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404. Breaking Free From The “Score Keeping” Syndrome In Your Marriage

404. Breaking Free From The “Score Keeping” Syndrome In Your Marriage

Update: 2025-09-30
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In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy dive into one of the most common struggles couples face: keeping score in marriage.

So many couples reach out to us feeling overwhelmed and frustrated because things don’t feel “50/50. in their marriage. One spouse feels like they’re doing more, and resentment begins to creep in. The harder they try to keep score, and keep things equal, the more discouraged and disconnected they become.

When you keep score, you are competing agains each other and no one wins.

We’ll talk about why keeping score is so damaging to intimacy, how it slowly erodes trust and love, and why the more you strive for perfect equality the more disconnected and resentful you will become. We'll share healthier ways to approach balance, teamwork, and appreciation in marriage.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re giving more than your spouse or wondered how to stop the cycle of frustration, this episode is for you. Join us as we uncover how to move away from scorekeeping and toward a marriage filled with gratitude, unity, and joy.

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404. Breaking Free From The “Score Keeping” Syndrome In Your Marriage

404. Breaking Free From The “Score Keeping” Syndrome In Your Marriage