Today I discuss the complex issue of dating people for their potential rather than who they currently are. I talk about the importance of self-awareness, and acceptance and how projecting our own goals, fears, and trauma onto our partners can create unhealthy dynamics within the relationship. There's a critical difference between being supportive of a partner's growth and trying to mould them into an ideal vision.

(00:00 ) Introduction and Welcome

(00:55 ) Optimism and Hope

(03:12 ) Projecting Our Desires and Potential onto Others

(06:23 ) The Role of Trauma

(10:16 ) The Hero Complex and Distraction from Self-Work

(13:42 ) Potential as a Source of Inspiration and Growth

(16:36 ) The Balance of Acceptance and Aspiration

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