Andrew G. Marshall is a well known marital therapist and I sat down with him to discuss the grief he felt following his father’s death. His understandings are rooted in his decades as a therapist and have a particular clarity I think many of you will find helpful.

In this episode, we discuss:

• How the death of a parent in old age is still a big psychological event and brings up many related losses which are often unrecognised. 


• The power of the unconscious, how we can limit who we are and how we are in the world when we only focus on our conscious lives. 


• For those with parents who are still alive, this episode is a timely reminder to have those important conversations before they die - don’t pretend they are immortal. 


• Be patient with friends and family - allow time, space, commit, endure and try again if they are resistant. 


• The power that rituals hold and how they can help us to move through the pain.


• Finally how, despite our fear, when we walk towards our pain that is when we can heal. It takes courage, but fear is exhausting and pervasive and this is a route to releasing yourself from it. 

I won’t spoil the drama in this episode but suffice to say there are some big surprises - to do with wolves, rituals and tattoos…! 

Support links:

Grief Works app: https://apps.apple.com/gb/app/grief-works-self-care-love/id1558867513

Grief Works book: https://juliasamuel.co.uk/books/grief-works

Feel The Fear and Do it Anyway book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Feel-Fear-Anyway-Indecision-Confidence/dp/0091907071

Find Andrew G. Marshall:

Website: https://andrewgmarshall.com/

Podcast: https://andrewgmarshall.com/podcasts/

Find Julia:

Website: https://juliasamuel.co.uk/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/juliasamuelmbe/

A big thank you to Youth & Earth for sponsoring this episode. Head to www.youthandearth.com now and take advantage of a very generous 25% off when using the code JULIA25 on your first order. 

Produced by Georgie Rutherford

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