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279 - What If The Bravest Thing Is To Keep Showing Up?

279 - What If The Bravest Thing Is To Keep Showing Up?

Update: 2025-10-27
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Some stories punch through the fog. Palmer’s does. He grew up inside a decade of high-conflict divorce, became the “targeted child” of severe alienation, and reached the edge of despair—then found a way back. Today he sits across from tweens and teens as a therapist, turning hard-won insight into practical tools that help kids feel safe, seen, and strong even when the adults around them are at war.

We dig into the subtle ways alienation teaches kids it’s unsafe to love both parents and the everyday moves that reverse it. Palmer shows how to respond when your child repeats a hostile script, how to validate feelings without validating lies, and how to use calm curiosity to keep the door open: “Tell me more. Where did you hear that? What do you think?” We talk about the “long game” of trust, why one attuned parent can buffer long-term harm, and how steady presence beats the most artful parenting plan. You’ll hear research that matters—father involvement predicting outcomes, safe-base parenting supporting brain development—and simple practices you can use this week.

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279 - What If The Bravest Thing Is To Keep Showing Up?

279 - What If The Bravest Thing Is To Keep Showing Up?

Jude Sandvall