When it comes to queer connections, we haven't always had the prominent culture we know today. In fact, gays over 30 probably know that the only compass available to help navigate these connections were our Basic Instincts.

Whether it's flirting, finding lasting friendship or just understanding the rules of gay friends with benefits, there are spoken and unspoken rules...most of which we learn by trial and error. The truth is, behind what can look like ordinary sexuality at play is a world unknown to many but masterfully designed by queers like us.

This episode takes a long look at the instinctual, the intentional and even the impossible lengths we can sometimes go to feel like we are wanted and that we belong.