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#128: You Did It First! Breaking the Tit-for-Tat Trap

#128: You Did It First! Breaking the Tit-for-Tat Trap

Update: 2025-05-20
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In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo dive into the topic of tit-for-tat arguing and its detrimental impact on relationships. They explore the concept of critical startup moments, blame shifting, and the risks of competitive retaliation. The hosts offer practical strategies for breaking these negative patterns, such as active listening, taking responsibility, and practicing empathy. Drawing on research from John Gottman, they discuss how mindful communication can prevent conflicts from escalating and help build trust and emotional connection. Whether you're facing relationship challenges or seeking to improve your communication skills, this episode provides valuable insights and actionable advice.


Music by epidemic sound.


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Resources : 


Dr. John Gottman - Gottman Institute


https://www.gottman.com/


Dr. Marc Brackett’s Book - Permission to Feel


https://marcbrackett.com/permission-to-feel/


Link:


AFAF Episode #031 - Leading Questions - How to Ask Neutral Questions


https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/b861b25d7ba33bf133fdc9cad3de2a9a

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#128: You Did It First! Breaking the Tit-for-Tat Trap

#128: You Did It First! Breaking the Tit-for-Tat Trap

Dr. Pamela Kreiser