277: Don't Bank Behavior (Bite Size Nugget)
Description
In this episode, I’m tackling one of the biggest parenting traps—“banking behavior.” You know that thing we all do where we take our kids somewhere special, buy them a treat, and expect them to be good later? Yeah… it never works. I’ll break down why kids can’t “bank” good behavior, why gratitude doesn’t come naturally until much later, and how to manage your own expectations (especially around the holidays).
I’ll also share a story about how real-life exposure—not lectures—teaches kids gratitude. From visiting soup kitchens to understanding homelessness and dementia, this one’s a heartwarming reminder that service, not guilt, builds true empathy.
What to expect:
🎁 What “banking behavior” is (and why it never works)
🧠 Why kids can’t truly feel gratitude until later
❤️ How service—not guilt—builds empathy
🧩 The “magic age” when awareness begins (around 9)
💬 Managing your expectations during the holidays
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