When you listen to your friends’ success, or a moment of glory, do you find yourself jealous, if only a bit?

I had recently talking to friend with a podcast – he was telling me about this great spike of growth, and I couldn’t help myself feeling not only jealous:

Feeling out of my depth. I don’t even belong here! Why I’m getting things wrong…

All these questions, and doubts, they start circling, until you start giving them space – to be here, to be present, make us question, check in with ourselves…

And this moment of letting you notice discomfort, and to let yourself notice these feelings come up is the moment when you begin taking control.

You are now in a place where the worries of not being enough are okay – it is okay to feel them.

It’s fine. They are here. And these feelings are normal. I can handle it. Yes, I’m okay.

This requires a lot of ourselves because here you admit that you are not perfect.

You are human! With doubts, and concerns, and yet also with dreams, and with hopes, and with struggles, and the moments you try, and you fail, and figure things out…

It’s accepting what you know all along – you don’t need to be perfect.

You can just be yourself.

It is more than enough!

It’s in moments like these that we start seeing ourselves in a kind way, without pressure, when you can be real.

That is brave, my friend, to let yourself FEEL the feelings, whatever comes up!

You’re in charge of your feelings, and not they – of you.

You have gone further, much further in life than you give yourself credit for!

We all have our own path, our own story – you have yours, and I do have mine.

We cannot compare ourselves in a fair way, but we can be kind.

Kind in a way that makes you feel about yourself, and about others.

Kind in a way that takes in our whole self, not just the bits that we like.

Kind in a way that doesn’t make yourself victim, or scapegoat, or someone at fault.

That’s what I take on this week on the podcast – how you can compare yourself in a kind way:

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