In this beautiful conversation we talk all things addiction - whether it be substance abuse, gambling, pornography, or doom scrolling, escapisms or other distractions. As well as how sexual abuse and childhood trauma are all linked and can impact the behavioural patterns in men and how they show up today. If you want to have a better understanding of masculine and feminine energetics as well as the polarity of the 2 and importance - definitely listen to this episode. 

Malcom Fraser (@RisingMasculinity) is a Mens + Couples Psychospiritual Coach who helps with Masculine Alchemy + Primarily supports men in being truly free through deep shadow work.

He explains what shadow work is and how the repressed shadow shows up in your life and relationships, and how uncovering it and identifying in order to transmute it is SO important for your healing journey.

We also talk all things sex, intimacy, connection, lack of connection and disconnect between couples in relationships and how you can best support your partner if you don’t feel you are at the same space in your healing journey. That loving and accepting your partner fully is the most important thing you can do to support them on their journey and so much more. It was. SUCH a beautiful convo and I highly recommend getting your man to also listen in, and opening a discussion about it afterward to share openly and vulnerably with each other. 

Takeaways

• The shadow consists of the aspects of ourselves that we avoid, deny, or don't want others to know about.


• Addiction often stems from a wound that is rooted in shame, guilt, or fear.


• Pornography can be a means of recreating and coping with past wounds, and individuals may eroticize their wounds through their usage of porn.


• Healing the wounded inner child is an important aspect of shadow work and involves understanding and integrating the aspects of ourselves that were repressed or denied in childhood.


• Compassion, self-awareness, and healthy habits are essential in the journey of healing and integrating the shadow. Reconnecting with oneself and creating a safe space for intimacy is crucial in building a healthy sexual relationship.

• Both partners have a responsibility to create a safe and connected space for intimacy.


• Acceptance and patience are key in relationships, allowing each partner to grow and evolve at their own pace.

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