Sisters and Cousins: A Simple Way to Know Where Everything Belongs

One of the biggest challenges in organising isn’t the sorting or the tidying — it’s that moment when you’re holding something in your hand thinking, “But where should this actually live?”

If you’ve ever felt that, you’re not alone. And I want to share a little framework I use that might make things instantly clearer for you: I call it Sisters and Cousins.

Sisters: Same-Same Items

When I say “sisters,” I’m talking about items that are exactly the same. Think about all your teaspoons, or all your bed sheets, or all your scissors. These are sisters — the same family, the same purpose. Sisters belong together, usually in the same drawer, the same shelf, or the same container.

And here’s the beautiful part: you already do this without thinking. When you bring home a new teaspoon, you don’t wander around wondering where it should live. You automatically place it with its sisters. The system already works for you — you just may not have had language for it before.

Cousins: Same-Same, But Different

Cousins are items that aren’t identical, but they make sense together in real life. Scissors and sticky tape. Light bulbs and batteries. Towels and sheets. These aren’t sisters… but they definitely belong in the same neighbourhood because your brain naturally looks for them together.

When you think in cousins, you make your home work for you. If you use sticky tape and scissors together all the time, keeping them side-by-side isn’t just logical — it saves you time and reduces frustration.

Your Use Determines the Cousin Group

This is the part I love most: cousins can change depending on your lifestyle. A camping chair might belong with camping gear… unless you use it weekly at kids’ sport, or for beach days, or for picnics. The best home for something is the place where you look first — not where the item “should” go.

Try Asking Yourself Two Questions

Next time you’re stuck deciding where something lives, pause for just a moment and ask:

Where are its sisters?

Where are its cousins?

You might be surprised how quickly the answer comes. And with that clarity, your home becomes easier to maintain, easier to navigate, and ultimately… so much more freeing.

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