DiscoverThe Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne#278: Sensing the Neeed - Getting Out Ahead Of It
#278: Sensing the Neeed - Getting Out Ahead Of It

#278: Sensing the Neeed - Getting Out Ahead Of It

Update: 2025-09-03
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In this episode, Kim highlights the importance of previewing and “getting out ahead” of difficult moments before they escalate. Whether it’s a grumpy morning with a young child or a teenager returning home with restraint collapse, acknowledging the emotional state early can shift the tone of the day. Rather than ignoring frustration or trying to immediately fix it, Kim encourages parents to calmly name what they see and reassure their child that they are present and supportive. This approach signals safety and understanding, and it helps children feel less alone in their struggles. For teens, he suggests offering flexibility and emotional space, even letting them opt out of dinner or homework when they clearly need to decompress. Asking, “Let me know what you need,” empowers older children and shows trust. These small, anticipatory gestures build connection and trust over time and prevent many conflicts from growing larger.


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#278: Sensing the Neeed - Getting Out Ahead Of It

#278: Sensing the Neeed - Getting Out Ahead Of It

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