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158. Fight, Apologise, Repeat: Breaking the Cycle of False Hope

158. Fight, Apologise, Repeat: Breaking the Cycle of False Hope

Update: 2025-10-01
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Fight, Apologise, Repeat: Breaking the Cycle of False Hope


If you’ve ever felt stuck in the cycle of conflict and reconciliation, the fights that leave you questioning everything, followed by apologies that flood you with hope, this episode is for you.


Because while those moments of reconnection can feel powerful, they don’t always mean real change is happening. Sometimes, they just keep you hooked in a painful loop of false hope.


In this episode, I’ll explore:



  • Why the fight–make up cycle feels so addictive (hint: it’s not just emotional, it’s chemical).

  • How these constant highs and lows erode trust and clarity.

  • The difference between hope with evidence and hope based on words alone.

  • Practical ways to spot the cycle and start breaking free.

  • Why compassion is essential, both for the betrayed partner and the unfaithful one.


If you’re tired of riding this emotional rollercoaster, this conversation will give you the clarity to see the cycle for what it is, and the courage to choose something different.


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158. Fight, Apologise, Repeat: Breaking the Cycle of False Hope

158. Fight, Apologise, Repeat: Breaking the Cycle of False Hope

Luke Shillings