"I'm Not Good Enough – Where'd That Go?"

In this deep-dive episode of Personal Development Unplugged, we go straight to the heart of that old familiar belief: "I'm not good enough."
Where did it come from? Why does it stick? And more importantly… how the hell do we finally let it go?

Following on from FMQ 520, we go far deeper — unpacking the real intention behind that belief (yep, your unconscious mind is actually trying to protect you), the conflict it accidentally creates, and how to guide it toward a better way of keeping you safe.

And then… we do the thing.
A guided process — powerful, imaginative, and deeply integrative — designed to dissolve the old belief, honour the intention behind it, and install new, empowering beliefs that actually support you.
Not named, not formal — just a beautifully crafted experience that uses memory, imagination, counterexamples, and emotional safety to shift how you see yourself.

What you'll learn in this episode

• Where "I'm not good enough" really comes from

• Why it is helping you — but in the worst possible way

• How your unconscious mind gets stuck in a loop of "protecting" you by holding you back

• Why perfectionism is just the same belief wearing a different hat

• How to honour the original intention so your unconscious mind joins the team

• How to use imagination + real memories to generate powerful new beliefs

• A full guided process to change how you feel about the past and the future

• How to use this again to reinforce confidence, safety, and inner alignment

• The reminder that you are always more than you think you are

Hypnosis-style process included

Yep — this episode includes a guided inner process (eyes closed, deep focus) allowing you to revisit past experiences safely and then rehearse future success with new beliefs installed.
Not formal hypnosis — but absolutely hypnotic in effect.

Why this episode matters

Because this belief — I'm not good enough — is the quiet saboteur behind so much anxiety, overwhelm, perfectionism, avoidance, and self-sabotage.

When it shifts, life opens up.
You get back your choices, your confidence, your comfort in your own skin.
And your unconscious mind gets to protect you in a far better way.

Takeaways

• Your unconscious mind always means well

• Protection and progress only conflict when the strategy is outdated

• You can change a belief by giving your unconscious mind better evidence and better options

• You don't need to "feel ready" — you need to feel safe

• You can install empowering beliefs now and rehearse a new future

• You're already capable; you just needed access to the right internal resources

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Paul

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And the transcript WARNING if you're a lover of the written word this may make you frustrated, or angry - you have been warned - is it an 'ism

So welcome to this longer podcast with me, Paul, Personal Development Unplugged. And it is unplugged in the way that we're going to do stuff that creates change in your life, okay? And if you were with me on the last FMQ, the five minute quickie, which is now a little bit longer, it was all about, I'm not good enough, where did it come from? We were looking very quickly and easily to find what was the cause of that belief? Because I believe, I'm not good enough, or I don't belong here, or those very general beliefs, because we have them in different areas of our life, came from somewhere else, came from something just below that, a more subtle belief, that are then generalised into different areas of our life. And if you found it, big props, I don't even know what props mean, but big props to you.

 

And, well, congratulations, well done. It means, to me, it means you're really in tune with that, and you did what it takes to get there. But if you didn't, it doesn't matter.

 

Well, it doesn't, no, it doesn't matter at all. Because this is still for you. Because I'm going to cover both people who found their cause, fine.

 

People who didn't, fine. It's just for you. And we haven't done any work, sometimes it disappears when you find the cause.

 

But if you still feel, I'm not good enough, I don't belong here, it's still affecting you, you're just in the right place, you're in the right place to, let's discover some changes, or how to change. But the thing is, I want to ask you a question. I'm not good enough.

 

I don't belong here. Whatever that belief that you have is. Is it doing you any good? Is it doing, I know it doesn't feel good.

 

I know it seems to stop you doing stuff. It's a negative feeling, isn't it? I know it's only a belief, but the feeling you get in your body is not so good. But is it doing anything for you? Do you know why answer is? Hell bloody yes, nearly swore.

 

I'll try not to swear this time, but I probably will. Hell yes. Of course, it's doing some good for you.

 

Because it's your unconscious mind protecting you, keeping you safe. Now you might say, I'm going to swear now, how the fuck is it keeping me safe, Paul? Because it doesn't feel good. And if it doesn't feel good,