278. Love Is Blind Denver Breakdown: Dating Smarter in the Swipe Era

Update: 2025-11-04

Description

"It's not enough to think confident — you have to show it. The inner work matters, but so does the outer energy you project into the world."

— Kimmy Seltzer

In this episode, Kristen M. Olson sits down with Kimmy Seltzer — a therapist-turned-dating-strategist and host of The Charisma Quotient podcast — to dissect modern love in the age of apps, filters, and fast connections.

They explore:

Kimmy's journey from therapist to style-confidence coach and media personality.
Her signature outside-in method for building confidence and attraction.
The connection between appearance, energy, and emotional readiness.
What reality dating shows like Love Is Blind Denver and The Golden Bachelor reveal about our obsession with instant chemistry.
Why rushing the dating process sabotages long-term connection — and how to start "data-dating" instead of "blind-dating."
How to reframe being single as a period of self-alignment, not self-fixing.

Key Takeaway: Confidence is a skill built both internally and externally — when you align your energy, mindset, and presentation, you attract from authenticity, not fear.

Time Stamps:

0:00 – 2:00 | Intro & Welcome

2:00 – 7:00 | Kimmy's background and evolution from therapist to confidence coach

7:00 – 12:00 | The "Outside-In" philosophy: how style transforms mindset

12:00 – 18:00 | Fear, visibility, and dating after reinvention

18:00 – 24:00 | "Love Is Blind Denver" and reality TV's dating illusions

24:00 – 30:00 | The data-dating method: collecting connection clues

30:00 – 35:00 | Confidence, vulnerability, and emotional readiness

35:00 – 40:00 | The future of dating and authentic attraction

Kimmy Seltzer:

Kimmy is a Confidence Therapist, Authentic Dating Strategist and Image Expert. With vast knowledge and experience as a therapist, certified style coach, dating coach, and matchmaker, she has helped people find lasting love and connection, attract success and build valuable relationships using her unique "confidence makeover" process. Using an outside-in approach, Kimmy implements targeted style, emotional and social intelligence in people's lives using her signature formula, "The Charisma Quotient," working on body language, first impressions, image/wardrobe and flirting and how it impacts attraction. This Los Angeles-based expert travels the country helping people discover confidence, charisma and connection as a speaker at TEDx, National Matchmaking Conferences, eHarmony, Neutrogena, The Guild at Universal and UCLA and media appearances in Tamron Hall Show, ABC News, Fox News, NBC News and Inside Edition. Kimmy is also a regular contributor to the Huffington Post with appearances in Cosmopolitan, Oprah Magazine, Redbook, Reader's Digest, AskMen, Fox News Magazine, Yahoo and the Washington Examiner, among a myriad of other publications. Kimmy has been the leading love expert on the traveling live dating show The Great Love Debate, the cable reality series, The Romance. You can also listen to her on her podcast, The Charisma Quotient and regular dating segments on 9NBC News, Colorado & Company and ABC10