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#42 Stop ‘Shoulding’ All Over Yourself: How the ‘Shoulds’ Create Clutter

#42 Stop ‘Shoulding’ All Over Yourself: How the ‘Shoulds’ Create Clutter

Update: 2025-10-17
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In this episode of 'Lighten Up: The Art of Living Clutter Free', Melanie Cohen discusses the concept of 'shoulds' as a form of emotional clutter that weighs us down, especially during the holiday season. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing these mental burdens and offers a mindset shift from 'should' to 'could' to alleviate guilt and pressure. The conversation highlights the need to simplify our lives and make choices based on genuine desire rather than obligation, particularly in the context of holiday expectations.


Key Takeaways

  • The 'shoulds' create emotional clutter that weighs us down.
  • Recognizing 'shoulds' helps in understanding personal expectations.
  • Decluttering involves untangling guilt and obligation.
  • The holiday season amplifies feelings of 'should'.
  • You can choose what feels good instead of what you think you should do.
  • Mindset shifts from 'should' to 'could' can alleviate pressure.
  • 'Could' opens up possibilities and reduces guilt.
  • It's important to prioritize genuine desires over societal expectations.
  • Simplifying life can lead to more peace and enjoyment.


Sound bites:

"You don't have to do it all."

"Whose rule is this?"

"Replace should with could."


Chapters:

00:00 The Weight of Clutter: An Introduction

01:38 Understanding 'Shoulds' as Emotional Clutter

04:22 Navigating Holiday Pressures and Expectations

07:06 Transforming 'Should' into 'Could': A Mindset Shift


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#42 Stop ‘Shoulding’ All Over Yourself: How the ‘Shoulds’ Create Clutter

#42 Stop ‘Shoulding’ All Over Yourself: How the ‘Shoulds’ Create Clutter

Melanie Cohen