258 - Using Brain Science to Increase Self-Esteem with Dr. Simone Alicia
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Michelle Grocer interviews Dr. Simone Alicia, a self-esteem expert, on the Calm Mom podcast. They discuss the importance of self-esteem and self-love, and how these concepts are often misunderstood. Dr. Alicia explains that self-esteem is about how we think and feel about ourselves, and that these two elements are crucial for living a fulfilling life. She shares her personal story of how she developed a strong sense of self-esteem, despite facing challenges in the modeling industry. Dr. Alicia introduces the concept of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and how it can be used to reprogram our minds to create positive outcomes. She emphasizes the importance of understanding the "why" behind NLP techniques, rather than simply following instructions. Dr. Alicia also discusses the role of emotions in NLP and the importance of allowing ourselves to feel our emotions fully, rather than trying to bypass them. She shares a powerful story about how she learned to embrace her emotions and use them to her advantage. Dr. Alicia then offers practical advice on how to foster healthy self-esteem in children, emphasizing the importance of modeling positive self-esteem for them. She also discusses the importance of uncoupling our self-worth from our achievements and finding our value in our inherent being. Dr. Alicia shares her belief in the power of spirituality and how connecting with a higher power can help us to see ourselves as worthy and valuable. She encourages listeners to tap into their divine self and to spread love and light to those around them. Dr. Alicia concludes the interview by sharing her website and Instagram handle, where listeners can find more resources and connect with her.
Outlines
Introduction
This Chapter introduces Michelle Grocer, the host of the Calm Mom podcast, and her guest, Dr. Simone Alicia, a self-esteem expert. Michelle expresses her excitement for the conversation and introduces Dr. Alicia's work.
Dr. Simone Alicia's Background
This Chapter delves into Dr. Simone Alicia's background, including her nickname "The Self-Esteem Doctor," her family life, and her passion for helping people build self-love and self-esteem.
Self-Esteem and Self-Love
This Chapter explores the concepts of self-esteem and self-love, addressing common misconceptions and the connection to worthiness. Dr. Alicia emphasizes the importance of both thoughts and feelings in shaping our self-esteem.
Dr. Alicia's Journey to Self-Esteem
This Chapter delves into Dr. Alicia's personal journey to self-esteem, highlighting her innate confidence and the challenges she faced in the modeling industry. She shares a powerful story about how she overcame negative feedback and maintained a positive self-image.
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)
This Chapter introduces Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and its role in reprogramming our minds for positive outcomes. Dr. Alicia explains how NLP works by understanding the language of the mind and how our thoughts and pictures affect our feelings and behaviors.
Practical NLP Techniques
This Chapter provides practical NLP techniques for shifting negative thoughts and pictures in our minds. Dr. Alicia emphasizes the importance of understanding the "why" behind these techniques and the role of repetition and consistency in creating lasting change.
Fostering Healthy Self-Esteem in Children
This Chapter focuses on how to foster healthy self-esteem in children. Dr. Alicia emphasizes the importance of modeling positive self-esteem for our children and allowing them to see us working on our own self-esteem.
Unraveling Self-Worth from Achievements
This Chapter explores the importance of uncoupling our self-worth from our achievements and finding our value in our inherent being. Dr. Alicia emphasizes the spiritual element of our existence and the importance of connecting with a higher power.
Keywords
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a model of communication and human behavior that aims to understand how our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are interconnected. It involves techniques for reprogramming our minds to create positive outcomes. NLP is based on the idea that our brains process information through a combination of neurology, language, and programming. It emphasizes the importance of understanding the "why" behind NLP techniques, rather than simply following instructions. NLP techniques can be used to improve communication, build self-esteem, overcome limiting beliefs, and achieve goals.
Self-Esteem
Self-esteem refers to the overall evaluation we have of ourselves. It encompasses our feelings of worthiness, competence, and acceptance. High self-esteem is associated with positive self-image, confidence, resilience, and a sense of purpose. Low self-esteem can lead to negative self-talk, self-doubt, anxiety, and difficulty in achieving goals. Building self-esteem involves challenging negative thoughts, focusing on our strengths, and practicing self-compassion.
Self-Love
Self-love is the acceptance and appreciation of oneself, regardless of flaws or imperfections. It involves treating ourselves with kindness, compassion, and respect. Self-love is essential for mental and emotional well-being. It allows us to set healthy boundaries, prioritize our needs, and cultivate a positive relationship with ourselves.
Dr. Simone Alicia
Dr. Simone Alicia is a self-esteem expert and the founder of The Self-Esteem Doctor. She is known for her work in helping people build self-love and self-esteem through the use of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and other holistic coaching tools. Dr. Alicia is passionate about empowering individuals to live fulfilling lives and to create positive change in the world.
Emotional Scale
The emotional scale, also known as the emotional ladder, is a model that describes a range of emotions from negative to positive. It is often used in personal development and coaching to help individuals understand their emotional states and to identify strategies for shifting to more positive emotions. The emotional scale can be helpful in recognizing patterns of emotional reactivity and in developing emotional regulation skills.
Spiritual Bypassing
Spiritual bypassing refers to the tendency to use spiritual practices or beliefs to avoid dealing with difficult emotions or challenging situations. It can involve suppressing or denying negative feelings, rather than processing them in a healthy way. Spiritual bypassing can be harmful because it can prevent us from fully experiencing our emotions and from addressing underlying issues.
