Wellness psychology teaches that we humans want to be heard and accurately understood by others.  Whether we wish to be known for the "real" us or some modified version is always an individual's personal choice.  Just because you and I want to know someone does not guarantee that this individual wants to be known by others or by me specifically.

They may also want to be known generally but not in specific life areas.  After listening to many life stories over the years, one can learn there are many foundations on which a person may decide to view personal information as worthy to be a "secret".  Listening to personal secrets can be a responsibility for us to communicate effectively:  Do I want to accept this responsibility of learning and maintaining your secrets?