42. The Psychology of Goal Setting: Flexibility, Identity & Belonging
Description
Why do some goals stick while others fade?
In this episode, psychologist Leila Ainge explores the psychology behind effective goal-setting — blending insights from real conversations with three guests and research on motivation, social identity, and resilience.
You’ll hear how Rebecca, Jen, and Darren each navigate creative ambition, self-belief, and belonging, and how their stories reveal the deeper psychological forces shaping success.
Expect practical reflection points on:
- The difference between approach and avoidance motivation
- Why flexible four-week check-ins outperform rigid plans
- How your social identity shapes confidence and action
- What it means to design goals that fit who you’re becoming
This is your psychology-backed guide to setting goals that work with your identity, not against it.
Ready to stop guessing what’s driving your goals?
Download your free Goal Reflection Log — the first exercise from my psychology-backed coaching framework — and start your next check-in, not check-up.
Create space to think before the new year rush and design goals that actually fit who you’re becoming.




















