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78: Two Realities: When Truth, Trauma, and Denial Collide

78: Two Realities: When Truth, Trauma, and Denial Collide

Update: 2025-12-04
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Why don’t you and your partner agree on “what really happened”? In early recovery, trauma, shame, and denial collide — creating two completely different versions of reality that both feel true.

Luke explains:

• Trauma logic & worst-case thinking

• Denial fog & fragmented memory

• Why accuracy evolves in recovery

• How to validate without agreeing

• The 3-part integrity check that rebuilds trust

Tune in for a grounded, compassionate episode for couples healing from betrayal.

Chapters

  • 01:51 Understanding the Betrayed Partner’s Reality

  • 03:16 Exploring the Betraying Partner’s Reality

  • 05:30 Navigating Conflicting Realities

  • 06:32 Redefining Accuracy in Early Recovery

  • 12:33 Integrity Checks and Empathic Validation

  • 17:03 Season of Support Webinar 

Register Now!

  • Season of Support - Join us for a 4-week webinar series designed specifically for couples who want to stay connected, emotionally regulated, and intentional during the holidays — rather than simply surviving them. December 1, 8, 15, 22. Register to receive the Zoom link.

  • Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica: Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. Spots are limited so register early!

  • Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Jan 27-30, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. 

  • We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. 

Connect With Us:

  • Learn more about Luke here

  • Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

  • Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! 

  • Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services   

Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

  • Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

  • Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

  • Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

  • Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. 

  • Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

  • Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

  • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com


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78: Two Realities: When Truth, Trauma, and Denial Collide

78: Two Realities: When Truth, Trauma, and Denial Collide

Luke Gordon with Choose Recovery Services