Are your relationships and household dynamics feeling out of balance due to money and work stressors? This episode explores insights and strategies for creating equitable and harmonious relationships across financial and domestic spheres. I, along with guest Melissa Hogenboom, dive into the impact of gender dynamics on household responsibilities, power imbalances, and the mental load frequently shouldered by women. We discuss the importance of communication, valuing care work, and sharing responsibilities effectively. Learn practical steps to rebalance efforts in your life and foster a more equitable future for the next generation.

In This Episode, We Explore:

• How societal and childhood gender norms affect our work and money dynamics today.
• The concept of unwise effort versus wise effort in household and workplace settings.
• Tips for effective communication and sharing the mental load in relationships.
• Balancing career, domestic, and finances equitably in relationships.

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Episode 126: Wise Parenting With ACT

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Workshop: The Wise Effort Method at Godmothers

In-Person Workshop: The Wise Effort Method at Godmothers in Summerland, CA. Join clinical psychologist, leadership coach, and creator of the Wise Effort method, Diana Hill, Ph.D., for an inspiring immersion into what it means to put your genius energy where it belongs—on the things that give your life meaning. October 19 @ 11:00 am – 1:30 pm PDT

Wise Effort Method Workshop at Godmothers