A Black man was lynched in America in 2025.

Let me state, unequivocally, that this episode or us reacting to this story is not intended to position any person in this story as a member of the LGBTQIA+ community.

But Demontre Reed was a Black man and to that end, he could have been me, or any of our listeners, or our brother, or our cousin, or our son. Regardless of his sexuality or ours, we, as Black men have a responsibility to this man’s life.

So Tonight, I’m opening the conversation up from beginning to end as we answer one critical question, “where do we go from here” tonight on Dear Black Gay Men Podcast, and the show starts right now.

We had a whole show tonight about dating.

I don’t run away from the fact we talk sex on this platform, but I’ve been attempting to intentionally broaden our conversations beyond the bedroom.

But I broke down today. I saw pictures of Tre Reed and got mad, then I got upset, then I got sad. So tonight, instead of keeping my feelings all bottled in, I want this to be a safe space for all of us to share whatever may be on our hearts.

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Chapters

[00:00:01 ] Intro and the Death of Trey Reed

[00:01:36 ] A Black Man's Life Lost

[00:03:11 ] The Podcast's Purpose and History

[00:04:19 ] Are We Ready for a Revolution?

[00:06:04 ] Ads and Community Dialogue

[00:10:39 ] The Proximity of Violence

[00:15:37 ] The Desire for Retribution

[00:16:34 ] Coincidences and Past Trauma

[00:22:31 ] A List of the Fallen

[00:25:28 ] The Role of Queer Leaders

[00:31:51 ] Assimilation vs. Equity

[00:44:09 ] Building a Community

[00:56:39 ] Caller: Darren T

[01:03:59 ] Caller: Antoine

[01:18:47 ] Closing Comments and Future Plans

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