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111. How to Decenter Men While Dating & In Love (Stop Losing Yourself)

111. How to Decenter Men While Dating & In Love (Stop Losing Yourself)

Update: 2025-11-20
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If you keep losing yourself the moment you like someone… this video will change your dating life.

Today we’re talking about how to decenter men while dating and in a relationship — so you can stop worrying about whether he likes you and start focusing on whether he’s aligned with you.


In this video, we cover:

✨ What it really means to “center a man”

✨ Why women lose themselves when they catch feelings

✨ How conditioning, trauma, and scarcity mindsets impact dating

✨ How to stay grounded, confident, and self-led

✨ How to maintain your routines, boundaries, and identity

✨ How to date without anxiety, overthinking, or performing

✨ How to keep decentering men inside a relationship

✨ The mindset shifts that help you stop chasing male validation

✨ What healthy attraction feels like vs. anxious attachment

✨ How to evaluate men instead of auditioning for them


This isn’t about being cold or detached — it’s about being whole.

Decentering men is not anti-men. It’s pro-you.


If you want to build a meaningful life and healthy relationships, this video is your guide.


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111. How to Decenter Men While Dating & In Love (Stop Losing Yourself)

111. How to Decenter Men While Dating & In Love (Stop Losing Yourself)

Kindall D.