Being the default parent isn’t just a title—it’s a full-time, unpaid, and often unappreciated gig. In this episode of Revel in the Chaos, Tara Schifsky rips the curtain off the invisible workload that keeps households running while leaving parents (mostly moms) running on fumes. From the guilt trips to the double standards, she gets real about the emotional toll, the unspoken expectations, and the constant mental juggling act. But it’s not all school drop-offs and snack wars —Tara also dives into reclaiming balance, setting boundaries, and finding the power in owning the role (without letting it own you). Tune in for a brutally honest, slightly cathartic, and refreshingly unapologetic take on the reality of being the “default” parent.

TAKEAWAYS

• The podcast addresses the often unspoken challenges of parenting.
• Tara shares humorous anecdotes about her children's funny remarks.
• Being the default parent comes with an invisible workload that is exhausting.
• The pressure to perform and maintain a perfect household can lead to guilt.
• Tara discusses the double standards in parenting roles between partners.
• Open communication within the family is essential for addressing imbalances.
• Setting boundaries is crucial for managing the overwhelming responsibilities of parenting.
• It's important to recognize and appreciate the role of the default parent.
• Tara emphasizes that it's okay to feel overwhelmed and seek help.
• Finding joy in parenting amidst the chaos is possible.

CONTACT

Instagram: @revelinthechaos_official

Facebook: Revel in the Chaos

Email: taraschifsky@gmail.com

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to the Chaos

02:11 The Default Parent Dilemma

09:29 The Invisible Workload

14:49 Navigating Guilt and Expectations

17:43 Understanding the Default Parent Role

21:57 Planning and Preparation for Trips

24:25 Navigating Travel and Freedom in Relationships

27:30 The Double Standards of Parenting

31:50 The Invisible Workload of the Default Parent

39:32 Creating Balance and Equity in Family Responsibilities

43:49 Embracing the Role of the Default Parent

KEYWORDS

parenting, motherhood, default parent, mental health, family dynamics, parenting struggles, work-life balance, guilt, parenting humor, family responsibilities