Toxic Positivity
Toxic positivity is the excessive and often forced focus on positive thinking, often to the point of dismissing or invalidating negative emotions. It can be harmful because it can lead to suppression of genuine feelings, avoidance of difficult conversations, and a sense of isolation. True well-being involves acknowledging and accepting all emotions, both positive and negative.
Divine Self
The divine self, also known as the true self, is a concept that refers to the essence of our being, our core identity, and our connection to a higher power. It is often described as a source of unconditional love, wisdom, and guidance. Connecting with our divine self can help us to access our inner strength, to find meaning and purpose in life, and to experience a sense of peace and fulfillment.
The Self-Esteem Doctor
The Self-Esteem Doctor is the name of Dr. Simone Alicia's online academy and website. It offers courses, classes, and resources designed to help individuals build self-love and self-esteem. The academy includes a free library with videos, books, and recommendations on topics related to self-esteem, NLP, and personal growth.
Calm Mom Podcast
The Calm Mom podcast is hosted by Michelle Grocer, a certified master life coach and attorney. The podcast focuses on helping ambitious women find calm and balance in their lives, particularly in the midst of motherhood. The podcast features interviews with experts in various fields, including personal development, mindfulness, and parenting.
Q&A
What is self-esteem and how is it related to self-love?
Dr. Alicia defines self-esteem as the way we think and feel about ourselves. It's not just about positive thoughts, but also about how we feel about ourselves, our lives, our potential, and our capabilities. She sees self-esteem, self-love, self-worth, and self-compassion as interconnected concepts, all contributing to a positive self-image and a fulfilling life.
How can NLP help us improve our self-esteem?
NLP, or Neuro-Linguistic Programming, is about understanding the language of the mind and how our thoughts and pictures affect our feelings and behaviors. Dr. Alicia explains that by understanding how our brains work, we can reprogram our minds to create positive outcomes. For example, we can use NLP techniques to shift negative thoughts and pictures in our minds, which can then lead to more positive feelings and behaviors.
What are some practical NLP techniques for improving self-esteem?
Dr. Alicia suggests a simple technique for shifting negative pictures in our minds: imagine the picture as a chalkboard and erase it with an eraser. This helps to interrupt negative thought patterns and replace them with more positive ones. She also emphasizes the importance of repetition and consistency in practicing these techniques.
How can we foster healthy self-esteem in our children?
Dr. Alicia stresses the importance of modeling positive self-esteem for our children. This means showing them that we value ourselves, even when we make mistakes, and that we are working on our own self-esteem. We can also encourage our children to focus on their strengths and to practice self-compassion.
How can we uncouple our self-worth from our achievements?
Dr. Alicia believes that our inherent being holds value, regardless of our achievements. She encourages us to connect with our divine self, a source of unconditional love and wisdom, to recognize our inherent worth. This can involve practices like prayer, meditation, or simply taking time to appreciate our existence.
What is the role of spirituality in building self-esteem?
Dr. Alicia emphasizes the importance of spirituality in building self-esteem. She believes that connecting with a higher power can help us to see ourselves as worthy and valuable. This can involve practices like prayer, meditation, or simply acknowledging the divine presence in our lives.
How can we spread love and light to those around us?
Dr. Alicia believes that when we are truly in a space of love, we naturally want to share it with others. She encourages us to cultivate a sense of love and compassion within ourselves, and to allow that love to flow out to those around us. This can involve acts of kindness, words of encouragement, and simply being present with others.
What are some resources for learning more about self-esteem and NLP?
Dr. Alicia invites listeners to visit her website, The Self-Esteem Doctor (theselfastemedoctor.com), and to follow her on Instagram (@theselfasteemdoctor). These platforms offer courses, classes, and resources designed to help individuals build self-love and self-esteem.
What is the importance of repetition and consistency in building self-esteem?
Dr. Alicia emphasizes that repetition and consistency are crucial for creating lasting change in our self-esteem. It takes time and effort to reprogram our minds and to shift our thought patterns. By consistently practicing NLP techniques and focusing on positive self-talk, we can gradually build a stronger sense of self-worth.
How can we overcome the tendency to spiritual bypass or engage in toxic positivity?
Dr. Alicia encourages us to embrace all of our emotions, both positive and negative, and to avoid suppressing or denying them. True well-being involves acknowledging and accepting our full range of emotions, and working through them in a healthy way.
Show Notes
What if I told you that there was a science to having confidence and healthy self-esteem?
Today’s guest, Dr. Simone Alicia, is The Self-Esteem Doctor 👩🏾⚕️She’s a self-esteem expert & motivational speaker who is deeply passionate about self-development and nourishing the mental, physical and spiritual well-being of people, especially women.
In today’s episode, she talks us through why we may struggle with self-esteem, how we can start making daily adjustments to our thought patterns, and measurable techniques that can get you on the path to confidence that you deserve.
3 things you’ll learn in this episode:
- Tools and techniques that we can use to improve our confidence and self-esteem
- How we can take stock of our mental, spiritual and physical wellbeing
- How we can help foster healthy self-esteem in our children
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