Is mastering marriage like mastering a martial art?

In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell speaks with Quentin Hafner, marriage therapist and author of Black Belt Husbands, about how to be a better husband through discipline, self-awareness, and vulnerability. 

Drawing from his background in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, Quentin shares how the principles of humility, emotional safety, and consistency strengthen marriages and deepen intimacy. This conversation offers a powerful framework for couples who want to build emotional resilience, mutual respect, and lasting love.

If you've ever asked yourself how to be a better husband, this episode will change your perspective. 

 

Key Takeaways

• The Black Belt Mindset: How martial arts principles apply to marriage growth and mastery.

• Humility & Self-Awareness: Foundational traits for becoming a better husband and partner.

• Vulnerability Builds Connection: Why emotional safety leads to deeper intimacy.

• Mentorship & Male Friendship: The value of support and guidance in men's relational growth.

• Forgiveness & Faith: How grace and humility sustain a thriving marriage.

About Quentin

Quentin Hafner is a licensed marriage therapist and men's coach. For nearly two decades, he's been walking alongside husbands and couples who feel stuck, disconnected, or unsure how to fix what's broken at home. Quentin is also the author of Black Belt Husband and has helped thousands of families rewrite their story of marriage.

 

Website: www.quentinhafner.com 

Black Belt Husband Website: www.blackbelthusband.com 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/quentin_hafner/

 

 

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