In this powerful episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton explore the quiet, often unnoticed habit of self-betrayal—the moments when we say “yes” to others while saying “no” to ourselves. Whether it's to avoid conflict, gain approval, or protect a fragile connection, self-abandonment can masquerade as kindness while silently eroding trust, peace, and authenticity.

Jason and Lauren unpack the mindsets that often drive this behavior—like the belief that it's selfish to have needs, or that disappointing others is dangerous. With wisdom, compassion, and real-life stories, they offer a roadmap back to honest boundaries, emotional integrity, and deeper connection with both self and others.

In This Episode, They Discuss:

• What self-betrayal looks like in daily life and relationships
  
  
• How people-pleasing and performance mindsets take root
  
  
• The difference between peacekeeping and true peace
  
  
• Core beliefs that lead to self-abandonment (“If I say no, I’ll be rejected”)
  
  
• Why honoring your limits is essential to relational and spiritual health
  
  
• Practical language and tools to say no with clarity and compassion
  
  

Reflection Questions:

• Where in your life have you been betraying your own needs to keep the peace?
  
  
• What fear is hiding underneath your yes?
  
  
• What would it look like to practice honest, courageous boundaries this week?
  
  

Listen in and be reminded: You don’t have to disappear to be loved. Wholeness begins where self-betrayal ends.

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