In this the first episode of The Fat Athlete, I introduce myself and talk about my current sport, Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. I get into a recent competition experience that didn't go as planned, and I reflect on what I learned. I discuss the importance of creating space to say "no" even when you feel like that decision is too far out of reach and reflect on what I could have done differently to help myself. Finally, I give some sage advice on how to advocate for yourself even when you feel like you should accept a situation that you feel like you may have perpetuated and how what you perceive to be true may not always be accurate.