DiscoverI was a Teenage Fundamentalist. An Exvangelical podcast.126 - Sexuality, Shame, and Identity with Cara Flame
126 - Sexuality, Shame, and Identity with Cara Flame

126 - Sexuality, Shame, and Identity with Cara Flame

Update: 2025-07-25
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Troy and Brian engage in a deep conversation with Cara Flame, an Australian experiential and creative arts therapist, about her journey from being a teenage fundamentalist to becoming an advocate for those recovering from religious trauma. Cara tells of her experiences in the Esther Foundation, a Christian Fundamentalist organisation, and how it shaped her views on sexuality, shame, and identity. Cara shares her ongoing struggles with the remnants of purity culture and emphasises the importance of listening to one's body and desires. The conversation also touches on the significance of activism in the deconstruction space and Cara's aspirations for the future, including her writing and performance endeavours.

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Takeaways:

  • Cara Flame shares her journey from fundamentalism to therapy.
  • The Esther Foundation was a cult-like experience for Cara.
  • Cara emphasizes the importance of listening to one's body and desires.
  • Shame from purity culture continues to affect many individuals.
  • Deconstructing beliefs is a lifelong process.
  • Cara's book aims to help others navigate their own journeys.
  • The impact of fundamentalism on identity is profound and lasting.
  • Cara's experiences highlight the need for open discussions about sexuality.
  • Activism in the deconstruction space is crucial for change.
  • Cara encourages others to embrace their true selves and passions.

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126 - Sexuality, Shame, and Identity with Cara Flame

126 - Sexuality, Shame, and Identity with Cara Flame

Kara Flame, Troy Waller, Brian McDowell