406. Stop Performing Vulnerability: How to Speak From Your Heart Instead of Your Head
Description
2025 didn't ask for transformation, it demanded it.
For me, that meant shedding so many layers of protection and armor to let myself be truly seen.
In today's episode, we go deep on the difference between performing vulnerability and actually letting someone in. Because you say you want intimacy…but are you actually bringing your vulnerability, or are you throwing it like a weapon and calling it connection?
We explore:
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What vulnerability actually means versus performing it or using it as a weapon
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Activiely choosing to go first in vulnerablity and how it can shift your entire relationship and love life, even when it doesn't feel fair - and how to completely shift that resistance entirely
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The art of feminine communication and learning to speak from your heart instead of your head
- The IMMENSE power you as a woman wield in relationship and in the world, and how to use it from a place of deep devotion to love itself
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The four questions you can ask yourself to access true vulnerability with an open heart
- The total energetic shift that makes you more magnetic than ever
- How to exercise more presence and trust with your partner
You'll walk away with tools to access your true needs, speak from the heart, and embrace vulnerability as a source of connection rather than depending on intellectualizing or allowing fears to take over.
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EPISODES REFERENCED
Episode #375: Can You Trust Him More? how to Love and Trust More Deeply
Episdoe #117: The 9 Year Affair: Lessons in Infidelity
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