This episode of the "Takes Two" podcast, featuring Clarissa Mace LMFT, delves into the evolution of trait preferences in partners and the implementation of the A.R.E. model in relationships for enhanced emotional safety and trust. The discussion begins with a fascinating exploration of a 13-year study on partner preference traits, revealing that while some traits like attractiveness may diminish in importance over time, others such as trustworthiness and status grow more significant.

The conversation then shifts to the A.R.E. model, created by Dr. Sue Johnson, which stands for Accessibility, Responsiveness, and Engagement. This model is a powerful tool for couples to deepen their bonds by ensuring they are emotionally present, responsive to each other's needs, and engaged in their relationship.

The podcast offers practical advice for couples to enhance accessibility and responsiveness in their relationship, such as setting expectations for availability and being present during interactions. The episode also explores the importance of emotional risks and mutual trust in the 'Engaged' component of the A.R.E. model.

To help couples apply these concepts, the episode concludes with innovative date ideas and connection questions, designed to foster deeper intimacy and understanding between partners. These activities encourage couples to discuss and explore how they can be more accessible, responsive, and engaged in their relationship.

Overall, the episode provides valuable insights and actionable advice for couples looking to strengthen their relationship and build a deeper, more secure emotional connection.


"It Takes Two," is a candid discussion where we, Licensed Couples Therapist Clarissa & Marketing Professor Charles, delve into the intricacies of relationships, mental health, and the peculiarities of pop culture.

This channel is produced by Utah Marriage and Family Therapy Clinic PLLC. https://UtahTherapyClinic.com.

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