need

19:06 My “farewell ceremony” wasn’t really about the event — it was about the people who came together

24:29 Flashback to my Chaos Academy speech: the moment I took off my heels and finally got real applause

29:46 Feeling unworthy? Happens to everyone. Seriously.

32:37 About all that talk around getting thinner—do what feels good, aim for health, not just a smaller number

34:41 If it makes me happy and I can afford it (in every sense), I deserve it

39:20 Wanting approval in a relationship? Totally normal — and often tied to our sense of worth

42:50 Talk to yourself kindly. Feel your feelings. And let yourself be human

45:32 Go live. Go feel. Every moment is part of your story

46:53 Take a closer look — especially when it comes to the hard stuff in close relationships

49:44 Worthiness vs. being a little too much — how to tell the difference?

50:24 See what’s really going on, face it head-on, then do the work to grow from it

51:23 The truth might stir the pot, but it also sets people free

56:07 Success, failure — they’re just pebbles on the path. Every step still counts

BGM: It’ll Be Alright


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#11-You Don’t Have to Be Perfect to Feel Worthy

#11-You Don’t Have to Be Perfect to Feel Worthy

Tianzhen Yang