When we talk about sexual assault, we often dance around the topic. We use euphemisms, passive language, and subtle victim-blaming that shifts focus away from perpetrators. Tracy DiTomasi, CEO of Callisto and a licensed clinical social worker with 25 years of experience in gender-based violence, refuses to participate in this societal avoidance.

Throughout our conversation, Tracy clarifies the often-confused terminology surrounding sexual violence while challenging widespread myths. She explains why sexual assault isn't about sex but power and control, why survivors frequently freeze during attacks rather than fighting back, and why we struggle to reconcile when respected individuals commit sexual violence. Most importantly, she addresses why our systems continue to fail survivors, highlighting how the burden of accountability unfairly falls on those who've been harmed.

The most groundbreaking portion of our discussion focuses on Callisto, a nonprofit technology platform Tracy leads that's revolutionizing how survivors can find justice on their own terms. Using end-to-end encryption, the platform allows anyone with a .edu email address to securely record information about their perpetrator. If another survivor enters matching information about the same person, they can be connected through a confidential advocate who explains their options if they so choose. 

Whether you're a survivor seeking resources, someone supporting a loved one who's experienced sexual violence, or simply committed to creating a safer world, this episode provides crucial insights into the complex reality of sexual assault and the innovative solutions emerging to address it. Listen, share, and join the movement to change how we respond to sexual violence.

Tracy’s Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/tracy-detomasi/

https://www.projectcallisto.org/

https://www.instagram.com/callisto?igsh=MTZudXJ2bHVnNjN2Yg%3D%3D

https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracydetomasi/

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe