45. QUICK RESET: The biggest lie parents believe during school holidays? This is what everyone does
Description
đ¤ Are school holidays not what you imagined? You thought theyâd be fun â but instead youâre tired, burnt out, and blaming yourself for not enjoying them.
In this Quick Reset, Jane unpacks the hidden truth about parenting through school holidays with ADHD: not all mums start the day with the same energy budget. When youâre managing sensory overload, executive dysfunction, picky eating, or kids who refuse playdates, youâre spending double the energy before lunch. This isnât failure. Itâs maths that makes sense to ADHD mums .
What We Cover in This Episode
- Why school holidays feel impossible when ADHD mums start the day in energy deficit
- The âenergy accountingâ metaphor vs spoon theory â and why it finally explains burnout
- Real-life examples: Woolies meltdowns, kids refusing playdates, ARFID challenges
- How sibling fights, meal prep, and simple errands cost double for ADHD parents
- Why the comparison trap is a lie â different baselines, same marathon
- Practical survival strategies: connection anchors, boredom boards, and saying no without guilt
This Episode Is For You IfâŚ
- Youâve felt guilty for not âmaking memoriesâ during school holidays
- Youâve compared yourself to other mums and thought you were failing
- Your kids refuse outings, playdates, or even to leave the house
- Youâre managing ADHD, autism, ARFID, or high sensory needs on top of daily parenting
- You want to see burnout for what it is: biology, not bad parenting
đ FREE Handout on Energy Accounting & Fighting Mum Burnout: Download HERE.
References & Resources Mentioned
- Spoon Theory and Energy Accounting â metaphors for invisible energy budgets
- Dr Devon Price â research on burnout and resilience
- Maggie Dent â on boredom, boys, and creativity
Related ADHD Mums Episodes
- The ADHD Mumâs Guide to Surviving School Mornings Without Tears (Theirs or Yours)
- The Hallway Hook That Saved My Sanity
đ§ Listen now: QUICK RESET: The Biggest Lie Parents Believe During School Holidays â on Spotify, Apple, or adhdmums.com.au
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