DiscoverCouples Healing From Pornography Addiction209: You Feel Pressure to "Do Better" But You Don't Have a Plan – Steal Mine
209: You Feel Pressure to "Do Better" But You Don't Have a Plan – Steal Mine

209: You Feel Pressure to "Do Better" But You Don't Have a Plan – Steal Mine

Update: 2025-08-14
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Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use?


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Episode show notes:


If you’ve been stuck in the cycle of porn addiction—telling yourself “this is the last time” only to fall back into old habits—you are not alone.


In this episode, we break down one of the most common reasons men stay trapped in pornography: the constant internal pressure to “just be better.”

This episode exposes what I call the Pressure Trap—a mindset that fuels shame, increases the risk of porn relapse, and keeps you stuck in silence.


You’ll learn how to shift out of performance mode and into what actually works—what I call The Clarity Path.


Inside this episode, I’ll walk you through:


✅ Why trying to quit porn with more pressure actually leads to more porn use

✅ How internal shame keeps men stuck in the pornography addiction cycle

✅ Why you don’t have a willpower problem—you have a clarity problem

✅ The 5 essential skills for porn addiction recovery that most men never learn

✅ How to rebuild emotional safety and trust in your marriage after porn

✅ How to break the porn habit loop by meeting the real emotional need

✅ How to stop relying on filters and finally heal from the root cause of porn addiction

✅ The difference between “staying clean” and actually being free from porn


This is not another episode about filters or surface-level tips.

It’s about understanding the deeper emotional patterns behind your porn urges and building the skills that lead to lasting freedom from pornography.

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209: You Feel Pressure to "Do Better" But You Don't Have a Plan – Steal Mine

209: You Feel Pressure to "Do Better" But You Don't Have a Plan – Steal Mine

Sam Tielemans, LMFT