#58. Childhood emotional neglect, shame, and school shootings - A perspective on self-hate - with Coach Ellen Melon
Description
In this episode, I fly solo in offering a different perspective on the Texas School Shooting. Yes, maybe it's gun law reform and yes, it's also hurting children in angry bodies. As more people feel disconnected, they grow angrier. Happy, secure children who have a sense of self don't shoot up schools. It's time to teach people how to process their childhood and FEEL THEIR FEELINGS.
I will discuss:
- My own experience of middle school and high school and what I noticed
- What is emotional neglect and emotional immature parents?
- 10 Themes of emotional neglect
- Mother wound
- Perfectionism as a byproduct of shame
- Belonging & Connection
- Shame, Empathy, Guilt, Humiliation and Embarrassment
- Cultivating authenticity
10 Themes of Emotional Neglect (from Dr Jonice Webbs "Running on Empty" Book):
- Feelings of Emptiness
- Counter-Dependence
- Unrealistic Self-Appraisal
- No Compassion for Self, Plenty for Others
- Guilt and Shame: What is Wrong With Me?
- Self-Directed Anger, Self-Blame
- Fatal Flaw (If People Really Know Me They Won't Like Me)
- Difficulty Nurturing Self and Others
- Poor Self-Discipline
- Alexithymia: Poor Awareness and Understanding of Emotions
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Books discussed:
Running on Empty by Jonice Webb PhD with Christine Musello PsyD
Adult children of emotionally immature parents : how to heal from distant, rejecting, or self-involved parents by Lindsay C. Gibson
Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown
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