DiscoverLOVE IS FEARLESS#154: Are You Aiming at the Wrong Target? Why Parenting Feels So Hard
#154: Are You Aiming at the Wrong Target? Why Parenting Feels So Hard

#154: Are You Aiming at the Wrong Target? Why Parenting Feels So Hard

Update: 2025-04-09
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Episode Summary:
Parenting is exhausting—but what if the struggle isn’t because you’re doing it wrong, but because you’re aiming at the wrong target? In this episode, we unpack the story of an Olympic athlete who hit the bullseye—but lost everything because he was aiming at the wrong lane. This powerful analogy helps parents recognize how our culture trains us to aim at compliance instead of wholeness—and why that’s a costly misalignment.
 
If parenting feels like a constant battle to "get it right," this episode will help you reframe your target and find a path that leads to peace, connection, and lasting transformation.

You're in the Right Place If...
✔ You feel exhausted trying to get your kids to listen and obey.
✔ You wonder why your best efforts still lead to tension at home.
✔ You’re looking for a way to parent that brings peace, not pressure.

Key Takeaways:

🎯 The Target Determines Everything – If we aim at compliance, we might get short-term results but miss long-term maturity. The right target is wholeness through transformation.

💨 Stress Shrinks Perspective – When we’re overwhelmed, we default to control. But pressure and compliance don’t create maturity—they hijack it.

🌱 Maturity happens through trust, not control.

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📖 Transformational vs. Transactional Relationships – Why parenting is about more than "just getting kids to behave."
📖 The Way of Jesus vs. The Way of the World – The parenting shift that changes everything.

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Take the Next Step:
💡 Pause and reflect. Where am I aiming? Am I focusing on behavior or cultivating a secure connection?
📝 Journal Prompt – Where does stress cause me to default to control? What small shift can I make today to trust God in my parenting?
🎙 Share Your Thoughts! – Leave us a review or share this episode with a friend who needs encouragement.

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#154: Are You Aiming at the Wrong Target? Why Parenting Feels So Hard

#154: Are You Aiming at the Wrong Target? Why Parenting Feels So Hard

Doug and Janet Newberry