In this continuation episode, I’m back with Dr. Bill Stixrud for part two of our discussion that digs into the realities of raising kids in high-pressure academic environments. We explore the subtle yet powerful concept of being a “non-anxious presence” as a parent and what that really means when guiding children through challenges. Bill and I touch on real stories from our practices and new strategies that emphasize motivation without pushing too hard—helping kids build resilience, autonomy, and self-confidence in a world brimming with expectations. 

Episode Highlights:

[0:00 ] Introduction to being a “non-anxious presence” and its impact on children.
[2:00 ] The evolving understanding of managing kids' anxiety and why avoiding stressors doesn’t help.
[5:30 ] A powerful story about test anxiety and breaking the cycle of fear-based motivation.
[8:15 ] Why taking the long view on a child’s development can alleviate immediate parental stress.
[10:45 ] The superhero analogy: overcoming struggles as a source of confidence and growth.
[12:50 ] Fourth principle: motivating kids without trying to change them, exploring self-determination theory.
[15:00 ] The SPACE program and supportive parenting techniques that work without direct intervention.
[17:35 ] Real-life success stories from using supportive statements to build independence.
[19:45 ] How motivational interviewing can shift conversations from conflict to collaboration. 

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